Are drunk words really sober thoughts?

[Milady281]

I always wondered if guys are more honest with their words and actions when they are drunk. For example, if a guy is sober never really communicating and acting kinda distant, but he becomes soft and and more romantic when he's drunk, does he say the things he would normally never speak out loud?

[Sammirae]

I've never quite liked that phrase, calling them sober thoughts because I think it isn't as straight forward as that. They are things you wouldn't say in a right state of mind. If someone says an insult while drunk they wouldn't say while sober, it doesn't mean that's how they truly think of you because there's a number of things that can cross their mind and keep them from voicing that such as knowing it's something hurtful or they don't truly believe it. A drunk mind is also a mind that isn't thinking straight so it doesn't have however many steps of cognoscente thought they'd normally put behind anything they do. It's like when you see someone act drunk and stupid and they are adamant they can absolute balance walking along a railing, but end up falling and hurting themself. The closest them doing that is to a "sober thought" is an impulsive call from the void.

For example, I've made a friend endure my ugly sobbing while drunk about being single before and how I'll always be single blah blah blah. While sober it wasn't something I cared about. But a poorly received comment from someone while drunk was enough to send me spiraling because being drunk can, in some people, remove every emotional safeguard they have and turn them into a rollercoaster for their emotions. I've known people who while drunk try to make romantic or sexual passes, but once they sober up it's clear that they are very happy that it didn't work because they weren't thinking properly about what they were trying to do while drunk.

A guy being more romantic only while he's drunk could be for a variety of reasons. For example, it could just be that he thinks certain things are cheesy so he normally doesn't like them, but when he's drunk the things he doesn't like about it aren't bothering him anymore so he just does it. Or they could truly be things he's thought about and is normally too embarrassed to act on.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The idea of “drunk words are sober thoughts” comes from the reality of what happens when we consume larger amounts of ethanol. We’re not completely ourselves and our inhibitions are significantly lowered as we become inebriated. We can’t make the same kinds of decisions we would sober, including decisions about how we communicate. I wouldn’t go so far as to suggest that inebriation gives us a peek into their thoughts, but as we take in ethanol and make these decisions that we otherwise wouldn’t have made because of a lack of impulse control we become a less managed version of ourselves. We all have images of who we are that coincide with our sense of self, and we work to maintain them so others can see that. Alcohol shuts off certain parts of our brains from sending the messages we need to maintain a healthy mind and presence. It can make us more vulnerable that doesn’t necessarily make it a good thing. What you described might sound cute on first glance but the reality is he probably didn’t want to do that in the beginning, he didn’t want to be that person because it shows just how lonely he truly is and I imagine in many circles that’s taken as a sign of being pathetic. He probably will feel a real sense of shame for behaving that way with you, and while it’s good for you to support vulnerability among friends he should also have a say on when he decides to be vulnerable with you, not when he’s drinking.

[Serkee]

In my case, honestly yeah. Alcohol is called liquid courage for a reason. It's hard for me to be romantic in any way when I'm sober, because I'm always second guessing myself and feeling like whatever I do or say is wrong or creepy in some way, so I stay quiet and I don't really speak unless I'm spoken to. I'm not the type of guy girls like to be around, I know. I spend a ton of my time on a date trying to think of the right thing to say, because I'm worried I'll scare the girl off if I don't say exactly the right thing at the right time. A little bit of alcohol helps me with that a lot, and softens those inhibitions a bit.

[Purpleronnie]

I would agree that both men and women are more uninhibited after some alcohol but drunk mostly incoherent. People also use it as an excuse of their actions or words so in reply to your question … maybe 🤔 but drunk words are for the most part not to be trusted in my opinion and experience in comparison to those made sober and rationally. The uninhibited may speak from their heart or gut and you may get “more” information but it’s laced with emotion affected by the alcohol either positively or negatively.

[Account]

Sometimes yes. It is kind of roll the dice thing. Sometimes they can be gibberish, other times they can be sober thoughts, other times they can reflect bad parts of you, other times they can reflect sad parts of you, other times they are spontaneous words.

You just roll the dice.

[HawkPerception]

The first part of the brain that alcohol affects is the prefrontal and orbital cortex which are responsible for control over your impulses. Basically alcohol just makes you speak your mind. In other words... truth serum.

When you see people that get angry drunk, that's usually just their normal self coming out. If you see people happy drunk, same thing.

Alcohol can literally tell you what a person is like genuinely. And honestly, I believe alcohol is usually a good indicator for whether someone's a good person or not.

[getpucksin]

No - Being drunk is not some truth serum, it just makes them have terrible judgement. That's why it's common for the opposite to happen. They percieve things differently in the altered state and therefore speak things they wouldn't speak while sober, because they're thinking differently than sober. The saying is that. Just a saying


It's like laughing at something that is not funny while you're high, and looking back to see it was not something you'd ever laugh at while you're sober. Intoxicated reactions aren't just sober thoughts.

[TrueConfection]

Everyone says something they didn't mean sometimes. I'd say being drunk is the most likely time for that to happen.

However, drinking seems to dilute discretion and a person under the influence of alcohol might suddenly feel brave enough to be open about things they wouldn't otherwise mention.

[ohsheeT]

Whether somebody's drunk or sober if it comes out of somebody's mouth that means they have thought about it before and this is one of their opinions I don't care how drunk you get if it comes out of your mouth it's an emotion it's a feeling that you have once thought about twice thought about and you're just venting it now most people regret saying what they say when they're drunk but that's what they get for getting drunk

[bobalife]

Definitely! I be hearing wild things I don’t expect from romantic interests or guy friends lol. It’s called the liquid courage for a reason. Usually when people are buzz or drunk, they say whatever they want. But it doesn’t mean they’re not conscious of it unless they were beyond drunk, they couldn’t control themselves.

[genericname85]

i would say as your judgement is more and more impaired by being under the influence, that would by definition mean drunk words aren't really "sober thoughts". it's words someone with significantly less brain power said xD so they're less competent words and probably less true.

[Anonymous]

I believe in a lot of cases it is, I’m not a mind reader by any means. But I really think that being drunk doesn’t change someone’s true character it just brings it out.

I think what people say drunk is what they’re really thinking inside it’s just when they’re sober they wouldn’t ever admit to it. When someone’s saying horrible things drunk it’s probably just what they really think. It’s probably just who they are inside. It’s very telling

[slatyb]

Alcohol reduces inhibitions. But ask him when he's sober. His drunken words may never turn into sober actions.

[slatyb]

If he's drunk often, think about whether you want to date an alcoholic.

[unkissme]

Yes. Being drunk doesn’t mean you’ve turned into a different person, you’ve just lifted the veil to say the things you might never say sober. Alcohol in ways can act like a truth serum.

[FreyaRed]

You want to know if actions of drunk people are honest? The answer is no, they play still games. Guy from your example probably plays another game when he is drunk

[Peridot25]

I mean, that’s what I heard. But, honestly, I don’t believe drunken words until said person can say it sober. Because most of the time said person won’t remember what they said or they truly didn’t mean it.

[aquamarine321]

Alcohol affects us in a lot of ways especially chemically which will make some more verbal or less verbal, happy or sad etc depending on the individual, but for sure you’re more honest and semiconscious of how you’re feeling

[WhitneySnow]

They can be or they can just be the way he is when he’s drunk. But in this case I think you’re right. His drunk words are his sober thoughts.

[IslaTheWitch]

no :D

people can be more open up after alcohol but also more creative :D

[Viola_456]

They are but not when you too drunk... Then many people just say complete bs

[Nikki1989]

They can be, or they can be total BS. It depends on the person.

[DaddyDiablo]

I think that depends on the level of drunkenness n also where he's at mentally n emotionally with so said person tbh

[ProbablyClueless]

I prefer to think of them as "honest in the moment."

[paledreams]

I like to think so - didn't the fictional Joker make similar claims in The Dark Knight

[Anonymous]

I don't think so, I had a friend who was manipulative when not sober and he was the exact same when drunk it didn't change nothing

[Anonymous]

My ex always did this. He would say what he was really feeling drunk but sober renege on it.

[beefcakebradybatson]

My mother averred that drunk words are sober thoughts, and I wholeheartedly agree.

[Anonymous]

As far as you're concerned yes they are. 😆

Alcohol = plausible deniability.😆

[OtterMan68]

alcohol = truth serum

[Alex-Snow]

I think at times the answer is yes

[DrPepper12]

ABSO-FUCKIN-LUTELY!!!

[smurfwrangler]

alcohol reduces inhibitions yes

[CubaPirate]

Occasionally lol

[buzzword]

Nope.

[buzzword]

Go watch videos of drunk driver getting pulled over by the cops. They lie their ass off even when it's obvious they are lying.

[DishLady]

No….

[missindiana93]

I think so

[Staximus]

Sometimes

[nenebadd]

Absolutely.