Why is it nothing improves my self confidence?

[Anonymous]

Like I got a good haircut and I overall feel like I’m attractive now to women but at the same time I feel nothing has changed

[Oliverlogan263]

I feel you man, self-confidence is tough. Even when you do stuff to look better, it doesn't always translate to feeling better about yourself. A few things that might be going on:

- Your self-image was shaped over a long time, so it takes consistent effort to reshape how you see yourself. One haircut isn't a magic fix.

- You're still in your own head doubting yourself. Gotta fake it til you make it - act confident even if you don't feel it yet. Walk taller, smile more, make eye contact.

- Maybe you need experiences where you practice talking to girls, even if it's just casual. Little wins can boost confidence over time.

- Compare yourself less to others. Focus on being the best version of YOU. Your worth isn't defined by how many girls like your look.

- Remember looks aren't everything. Work on feeling good about who you are inside too - your humor, interests, passion for life.

It takes time man, don't get discouraged. Keep treating yourself and others well, keep putting yourself out there, and your confidence will grow naturally. And remember - you absolutely deserve to feel good about yourself no matter what!

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe there are different layers of fear and stagnation that block confidence and you have to address the levels.

A doctor I read about in a book said that sometimes the cure takes just as long as the process of getting sick in the first place.

An example is that people say meditation reduces pain but I find when I meditate, my pain gets worse cause I don't have things to distract myself from the pain anymore so sore muscles become more obvious when my mind is empty.

In China they do not give you pain killers unless you are dying cause they believe your body tries harder to fight the illness if you are in pain.

My point is, the fact my body is feeling the aches and sores when I meditate means the pain is increasing the speed of recovery.

[Nirmroth]

So you're talking about self confidence with women not self confidence in general? If its with women then make positive experiences that reinforce that confidence.

Its how you create confidence with all tasks by having success and experience with it.