What is the number one reason many men don’t want to get married?

[Finchie40]

[OneViewpoint]

If you listen to social media you'll no doubt run into the Red Pill movement of whiny little bitches crying about marriage and divorce and the court system favoring women and mothers. So those guys are claiming marriage comes with risks that are too high for them. And there's probably some truth in there along with dogma and belief.

But I think a lot more young people today are holding off on or rejecting marriage as a solution for themselves for a much more insidious reason. Wealth inequality that has been intentionally engineered by the 1% to completely wipe out the US middle class to create economic slaves from womb to tomb. And it's working.

My parents generation back min the 1960's could have a middle class single earner household and own a home and even a vacation home. Have a couple of cars. Take the occasional family vacation. And send their kids to college. Those days are over.

Today, pensions no longer exist. Most office jobs have been transitioned to a gig economy where W2 employees have become 1099 contractors who have employment guaranteed a few months at a time with zero benefits and they have to take care of all their payroll taxes themselves. Add to that $1,000,000 homes that come with 6% mortgages, $50,000 cars, a $250,000 undergrad education, food and energy inflation, and a broken virtual job search replacing actual recruiters and you have a depressing amount of risk for young people who have any thoughts of marriage and a family.

So young people are not getting married. They are not having kids. And they are not buying homes. Have you noticed the coast to coast phenomenon in the USA of the huge number of corporate owned apartments being built by private equity backed real estate speculators looking to make our kids renters for life with no assets that could be passed on to their children? They want zero generational wealth for anyone outside the 1%. They want you to die with empty bank accounts and no real estate assets. Why would anyone buy into that bleak depressing landscape?

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I always say marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone. As for marriage it’s all about the three rings. An engagement ring, a wedding ring & suffering.

As for marriage some people get married, some don’t & as for me I won’t.

As for marriage I have never been married & nowadays I wouldn’t be stupid enough to get married. On the flip side if by chance I do get married hopefully I’m smart enough to have a prenuptial agreement signed & hopefully I have a good divorce lawyer on retainer. As for the number one reason why men aren’t getting married is because nowadays some men are getting smart.

[RavVid]

I like the play on the suffer ring. I will use that.

The problem is that co-habiting is not a solution any more because after x time you can still have to go through the same process as though you did marry.

[Crimsyjo]

Fear of loss.

Men with success fear sharing it and losing it.

Men without success fear commitment - losing freedom and choices in how they live.

What people fail to realise is love is like a roulette wheel. Most of the time you lose. And that can make you not want to risk playing again. Or not putting down a large stake. But if you take the risk and win? It is actually a big gain over loss. You can't underestimate the bodies need for coregulation through connection, sex, intimacy, support you have when with the RIGHT person. But you can't know the right person is right in the first 6 months or even couple of years. And that's why most people jump and marry the wrong person. Then wonder why the marriage went wrong. And other people see all the losses and get afraid to take a risk of their own. But you can't say we don't all wish we was the one who got what the big winner gets?

Can you honestly say if you see a dying old couple completely in love still and supporting eachother right to the end through thick and thin that you don't think damn it, I wish I had had that when I die?

[sage2021]

Divorce is very expensive

They can't make a life long commitment to just one woman

They enjoy their freedom

The financial burden of paying to live in such an unsteady economy

Doesn't like her family

She's not educated enough

They'll miss their peace and quiet

He's not completely sure she's "the one"

She wants children and he doesn't

He wants children and she doesn't


The overwhelming responsibility that is expected of a married man

He's Catholic and knows that he would cheat on her eventually and Catholic people don't get divorced

Incompatible with religion

Incompatible with politics

They argue too much

She's too demanding

She's too selfish

She's not supportive enough of him

Incompatible with each other

Too much pressure

Sex isn't that great

She can't cook

She's messy and he's not

[MrOracle]

Very, very few men care about a woman's education, or career (assuming it doesn't involve seeking attention from others), or her income. That's a projection from women, but men don't think that way.

I largely agree with the rest of your list.

[MrOracle]

Because marriage is no longer a religious union but a state-created business contract that is written to heavily favor the female.

I think most men want to be married in the abstract, but the modern marriage contract and the Family Court System is so one-sided, especially when children are involved, and finally because most women today are career-oriented Feminists rather than wives. Most men don't have a problem if a woman wants to be a career-oriented Feminist, but they have no desire to be in a relationship with one. They have seen how that played out for their fathers and uncles and friends and maybe even themselves, and they don't want it. It's not worth it.

[Anonymous]

I don't know but I don’t want to get married. I’m more into the idea of being married than the actual action. Being around someone that much where you’re living with them is irritating. I grew up with 2 brothers and my father. Men are gross and annoying.

[Finchie40]

So you are probably best to find yourself a FWB’s with some strings attached meaning you both have your space but stay loyal to each other

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks. Sounds more appealing

[Finchie40]

Yea it seems to be the way to go these days , if you both are on the same page with things and honest with each other , it can be a really good thing it gives the both of you time and space with the benefits of a traditional relationship, I had a few FWB’s with some strings attached in my lifetime and it worked for the both of us., mainly because we were just friends’ that enjoyed spending time together here and there and enjoying having sex with each other as well , we both had an agreement that we could see other people if we choose to , but we couldn’t have sex with anyone else , but if we do, then we agree to end the benefits part and just remain friends’ instead of becoming enemies and hating each others’ guts that usually happens after a break up , so this isn’t a break up , it’s an understanding mainly , the purpose of it , is for her and I to get to know each other more and to possibly end up together in a traditional relationship, but if it doesn’t happen, we just remain friends it also gives the both of you breathing room to really decide on what you want , whether it’s your FWB’s or someone else. It only works with honesty, if one of ya isn’t honest , it’s going to fall apart easily

[siefert_S]

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[mrshooiser]

I would say woman who are completely narcissistic and money grabbers! Men dont want some stupid bimbo who sleeps around and has no morals. Unfortunately a lot of men dont want marriage due to losing everything they worked for.

[Finchie40]

Yup, my ex was one of them and she put me through a world of hell , I don’t think I will ever get married again after the shit she put me through

[Sal_Monella]

Run this math and think it through.
50% of all marriages end in divorce.
80% of all divorces are filed by Women.
On your wedding day, there has a 40% likelihood she will divorce you.

That's far worse then the odds than that I would have been killed as an infantryman in the Marines in The 'Nam.

Better to stick with rentals.

[valentina4eva]

fear of commitment is prolly one of the top reasons!!🤷🏻‍♀️

[NicholasofAustralia]

Exactly, @valentina4eva men will always be like "she gonna cheat" - see what I did there, we all know men are the real problem 😆

[valentina4eva]

lots of men are afraid of commitment / monogamy independent of women🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Ball breakers

And the actual effort to raise a brat / most often becomes a brat

There's a reason people like the idea of rabbits or like the idea of a pet puppy - yet they grow up. And take effort / daily walks / money : 😅

And sometimes it may all be , for what 🤪

[Opinion Owner]

@Finchie40 so I like having the wholesome as much as the negative - views 🫠

[Anonymous]

They've seen enough of today's woman to know it's probably a bad idea.

Guys are built for work and tending to woman's needs. It's just who we are. But when i man no longer feels that drive it's over. At that point he just needs to go off and enjoy his life solo.

[DuSith]

Most men seem to want to play the field. Short term is fine, but eventually she gets old and they look to move on to a newer model or a different one.

For me, modern women are more like men. They have thrown away all that made them beautiful and embraced their macho selves. If I was gay, this would be great. But, I'm not. I do tend to like Tomboys, but women today have gone beyond this. This may just be in the US, though. This place has gotten depressing in the last few decades.

[NathanDavis]

because they are, have been... or know they will be inadequate for marriage...

same reason why I'd never have wanted to piss of Mike Tyson during his prime years... lmfao

[jazzy34]

• Don’t want commitment
• They were married before and it ended horribly.
• Marriage is not important to them.

[RavVid]

It is the riskiest "investment" you can make and the juice isn't worth the squeeze

[beenherebefore]

I guess many Men fear ending up bankrupt if the marriage ends up not working.

[robocop666]

divorce with legal problems. In Canada divorce laws are horrific.

[Finchie40]

It’s like that here in the USA , the court system favors the women and so many good innocent men have been arrested for it

[robocop666]

prenups can be ignored. Youtube divorce and there are some truly scary comments there from people claiming to be telling true stories. Lawyers often leave comments advising against it too.

[LC75LC71]

Money. And the survey says.. Boom number one answer!

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Waste of time, energy, money and realistically, no real benefit in it anymore.

[Anonymous]

Because...
Girls I like - Don't like me back.
Girls who like me - Are not my type.

[Alex-Snow]

Some do not like the commitment and some just have not found true love

[Billdoe1968]

Money. Time.

plus my parents failed. I had zero guidance about the entire subject of quality live

[Finchie40]

Yea I notice kids’ that experienced their parents’ divorcing have a much harder time lasting in a long term relationship, I am not saying everyone but there are a lot that do not make it because of that reason , the kids realize what’s even the point. I grew up with both my parents’ and my parents were together for a very long time until my mom passed away 4 years ago , so they were one of the ones that made it for a long time, I was hoping for the same but I didn’t find her yet

[AgentG111]

Because they have been wronged and cheated on and it's cost them more then it should have.

[Anonymous]

Fear of commitment
As mentioned already

[AngryCarl3]

expense

[beefcakebradybatson]

M-O-N-E-Y !!!

[cranberrycattoystory]

Lifelong commitments are scary, that's why!