How to stop feeling jealous overthinking of someone isn't mine?

[Anonymous]

So i met this guy online, we both started as friends and i really liked chatting to him because he showed efforts and he was always there for me i used to tell him how i feel and about my problems with my family, he always listened to me and made sure to make me smile, i also told him the first day when we started talking as a joke to not treat me kindly or i will get attached to him and become possessive but the more we talked and the more he showed me care and filled me with compliments and attention the more i got attached and in May he told me that he is attached to me aswell so i allowed myself to become more attached and i start to become possessive, i get jealous when he is online and doesn't reply i overthink and tell myself he found a better girl!!

i confessed to him he said that he like me too but he can't be in a LDR. I said its okay we were friends at first so it doesn't bother me aslong as we talk like before.. then we talked abit better than before but then he started to give me late replies, sometimes i send him a text on 16:00 he reply the next day. I got exhausted and took few days to recharge without replying then i replied today.
I'm not that attached to him anymore i guess but i still feel a thing for him deep down, never met a guy like him before. He also said that he may come to my country next year on winter.. I don't know what to do anymore

[ayana_0]

Why u are telling him that he shouldn't be nice to u so u will be attached to him
He may have actually tried to treat you better and make you dependent on him just because you said this to him (this is a possibility).
When you meet men, don't tell them what you are looking for or what you want, not all men, but some men use this situation and try to act like someone you are looking for until they make you addicted to them, that is, they manipulate you.
Simply don't say these things about your self
Also, it may sound difficult when you're in love, I know, but you should have a life of your own, you shouldn't wait for a message from a man on the phone, you'll only upset yourself by thinking like that.
And he clearly told you that he can't have a long distance relationship, in which case you should stay away from him because he will hurt you more and more. If a man already wants you, he will show it to you. A man who gives late and dry answers does not want you

I know it's not easy to do these things, especially when you're in love, but do you think it's better to hurt yourself or to have a life of your own? When someone loves you they will make an effort for you, you won't have to live overthinking

[spartan55]

Why would you tell someone to not be nice to you? You girls are so weird sometimes. Bottom line: you have never met the guy, so you really don't know him.

[Asker]

I told him that cause i get attached so easily when someone treat me kindly

[HumbleDragon]

I was in the same boat as you. But as soon as she told she was speaking to someone special. It turned me off completely and I was able to drop her easily.

[Asker]

The problem is that he keeps saying that he has nobody special at the moment but he told me as soon he get to know someone irl he will tell me

[HumbleDragon]

I believe it’s time for you to move on

[itsannalee]

Stop thinking of them and het your own life.

[itsannalee]

Get your own life

[Asker]

I have my own life aswell lol, but it didn't stop me from thinking

[itsannalee]

If u life well enough u won’t think about something who isn’t your.