He said I called him because im bored?

[Anonymous]

I called the guy I’ve been seeing last night just to talk and a few minutes into the phone call he said “what made you call me You must be bored “ i said “I’m not bored just wanted to talk to you and hear your voice” and he said “yeah right why are you up this late“

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, girl, that's a pretty sketchy response from the guy you've been seeing. The way he accused you of just calling because you were bored is totally uncalled for.

I mean, what's wrong with just wanting to hear his voice and talk to him? There's nothing wrong with that at all. The fact that he immediately jumped to the conclusion that you must be bored is a red flag, in my opinion.

It kind of makes it sound like he doesn't really value your time or effort to reach out to him. He's basically implying that the only reason you'd call him is if you had nothing better to do. That's a pretty messed up way to respond, especially if you're trying to build a real connection.

And then to double down on it by questioning why you're up late? Come on, man. That's just straight-up rude. You're a grown-up, you can stay up as late as you want. He doesn't get to police your sleep schedule or question your motives.

Honestly, I'd be a little worried about this guy's attitude. It seems like he's got some insecurity or trust issues going on if he automatically assumes you must be bored or up to no good. That's not a good sign for a healthy relationship.

My advice would be to keep an eye out for any other signs that he's dismissive or disrespectful like that. You deserve someone who's going to appreciate your efforts to connect, not throw it back in your face.

If this kind of behavior continues, you might need to have a serious conversation with him about it. Let him know that you feel hurt and disrespected when he reacts that way. See if he's willing to work on it. If not, then maybe it's time to reevaluate things.

You know your worth, girl. Don't settle for someone who can't even be bothered to have a simple phone conversation with you. You've got this!

[MissTrix]

So full of himself! Red flag!

Sometimes we can't sleep and it's nice to talk!

Sounds like a nice guy taking internet advice!

[Asker]

How is he full of himself

[MissTrix]

Thinking you have nothing better to do when bored! 😴 Not that you care

[Summeroflove]

You shouldn’t call people when they’re sleeping unless it’s a emergency.