Is it red flag that my boyfriend is on Tinder to make friends?

[Anonymous]

He says he feels distant from his current friends and wants to meet new people, but I’m not comfortable with him using a dating app for that. When I brought it up, he got upset. Am I overreacting, or is this a red flag?

[Anonymous]

It's natural to feel uneasy about your boyfriend using Tinder for friendship, especially considering its primary focus on dating. His reasoning might seem innocent, but it's important to assess whether you're comfortable with this dynamic. Open and honest communication is key here express how his actions make you feel without accusing him. If he becomes defensive, it could signal an issue with how he's valuing your concerns. Trust your instincts, and ensure your boundaries are respected in the relationship.

[DishLady]

To me, yes. There's a guy who's married, for example, and befriended my kid sister (single gal looking for love) and every time she FINDS someone he cockblocks it and convinces her the guy isn't going to be good for her even before she meets him. He "helped her" make a "hotter" tinder profile and stuff too... The family finally met him and all agree he's creepy, but she INSISTS on being besties with him. I don't know why.

[Anonymous]

It's a valid concern. Tinder is primarily a dating app, so his stated reason for using it raises questions. His reaction to your concerns is also a factor. Open communication is key, but if he dismisses your feelings, it could be a red flag.

[Asker]

thanks

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome

[Sevenpointfive]

he heard all about that BBC, right? he's a freak! let diddy get down to this

[MisterWack]

No one uses Tinder to make friends.

That is weird. It is a dating app.

[Account]

Yes. I won't even analyze it. It is painfully obvious.

[haileysmith]

Personally, I would consider it a red flag; there are other ways to make friends if one struggles in in-person settings, like Facebook pages or websites specifically for making friends. I think the bigger red flag than that, though, is the fact that he got upset at you when you brought up that you were uncomfortable with this. A guy who won't take the time to even consider how or why their behaviour upsets you will never be able to have an emotionally mature conversation, and vice versa for girls, too. I think you should ask him to use other non-dating platforms, and then you will be able to see whether he is truly using it to make friends or for other reasons. After all, where I'm from at least, Tinder is primarily a hookup app.

[OneViewpoint]

C'mon Anonymous poster. You know the answer to this. Yes your boyfriend is not on Tinder looking for a new buddy. He's looking for your replacement or a side piece. Have some self respect and cut your losses. Say goodbye to this bullshit artist.

[Crazyced]

I have no godly idea why tinder has a 'looking for friends' option. Almost every time I've seen a profile listed as such the pics and bio where anything but conducive to finding friends. Very much felt like attempts to maintain plausible deniability

[Anonymous]

That could go either way. I don’t use dating apps. Does tinder have a section for making friends? He could legitimately be looking to make friends. But I could see how a man would get on it to check out some chicks at the same time. Has he ever given you a reason in the past to make you think otherwise?

[Shiprex]

It IS a red flag that's a dating app that matches the type of people who want to get intimate and do other relationship things together. There are other ways that one can make friends and this isn't one of them

[GoodEnoughThen]

Not overly familiar with datimg apps, and I may be naive, but I think some of the apps have a "looking for friends" mode.
Ask him to show you some of the friends who's been talking to.

[sun_rae]

That’s a red flag. There’s lots of other ways of making friends. Using an app that’s mainly used for dating and hooking up makes it seem like he’s lying to you. You’re not overreacting at all. Don’t downplay something you’re uncomfortable w. Personally, I’d break up w him but it’s up to you. Stick to your boundaries and keep an eye on any suspicious behaviour.

[LadyBecks]

I'd call this a red flag. I don't know a lot about dating apps, but I'm pretty sure they're not meant to find new friends.

[Anonymous]

tinder is for hookups. don't let him tell you any different

pay attention to how he acted when you brought it up. he immediately got upset. why? if someone was really just looking for friends, why get upset when someone asks about it?

[angels]

The purpose of using Tinder is to find a girlfriend, this is definitely a red flag.

[Asker]

right, tahnks

[Nikki1989]

Anyone using a dating app is a red flag. Quality people have no need for dating apps.

[itsannalee]

If he is looking for friends he would just Use bumble, Tinder is dating app.


He cheats on you, don’t be naive.

[fantasticass]

He's fucking other girls. Easy girls that don't have any values.. Don't believe his bullshit... dump him!!!

[Finchie40]

If you like having smoke blown up your ass , then believe him LOL

[Flower7]

He is wrong for using a dating site while in a relationship. Tinder is not for friendships.

[molonski2]

In a word , big YES , he is not trying to make new friends , thats simply untrue.

[Skfisllw]

I think it is a red flag because if he is sincere then he don't behave doubtfully. A man is never a need but selfrespect is. So he is not really important don't care him and focus on yourself ❤️

[RavVid]

I wouldn't take kindly to it. Don't see why you should.

It seems a red flag to me.

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[Shy_Steve]

Your dating a Player.

He just wants to keep his options open.

Tell him how you feel about it.

If he doesn't care how you feel about it then why are you with him?

[MaxW1]

Red flag, tinfer isn't for friends and he isn't respecting your opinion.

[KennethNoisewater]

I think you already know the answer. You don’t need validation from us on this one.

[pav616]

More like a dead flag because you're going to get cheated on. If you're relationship doesn't allow fucking friends then yes absolutely red flag

[Staximus]

Nobody uses tinder to find friends, they use it to find fuck buddies

[shortster]

Nobody uses Tinder to make friends; that is what Bumble is for.

[Beachbummama84]

Yes that’s not ok and none dirsvt want to make friends

[Priya99999]

Life needs variety what would you do if you were fed the same food everyday

[Kingofkings1992]

Yes, tinder is NOT a dating app. It’s a hook up app

[hellno]

left him before he cheat u

[Asker]

he doesn't cheat me

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Red flag tinder isn't for making friends

[WhitneySnow]

Big red flag! Tinder is a hookup app

[Drumlin2001]

You don't make friends on tinder

[beams]

i think its no problem, trust your man

[Asker]

i dont agree you bro

[Ferngully2000]

Yes that’s very weird, dump him,

[lucas262]

Nobody goes on tinder to make friends

[Redstang88]

He’s not using tinder to make friends…

[SleepingHazard]

Your boyfriend is lying.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Tinder's not for "making friends"

[LiamJHayden]

It's a red flag if you believe that.

[ienjoylookingatgreen]

Not a red flag let him talk to girls on it

[Wise4myage]

Yes it is, because Tinder is a hookup site.

[Marizuk12]

Nooo its not a red flag is jst introvert

[spacedantys]

Who tf makes friends on Tinder?

[wydadman]

You are rather underreacting

[DarkCarousel]

Yes. End of story.

[retarb]

Yes.

[scott04sa22]

Red flag

[Jerre]

A red flag!

[In_Trance]

Lol sure he is

[masterSir]

yes it is