Do you think that women can sometimes be more aggressive than men?

Question

My boyfriend and I were talking about how catty aggressive some women can be. I have seen this day by day in my experiences. Most guys can disagree and perhaps become friends later. With women it does happen, but not nearly as often. I have seen women look or say something that sorta went over my boyfriend's head. When I asked him about it, he didn't pick up on it and was probably oblivious to it. In the world of work, I have heard that you can have a group of men and one woman and everything is fine. If you get two women though, there could be a problem. I don't think this happens all the time, but more times than not, this is correct. While we women are not directly aggressive, we usually make our point in a very very subtle way. Some people call it cattiness. I know that we women are directly aggressive, we may be labled the "B" word yet many of us are just as aggressive in comments etc. I am really not sure why this is, but I have observed it. So, what do you think? Are we just as aggressive as men sometimes?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes I do. Especially w men. For one their emotions usually get the best of them so they act off of emotions. Some men do too. But they’re also more likely to pick fights, especially w men because they have this idea that he isn’t going to do shit. Even if I hit him he won’t hit me back. Which is true because in society, society tends to believe women first.

I remember about 20 years ago, my ex started her nonsense. I tried to leave, I didn’t want to deal w it cause she was throwing things, broke a mirror. Now the situation was because someone is going to ask well what happened before all that that’s why she reacted that way. She woke up late for school. I woke her up, said I was going to get us something to eat. She jumps up when I come back. Getting mad at me that I didn’t wake her up. So we leave. I’m doing like 60 in a 25 mph zone. We get there 5 minutes after class started. She’s like take me home. I said you’re five minutes late. She said well if you had driven faster I wouldn’t have been late. So according to her it was my fault, then it went from there escalating into more. She hit me w a pan on my right shoulder. She torn the bottom part of my shirt w her nails, my stomach was scratched up. So as I’m walking down the street the cops stop me. She called the cops. Male and female cop. They took me back to the apartment. She tells them I hit her. Course there’s no evidence. I said what are you talking about, look at my arm, look at my shirt. The female cop was already ready to arrest me. But the male cop came out, checked me out, understood what really happened. The female cop said you have to leave or I’m going to arrest you. I said where do you think I was going. I was leaving. I told them straight out. I told the male cop, no I didn’t hit her cause I knew this would happen. He said what. I said her alleging I hit her, now your partner is ready to haul me in w no evidence on her part when I clearly have a bruise on my right arm, my shirt is torn up, I’m bleeding from my scratches.
Women tend to say they are more likely to be assaulted by men. But I think, like myself, men just don’t report it. But it happens a lot. As a man though there’s a stigma there on you if you report it. You’re considered less of a man. Society, especially other men tend to crack jokes on you, like oh man you let a little girl beat you up.

Orion84 · Accepted Answer

I absolutely do think women can be more aggressive than men, yes.

They did a study at one point, to investigate that possibility. The test involved dropping bombs on simulated civilians. During the test, some of the men & women were told it was completely anonymous, and some were told they're identities would be recorded.

The men dropped a roughly equal amount of bombs, regardless. The women who were told their identities were recorded dropped few bombs than the men, but the women who believed it was anonymous dropped the most bombs of any group.

The suggested conclusion was that women were, indeed, more aggressive, but only if/when they weren't trying to protect their image.

They've also shown that women fight more aggressively than men. Whereas men generally fight to establish superiority, women fight to kill.

There is an evolutionary basis behind that, as men were generally fighting for dominance against a rival male. Women, on the other hand, would generally only need to fight if an enemy was close enough to threaten themselves, their children, or their community, at which point, a woman wouldn't stop until the threat was eliminated.

That evolutionary mindset may have persisted until the modern era. Men have more testosterone, and are more likely to engage in aggressive behavior, but women tend to be more vicious when they do engage in aggressive behavior.

alice55 · Accepted Answer

Women are much more agressive on everyday life than men though they never do as much damage as men becuase they're weaker physically and they're usually just agressive verbally and not so much physically men are the reverse more physically aggressive. But on overall women are much more agressive (I worked in shop and the only one being agressive toward me, yelling and treating me like shit were only women never men, they have always been nice and polite women on the others end...)

SecretsofKB · Accepted Answer

Men and women both have disagreements with others. I do think they go about it differently. I do see women holding grudges longer than men. I have seen my guy friends get pissed off at another guy, then what feels like only 5 minutes later forget why they were even mad.

I have seen my girl friends or girl coworkers hold grudges for months or longer.

I have also seen the opposite though as well.

ManOnFire · Answer

Everything you said is true, and factual. Women use passive-aggression and micro-aggressions to send messages. They have to do this to compensate for not being the dominant species.

Men have strength, weight, use deep or loud voices, are direct in what needs to be approached or said to someone, and carry themselves with intent. Women overcompensate for lacking in these areas by needing to use passive and micro-aggressions. And they work most on very weak men, which women tend to latch on to as a tool they can use for control and/or manipulation. If they have someone around who will bend to her will or tactics, she feels strong. "Subtlety" is the only way women know how to move people because they don't have the kind of direct courage men do.

And yes, very true in the workplace when there are more than one woman, civil war breaks out eventually, especially if all the guys like one woman or she shows herself to be friendly and approachable (not in a dating sense). The other woman gets jealous and starts hating her because she sees that the other woman's friendliness is more powerful and effective than her need to be passive and micro-aggressive.

Anonymous · Answer

Statistically, Women are more aggressive. Let me break it down for you.

Yes, Men do more domestic violence, But Women are responsible for more non reciprocal domestic violence. Meaning One sided domestic violence where one partner initiates and the other does nothing, women are responsible for 90% of it. Additionally women are more apt to start fights than men are. If you look at history, the vast majority of female monarchs, and leaders have been war mongers. Hell, when the US goes to war, Women overwhelmingly vote for war not against war.

Another statistic that women dont like is the child abuse/Child Neglect/Child murder, 75% of all three happen at the hands of women alone.

Another statistic women dont like is the Lesbian domestic violence stat. Lesbian couples have 4 times the violence rates of straight couples and 8 times the violence of gay couples.

Another one that women dont like. Single mother homes are responsible for 90% of criminals, drug use, suicide, teen pregnancy and so on. even when compared to single father homes where the children do far better. you also dont see Gay (male male couples) getting into the news about say killing or mutilating their children, but you see it with lesbian couples.

So yes, Women are more aggressive, more violent than men are. The sat fact is the ones that are violent and aggressive go unnoticed because even when women commit crimes they are some how seen as the victim still.

RingOfFire · Answer

It's funny you should mention that. I was just at this moment watching these commercials on a streaming channel for movies with women playing these tough guy parts, threatening and beating up the bad guys and laughing my ass off.

Women look so stupid doing that. I think some women fantasize they can be as aggressive as men yes. But on a scale of 1 to 10 in aggression, they don't even move the needle. It's like women competing in men's sports. It's no contest. Women were not designed for that and they can't pull it off.

Jackblue · Answer

Women are often openly nicer to each other, like guys don't normally have exchanges with one another that go "I look terrible today" "oh no you look good," "No I look hideous the way I did my hair," "boyfriend you look gorgeous", which as I understand it are regular exchanges amongst female friends. Maybe we don't hold grudges as long, though it is hard to say for certain. It is important to keep in mind that guys don't have as many friends usually so we can't really drop them casually.

Shiprex · Answer

Women are more emotionally aggressive, they will be more personal about the way they attack because they haven't got the physicality that men who are aggressive tend to exert that aggression. It's more psychologically harmful with women's behaviour AND I would suggest it's even MORE common especially toward men (they are creeps, predators, threatening, etc.) in everyday life. Most men dgaf about others around them unless they do something then it's the behaviour they criticise while women will have opinions about others long before any interaction occurs.

Purpleronnie · Answer

I dont generally come across agressive women though work , extended family or social circles but I do know what you mean and have met this type of woman many times. I agree with your points about multiple women in a group and it getting “catty” and bitchy.

What confuses me the most is how they can be so nice to each other face to face painting smiles on and feigning friendship and as soon as they are alone they are commenting and gossiping about the other in an extremely negative way forcing company to side with them.

In my experience guys just don’t do this , they call you out to your face and immediately stand their ground which can obviously have mixed results. You generally always know where you are with guys but there are exceptions on both sides of course due to male traitors in women and vice versa

Apple1996 · Answer

Not at all. I think the women being catty thing is acutally made up by men so that women hate on each other instead of on them. Something I've only seen in movies and never real life

Douglas1180 · Answer

Now that we've restored biological truth to the federal government, I don't think this will be an issue anymore. Under President Trump, women are now protected from these testosterone-driven "women."

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Most women are on the offense looking for anything that can be considered harassment from men. You just happen to take the same elevator they do , she may accuse you of sexual harassment because she feels you were undressing her with your eyes. You just happen to share an office with a woman watch yourself. She can accuse you of sexual harassment anytime she wants because men are seen as the aggressor in all situations. Rape is on their mind at all times. Every guy she sees is a potential rapist. Even with other women they are constantly rating them and suspecting them of trying to take their lover away. Women are fickle creatures easily provoked and paranoid as hell.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes, but less physically (usually) and more socially

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Sometimes? Try  most  times.  Aggressive women get unbelievably unpleasant. And the ones with a real chip on their shoulders make a point to treat the men around them like punching bags.

Jersey2 · Answer

A lot of aggressive men have had the experience of getting punched in the face, so it’s not necessarily their first choice.

Some women who haven’t had that experience just go batsh! t I think because 1) they think that won’t happen to them and 2) they don’t understand that getting punched like that is a massive wake-up call to the mind and body.

JohnnyB123321 · Answer

For sure. I dated a super aggressive crazy girl for a short time. When she had a few drinks she just attack me. I explained that when I broke up with her. I was like, this works for some people but not me. I’m always happy and do my best to make people feel good. I’m not ok with being attacked about random things after you have 3 glasses of wine at a nice restaurant I’m picking up a 300 dollar tab at.

Anonymous · Answer

I mean what you gonna do when you get aggressive? moan?

TracyWants · Answer

I can be but I'm only 5"1 so it doesn't work out well

GallopAcrossEurope · Answer

I mean, so far, only a woman so far has tried to legitimately kill me - by trying to bashing my head in with my own goddamn monitor. Much more aggressive and upfront than even just a guy shooting someone.

Babebytheshore85 · Answer

Absolutely!! There's are many post here where women are being rejected by men yet won't accept it so they resort to stalking and harrassing men on the job. It's completely inappropriate.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, female bullies... use non-physical ways to try and hurt you. This can be via omitting, lying, manipulation, back-stabbing, rumor-spreading, defamation etc.

Guys, if gone that route, are usually seen as weaklings for doing the catty bitchy behavior.

bowenw · Answer

From my observations, I believe that is true.

Nikolakoala5 · Answer

100% some women are just as if not more aggressive then men. But again that's not all girls but there's definitely some sort of problem if either one is aggressive for no reason

Mark987 · Answer

We're in 2025... 100% YES... Women aren't as cute and innocent like 20 years ago.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Verbally aggressive maybe, but it is rare.

Paige90 · Answer

I definitely do!! I think I am as aggressive as most guys... maybe more.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

obviously! in today's world women aren't just allowed but ENCOURAGED to act aggressive.

serious · Answer

Yes there are some women who can be more toxic and aggressive than men.

NicholasRedone · Answer

@debbiedenise yes those women do exist :( I try to avoid those women

Anastasia86 · Answer

Yes some of the women I’ve dated seem to aggressive. Especially at gay club.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Yes, Because they don't get shamed as much as Men do.

Staximus · Answer

Mexican women, 110% drama for yo momma

LiamS95 · Answer

Yes some women can become very aggressive.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

H**L to the YES !!!

EmmiL · Answer

Definitely

Jennz6 · Answer

Not nearly enough

RedInnocent69 · Answer

💯 Often more so. Especially with other girls

LiamJHayden · Answer

Definitely.

Anonymous · Answer

Without question.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, some of them can.

abc3643 · Answer

Oh, absolutely!

Finchie40 · Answer

Oh yes big time lol

yotaman99 · Answer

Yes sometimes

DrPepper12 · Answer

YES!!!

In_Trance · Answer

Most times

Klelia04 · Answer

At times.

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