Girls all tend to be under the impression that they have to be way pretty than necessary to gain male attention a lot of the time. But can you blame them? We live in a society dominated by males, with a media depicting women through the lens of the male sexual imagination. Imagine if you grew up in a society completely dominated by women, and every representation of men you had ever seen in any kind of meaningful media suggested that the only value you really had was your attractiveness and ability to get women's attention.
If you can picture that situation for a moment, you can probably understand why.
This brought tears to my eyes. For some women it's easy to be fashionable and it makes them happy. For others it's an exhausting struggle that takes jabs at self esteem. Thanks for reminding me some men understand. <3
Yes because every girl that cares about her appearance is a insecure, flaming whore and every girl who doesn't care is lovely and confident. I'm not even sure of this is a troll or not, but the reality is, your whole question makes YOU shallow, superficial and hypocritical.
Rather than passing judgement on someone for how they look, I suggest you judge their character as an indivisual.
Seriously, the people in the state he lives in are ridiculously shallow and vain. Don't even get me started on how dumb they are. It's hard to be relatively educated/have any insight when the local news is nothing but Hollywood bs and other inane crap. He's got some growing up to do is all. Can't blame the guy for basing his views on the only thing he knows. Unfortunately, it's this type of bs. Our society saddens me. :/
Mmm, admittedly, since I live in Australia, I'm not too familiar with American culture. HOWEVER, I like to make demeaning generalizations because they're funny. BUT on a serious note, I would be careful when you catagorise a whole state as shallow and stupid because, well, you're starting to sound like the jack-arse that posted this question.
LOL female logic. don't be mad just because he has the balls to speak the truth. it's a fact that overly stylish girls feel the need to compensate for being insecure/weak. they wouldn't feel confident if they wore sweatpants. that's sad an d pathetic and it shows how insecure they really are. truth is, confident girls are confident no matter what they wear/don't feel the need to look nice.
Look man, I know you're troll. I COULD abuse you a little and have a little fun, but let's face it, you dot have a shred of dignity or self repect left, so it probably wouldn't have any kind of impact. Just stop commenting on my stuff? Thanks.
LOL you give up. why did I expect it? women are inferior to men in every way and since they can't compete with them, they focus on being pretty. it's sad. lol seriously, we both know you are UNABLE to compete with me/unable to prove me wrong. come on, start to abuse me a little. I am waiting. all you do is talk talk talk. use arguments next time, "tough" girl. I bet you'll block me (cause you exactly know you're inferior to me).
@ROTFLMFAO - I have to disagree with your sharp comments. If you wish to have a woman attend a business dinner in her sweatpants with you, I'm all for that. Clothes also show the consideration of a woman. If she chooses to look nice for her or anyone she cares about, thumbs up for her.
Women are not inferior to men. We are actually equals, balancing each other out. I hope you realize that by insulting others you are insulting yourself. A woman may save your life someday...
No honey, I won't block you, because I find you and your infatuation with sweat pants rather amusing. I retract my comment, feel free to troll, but I implore you try and mention your fetish for sweat pants at least once every time you do so. Then I'll admit you're superior.
you can't even spell properly. how am I supposed to take you seriously? catEgoriZe, not catAgorise.
you're trying to be funny/you change the subject cause you're unable to debate in an effective way. it's sad. again: use arguments if you want people to take you seriously. you can't even defend yourself. seriously, why are you unable to prove me wrong? you don't need to admit defeat/don't need to admit you're inferior. we already know you are. come on, abuse me a little. I'm still waiting.
@ryanrhino: steve jobs used to wear cheap jeans and unstylish turtleneck sweaters. why did people take him seriously? do you think they'd respect him more if he was one of those retards desperately trying to fit in? do you think would have been more successful? people put way too much effort in looking good. it's pathetic...
ouch... that comment really hurt :( LOL what a wimp. sorry to say, I already have a girlfriend. I appreciate the fact you defend a helpless female. unfortunately you're just another stylish sissy boy who's unable to compete with real men. you put too much effort into looking pretty and that's why you're only friend material/not boyfriend material. don't worry,some girls love stylish/girly guys, but most girls prefer manly men (= not the stylish ones who focus on being pretty lol).
Your an a**hole.. I have to agree with Ponchi...Women don't dress well and wear makeup to feel more superior to men... what the hell is wrong with you?... they want to look attractive and confident and dressing up and wearing makeup is the best way to show it. I can't wait to hear your comments about your bum girlfriend (if you have one/ I don't think so with this attitude and personality) who dresses in sweatpants and no makeup because she is confident already WHICH IS 100% WRONG.
I don't see a problem with girls trying hard and looking their best, it shows they have self respect and want to feel confident that when finished they are pleased with the effort they have put in, because a girl who doesn't bother usually has a poor attitude and couldn't care less what she looks like, which is harming her and no one else, so yes I like the fact that most girls make an effort, because its a pleasant experience to be around these girls who like to look good for themselves, so without wanting to know why they go to great efforts to look their best, I appreciate regardless,
Personally, I'm too lazy lol - I mean get up like 2 hours earlier in the morning to find the cutest outfit, glob on horrendous amounts of make up, make my hair salon perfect - ugh - just thinking about all that makes me tired.
Those dolled up days are occasional, shouldn't be an every day thing.
A lot of girls can't go out the house without some type of make up - and I think that's very sad. It forces women to lose sight of our natural beauty.
Now that's to say every girl should rock a pair of sweat pants and a hoodie to show that they're confident or whatev - I mean having a bit of style and femininity is always good.
I also think people shouldn't be so quick to label a girl who looks good as being insecure and what not - often that's how a lot of guys miss out on some great girls, assuming their either these conceited bitches or horribly insecure; sometimes us confident casual girls like to get dressed up for the fun of it :D
The guys on here can't get those girls even if they wanted to...so either way, they're missing out on such girls. They're too quick to judge on here, about everything.
Yea but guys try to enforce their hypocritical views more - adJusting them to demonize women because their having female issues in their personal lives. I don't get it? Why can't they just be real with themselves?
Stop focusing so much on what flaws women have, and how about focusing on the flaws you as a person has? ( That goes for the hypocritical chicks too,)
Oh wait I forgot - people hate to acknowledge the truth - especially about themselves :\
whats point of making up and what not if you are not going to do it everday and its sad because they are not to lazy to improve themselves making them happier?
Well if your confident, you tend not to see too much need for improvement. Not in an arrogant manner, but because your confident enough to accept yourself the way you are.
Propaganda blinds us, and makes us believe we need make up or some new hair gel / outfit to be attractive -
I don't need make up to make myself happier lol - I like my face the way it is.
mate I think your insecure when it comes to girls who wear a lot of makeup. that's why you don't approach them. if you had confidence like you say.. you would approach a girl regardless if she wore a lot of makeup. I think you are a stubborn prick .. your thinking is wrong. and I bet you if the girl you liked who wears no makeup did .. she would feel so much better about herself and you would be an ass if you told her you didn't like her makeup. You have issues.
ROTFLMFAO...compensating for being weak is a FACT? Where the hell are you getting your facts from? I think you like to degrade women. I think you need to put women down so you make try to make them feel uncomfortable and insecure. Why the hell is it your business how a woman dresses anyways? If you wanna go marry a bum then go to the park and get one. Otherwise stop being such a jerk. I think you're the one trying to compensate for something.
It's all about survival. Those who mate, survive. Those who are attractive can mate. Evolutionarily speaking, women have to rely on physical appearance more so than males to attract a mate. Males must have physical attractiveness, but also must have status and power in a society. All this is to ensure the best genes are passed on to the next generation, and ensure that that particular generation survives.
for this reason, men are attracted (and want to mate with) the prettiest woman. If you are telling the truth (and I somehow think you may be in denial) that you wouldn't date a woman who tried hard to look good then you are a statistical anomaly.
Maybe instead of judging people on outward appearance, you should get to know people instead. it's funny how you talk about a girl being beautiful inside and out, but you're judging so many women without even knowing them. Try harder to be less of a hypocrite.
I think you're making a bit of a generalization. Yeah, women dress to impress other women or at least make friends...like, a great unique outfit is a great way to start a conversation.
also if I look in the mirror and my hair looks dumb or something I'll fix it...not because I'm like OH MY GOD, PEOPLE WILL THINK I'M SO UNATTRACTIVE! It's just because as a person, I like to take at least some pride in my looks, even if it's only for my own benefit.
guys try to look good too and don't pretend that's not true.
Because when you look good, you feel good. What's wrong with us wanting to look good? When I dress up or put makeup on, I don't do it for girls.. I don't even do it for guys. I do it because it makes me feel good, and you're more confident when you feel good.
bullsh*t. you only feel good because you love the attention you get. why wouldn't you feeel good in sweatpants? right, because you're insecure. I bet you wear them at home (and you feel good) yet you don't wear them in public (cause you're afraid people will ridicule you). sweatpants are much more comfortable (most people wear it only indoors cause they aren't brave enough to wear them in public). confident girls feel good no matter what they wear,
For the both of you, rarely do I even wear makeup these days. And just because I might happen to go out with makeup on, does it mean I'm getting attention left and right? No. Try to spew all the BS you want, but you know that when you feel good about the way you look, you hold your head a little higher. It's true for everyone. I wear full out PJs in public, don't talk to me about sweatpants. I have enough confidence in myself that I'm not scared to go out without make up and in PJs.
Women are damned if they do damned if they don't. If she dresses to kill, she's materialistic If she wears sweats she's a slob that doesn't take care of herself.
I like a woman that takes care of herself when she needs to and one that can pull off the PJ's & ponytail too. There's a time & a place for both looks. If she can manage both I give her props.
And honestly, guys should be held to the same standards.
Seriously. Some of the things guys dress themselves in... wow. My ex liked to give me a hard time about not wearing cute enough stuff when I was busy with labs and sports at school. I didn't have the time to dress up, nor the opportunity. But him? Jeans, t-shirt, and flip flops 99 percent of the time. Not that I cared much, but to be criticizing me and what I wore? Mkay...
I love fashion and I love looking good. Dressing good makes me feel good, wearing high heels makes me feel sexy. If I wear sweatpants, I feel like a total slob. Now, while I like fashion, I can neither afford nor justify spending money on designer clothes. I know few women that do and those who do, don't expect men to be drawn to them for that label-it is more so that they found a brand the love, so they continue to buy it.
Sometimes I'll wear makeup, but it depends on the day. While I may notice what other women wear, it is not a competition.
As women, there is a lot of value places on our looks, we are taught this from birth. The expectations are higher and more rigid for women than for men. Just food for thought.
So yes, women don't really dress up for men (but I do like to look nice for my boyfriend), but it's not for a secret competition, either. At least for me.
I try to look good for all of the above- myself, guys, girls. Classmates, teachers, job interviewers. I don't go overboard, but I try to look presentable for the public in general. That's what's expected of girls and we didn't all win the genetic jackpot. If I think I look better with a little makeup than without, why shouldn't I wear some?
I'm getting a little confused by your question though because trying to "look nice" and being obsessed with designer shoes are two totally different things. I do the first, but I don't do the second.
I guess it depends on what you consider "dressed up".
I hardly wear makeup and 90% of the time I'm in a Tshirt and jeans. I dress up for church, I dress up for nice occasions out (dinner with friends at a nice restaurant, going to a play/musical downtown, etc) and even then its just a dress or a top (nicer than a Tshirt) with shoes nicer than sneakers.
I think girls dress up for a variety of reasons. I go to an all girls school and there are two extremes...the girls who wear sweats and yoga pants everyday cause they don't care what other girls think (there are no guys to dress up for) or the girls who dress up everyday in dresses, heels, cute scarves, etc (either for themselves or in "competition")
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I look good for myself and my man and the way you look on the outside is usually a reflection of your inside. For me I don't give a f*** about what other girls wear... I care about what I look like and I wanna look the best I can be because when I look good on the outside.. I do feel so much better on the inside and I'm filled with so much confidence and that comes across as being attractive to guys. Don't get me wrong some girls don't even need makeup and they look really good but it does help bring out your best features. I think girls who dress up to look prettier than other girls for a competition is just stupid and very dumb... it just shows how insecure they are
i pity you. you feel better on the inside when you look good on the outside? that's proof you are insecure. self-confident girls are confident no matter what they wear. you know you're not good enough/worthy enough and that's why you feel the need to dress in an overly stylish way.
Why rip her down if she chooses to reflect her confidence in her dress? If a woman looked dissheveled or unkempt, I may be drawn to help her versus being drawn to the confidence of a woman who is pristine.
Why do you think we dress up for rituals and important events? It shows that you prepared and take the situation seriously.
well like I said makeup does help with a girls confidence and it does help make a girl feel better. You may just have a preference that you don't like girls with too much makeup or your probably insecure that's why you never ask girls with makeup on and only go for girls that don't wear nothing because they won't turn you down. Guys are also attracted to girls with makeup which suggests that they have confidence
I wear make up and dress the way I do because I like it and it makes me feel comfortable. I like wearing ripped jeans and red lipstick the way some people like wearing sweaters and yoga pants. It's just my style and actually, a form of self expression as well. I don't think it means I'm insecure or cocky or that I'm shallow and have nothing else to do. I just like feeling good about myself and looking 'nice' is obviously part of it, just like acing a test for example. Doesn't everyone? It doesn't mean I think I'm hot or that I look down on others or that I'm in a competition with the rest of the world.
The girls that you should watch out for however are the ones that BEHAVE like they're hot or whatever. Don't generalise and assume that because a girl likes looking good, she's automatically a shallow bitch because there's girls out there that don't give a sh*t about their looks and are shallow and bitchy anyway.
I think that's kind of a blanket statement on all girls who dress up. I wear designer clothing because I like them and the pieces fit the style that I have at the moment. I don't care if other people notice (or don't notice) what am I wearing because I'm not in a competition with anyone but myself(since I always strive to look my best). I usually don't wear makeup for the most part but every now and then I would throw on a mascara or eye shadow (I don't wear foundation ever). I honestly would much prefer to be judged by my actions and the things I say not by the fact that I'm not wearing sweat pants. If we had a conversation and you walk away believing that I'm shallow then that's fine but you can't just look at someone and make up your mind that they're shallow and insecure. Who's to say that the girl who lives in her hoodie and sweatpants would be not vapid and full of insecurities? You can't judge a book by it's cover.
not all girls TRY hard to look good...a lot of them are just naturally beaufitul...
if you're talking about girls who LOAD up make up - then yeah I'm with you, gross as sh*t...when you can see a layer of make up on their cheeks or forehead, regardless of how "hot" they are...immediate turn off and I have no intensions of going after them
but yo, be careful how you word your qeustions and how you ask this to a girl dude, you're just asking for it lol
I wear no makeup and don't even own any, hair is in a bun or ponytail unless I just got out of the shower, and my wardrobe consists of sweatpants, jeans, tank tops and tshirts, and sweatshirts. I only own sneakers. my idea of dressing up is straightening my hair and wearing a nice shirt, and I'm 110% okay with it. I am beautiful and strong and don't care about other people's opinion on my choice of shirt because I'm comfortable and that's all that really matters.
:Its NOT that were trying so HArd to look good for everyone or for guys, it was just were trying to make our self to feel great, to feel good and to be comfortable and most of all to show who really we are... because for me "IT doesn't matter what people think about you, Its about how you think about YOURSELF!" people may give you positive and negative comments about how they think abt you BUT never ever let yourself put you down because ONLY you and yourself knows who you really are! Hope you get my point :) Takecare and Godbless :)))
you worry what other people think. that's the only reason you dress nice. if you didn't worry/if you weren't insecure, you'd wear sweatpants in public. it's obvious you don't dare to wear comfortable sweatpants in public. confident girls are confident no matter what they wear/don't feel the need to look nice.
Well, I don't feel insecure and why should i? I dress nice because I LOVE FASHION, I don't care if they don't like it or not... at times I wear jamas at mall or outside if I wanna eat somewhere... and I don't care what people think about me... as long as I'm happy then I'm good
I like girls that are naturally beautiful... They don't have to try as hard to look good, they don't need to cake their faces with make-up, and they still end up as the prettiest-looking women out there, IMO.
But obviously, what's inside is what ultimately counts, and will determine whether or not a man wants to be with a woman. A woman's personality is what determines TRUE beauty to another individual, what seals the deal... For example, there are tons of just like... absolute BABES out there, lol that honestly, I wouldn't want to be with, because they just don't click with me. Like that's just how it is... There's something there, or there isn't.
And sometimes, she isn't even the "hottest" girl in the bunch... Just depends on the person truthfully.
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Girls all tend to be under the impression that they have to be way pretty than necessary to gain male attention a lot of the time. But can you blame them? We live in a society dominated by males, with a media depicting women through the lens of the male sexual imagination. Imagine if you grew up in a society completely dominated by women, and every representation of men you had ever seen in any kind of meaningful media suggested that the only value you really had was your attractiveness and ability to get women's attention.
If you can picture that situation for a moment, you can probably understand why.
This brought tears to my eyes. For some women it's easy to be fashionable and it makes them happy. For others it's an exhausting struggle that takes jabs at self esteem. Thanks for reminding me some men understand. <3
Yes because every girl that cares about her appearance is a insecure, flaming whore and every girl who doesn't care is lovely and confident. I'm not even sure of this is a troll or not, but the reality is, your whole question makes YOU shallow, superficial and hypocritical.
Rather than passing judgement on someone for how they look, I suggest you judge their character as an indivisual.
You have to take into consideration the area he lives in.
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DAMN, I wish I wish I could thumb up comments.
Seriously, the people in the state he lives in are ridiculously shallow and vain. Don't even get me started on how dumb they are. It's hard to be relatively educated/have any insight when the local news is nothing but Hollywood bs and other inane crap. He's got some growing up to do is all. Can't blame the guy for basing his views on the only thing he knows. Unfortunately, it's this type of bs. Our society saddens me. :/
Mmm, admittedly, since I live in Australia, I'm not too familiar with American culture. HOWEVER, I like to make demeaning generalizations because they're funny. BUT on a serious note, I would be careful when you catagorise a whole state as shallow and stupid because, well, you're starting to sound like the jack-arse that posted this question.
LOL female logic. don't be mad just because he has the balls to speak the truth. it's a fact that overly stylish girls feel the need to compensate for being insecure/weak. they wouldn't feel confident if they wore sweatpants. that's sad an d pathetic and it shows how insecure they really are. truth is, confident girls are confident no matter what they wear/don't feel the need to look nice.
Look man, I know you're troll. I COULD abuse you a little and have a little fun, but let's face it, you dot have a shred of dignity or self repect left, so it probably wouldn't have any kind of impact. Just stop commenting on my stuff? Thanks.
LOL you give up. why did I expect it? women are inferior to men in every way and since they can't compete with them, they focus on being pretty. it's sad. lol seriously, we both know you are UNABLE to compete with me/unable to prove me wrong. come on, start to abuse me a little. I am waiting. all you do is talk talk talk. use arguments next time, "tough" girl. I bet you'll block me (cause you exactly know you're inferior to me).
@ROTFLMFAO - I have to disagree with your sharp comments. If you wish to have a woman attend a business dinner in her sweatpants with you, I'm all for that. Clothes also show the consideration of a woman. If she chooses to look nice for her or anyone she cares about, thumbs up for her.
Women are not inferior to men. We are actually equals, balancing each other out. I hope you realize that by insulting others you are insulting yourself. A woman may save your life someday...
No honey, I won't block you, because I find you and your infatuation with sweat pants rather amusing. I retract my comment, feel free to troll, but I implore you try and mention your fetish for sweat pants at least once every time you do so. Then I'll admit you're superior.
you can't even spell properly. how am I supposed to take you seriously? catEgoriZe, not catAgorise.
you're trying to be funny/you change the subject cause you're unable to debate in an effective way. it's sad. again: use arguments if you want people to take you seriously. you can't even defend yourself. seriously, why are you unable to prove me wrong? you don't need to admit defeat/don't need to admit you're inferior. we already know you are. come on, abuse me a little. I'm still waiting.
@ryanrhino: steve jobs used to wear cheap jeans and unstylish turtleneck sweaters. why did people take him seriously? do you think they'd respect him more if he was one of those retards desperately trying to fit in? do you think would have been more successful? people put way too much effort in looking good. it's pathetic...
i'm surprised at how much of a douche you are. and I don't think I can adequately explain it to you since I am inferior.
I live in the same state. I can categorize all I want. :)
I say, BEST ANSWER <333
i never said I was judging, I said it "seems" shallow. so who's judging now?
@ROTFLMAO I think I can give you another bit of female logic: you're a f***in insecure childlike ass, who has the road of a lonely life ahead of him.
ouch... that comment really hurt :( LOL what a wimp. sorry to say, I already have a girlfriend. I appreciate the fact you defend a helpless female. unfortunately you're just another stylish sissy boy who's unable to compete with real men. you put too much effort into looking pretty and that's why you're only friend material/not boyfriend material. don't worry,some girls love stylish/girly guys, but most girls prefer manly men (= not the stylish ones who focus on being pretty lol).
Your an a**hole.. I have to agree with Ponchi...Women don't dress well and wear makeup to feel more superior to men... what the hell is wrong with you?... they want to look attractive and confident and dressing up and wearing makeup is the best way to show it. I can't wait to hear your comments about your bum girlfriend (if you have one/ I don't think so with this attitude and personality) who dresses in sweatpants and no makeup because she is confident already WHICH IS 100% WRONG.
I don't see a problem with girls trying hard and looking their best, it shows they have self respect and want to feel confident that when finished they are pleased with the effort they have put in, because a girl who doesn't bother usually has a poor attitude and couldn't care less what she looks like, which is harming her and no one else, so yes I like the fact that most girls make an effort, because its a pleasant experience to be around these girls who like to look good for themselves, so without wanting to know why they go to great efforts to look their best, I appreciate regardless,
Yep some girls try waaaaay too hard.
Personally, I'm too lazy lol - I mean get up like 2 hours earlier in the morning to find the cutest outfit, glob on horrendous amounts of make up, make my hair salon perfect - ugh - just thinking about all that makes me tired.
Those dolled up days are occasional, shouldn't be an every day thing.
A lot of girls can't go out the house without some type of make up - and I think that's very sad. It forces women to lose sight of our natural beauty.
Now that's to say every girl should rock a pair of sweat pants and a hoodie to show that they're confident or whatev - I mean having a bit of style and femininity is always good.
I also think people shouldn't be so quick to label a girl who looks good as being insecure and what not - often that's how a lot of guys miss out on some great girls, assuming their either these conceited bitches or horribly insecure; sometimes us confident casual girls like to get dressed up for the fun of it :D
The guys on here can't get those girls even if they wanted to...so either way, they're missing out on such girls. They're too quick to judge on here, about everything.
I concur.
True - and so quick to tell others' not to judge or generalize.
Just a bunch of hypocrites.
Lonely, depressed, hypocrites...
I have seen girls do the same on here ya know
Yea but guys try to enforce their hypocritical views more - adJusting them to demonize women because their having female issues in their personal lives. I don't get it? Why can't they just be real with themselves?
Stop focusing so much on what flaws women have, and how about focusing on the flaws you as a person has? ( That goes for the hypocritical chicks too,)
Oh wait I forgot - people hate to acknowledge the truth - especially about themselves :\
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whats point of making up and what not if you are not going to do it everday and its sad because they are not to lazy to improve themselves making them happier?
Well if your confident, you tend not to see too much need for improvement. Not in an arrogant manner, but because your confident enough to accept yourself the way you are.
Propaganda blinds us, and makes us believe we need make up or some new hair gel / outfit to be attractive -
I don't need make up to make myself happier lol - I like my face the way it is.
Make up is an accessorie - not a neccesity.
not every girl that puts together a cute outfit wears designer clothes and hand bags.
and I don't care what your ex said ... it is not a competition for all girls.
for some girls it just makes them feel better about themselves to look more "put together"
and normally when a girl puts on makeup and puts on nice clothes it usually goes hand in hand
with a person who takes good care of themself and if they take good care of themselves most of
the time they can take good care of people they care about.
so don't come to conclusions about why girls actually GET READY every day.
you might actually like most of them.
it might surprise you how many girls are actually NOT in competition.
girls who dress in an overly stylish way are isnecure/feel the need to compensate for being weak. that's a fact.
thank you! I agree
mate I think your insecure when it comes to girls who wear a lot of makeup. that's why you don't approach them. if you had confidence like you say.. you would approach a girl regardless if she wore a lot of makeup. I think you are a stubborn prick .. your thinking is wrong. and I bet you if the girl you liked who wears no makeup did .. she would feel so much better about herself and you would be an ass if you told her you didn't like her makeup. You have issues.
ROTFLMFAO...compensating for being weak is a FACT? Where the hell are you getting your facts from? I think you like to degrade women. I think you need to put women down so you make try to make them feel uncomfortable and insecure. Why the hell is it your business how a woman dresses anyways? If you wanna go marry a bum then go to the park and get one. Otherwise stop being such a jerk. I think you're the one trying to compensate for something.
It's all about survival. Those who mate, survive. Those who are attractive can mate. Evolutionarily speaking, women have to rely on physical appearance more so than males to attract a mate. Males must have physical attractiveness, but also must have status and power in a society. All this is to ensure the best genes are passed on to the next generation, and ensure that that particular generation survives.
for this reason, men are attracted (and want to mate with) the prettiest woman. If you are telling the truth (and I somehow think you may be in denial) that you wouldn't date a woman who tried hard to look good then you are a statistical anomaly.
Maybe instead of judging people on outward appearance, you should get to know people instead. it's funny how you talk about a girl being beautiful inside and out, but you're judging so many women without even knowing them. Try harder to be less of a hypocrite.
I think you're making a bit of a generalization. Yeah, women dress to impress other women or at least make friends...like, a great unique outfit is a great way to start a conversation.
also if I look in the mirror and my hair looks dumb or something I'll fix it...not because I'm like OH MY GOD, PEOPLE WILL THINK I'M SO UNATTRACTIVE! It's just because as a person, I like to take at least some pride in my looks, even if it's only for my own benefit.
guys try to look good too and don't pretend that's not true.
I like to look clean, neat, and dress sophisticated. I don't
try so 'hard' I just try. I don't want to look like a slob..and I certainly
don't want to look lazy...there are days where you dress to impress, but
it's mainly to impress myself. I like to look good. And, there are days where I
just wear sweats and put my hair back with no make up...
And, I don't dress up to impress other girls. That is weird. I dress up to impress myself
and my boyfriend.
P.S- There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking nice. Thanks.
Because when you look good, you feel good. What's wrong with us wanting to look good? When I dress up or put makeup on, I don't do it for girls.. I don't even do it for guys. I do it because it makes me feel good, and you're more confident when you feel good.
bullsh*t. you only feel good because you love the attention you get. why wouldn't you feeel good in sweatpants? right, because you're insecure. I bet you wear them at home (and you feel good) yet you don't wear them in public (cause you're afraid people will ridicule you). sweatpants are much more comfortable (most people wear it only indoors cause they aren't brave enough to wear them in public). confident girls feel good no matter what they wear,
i wear lipstick at home even because I think it's ridiculously awesome. and even if I didn't, I bet I'd still have more self confidence than you.
For the both of you, rarely do I even wear makeup these days. And just because I might happen to go out with makeup on, does it mean I'm getting attention left and right? No. Try to spew all the BS you want, but you know that when you feel good about the way you look, you hold your head a little higher. It's true for everyone. I wear full out PJs in public, don't talk to me about sweatpants. I have enough confidence in myself that I'm not scared to go out without make up and in PJs.
But that doesn't mean I don't like to dress myself up from time to time just because I feel like it.
I'M NOTICING THIS GUY IS GIVING EVERY FEMALE HERE HELL. . . HE MUST HAVE A VAGINA CAUSE HE KNOWS MORE THAN US :)
Women are damned if they do damned if they don't. If she dresses to kill, she's materialistic If she wears sweats she's a slob that doesn't take care of herself.
I like a woman that takes care of herself when she needs to and one that can pull off the PJ's & ponytail too. There's a time & a place for both looks. If she can manage both I give her props.
And honestly, guys should be held to the same standards.
Is it weird I find girls in sweats hot? >.>
Seriously. Some of the things guys dress themselves in... wow. My ex liked to give me a hard time about not wearing cute enough stuff when I was busy with labs and sports at school. I didn't have the time to dress up, nor the opportunity. But him? Jeans, t-shirt, and flip flops 99 percent of the time. Not that I cared much, but to be criticizing me and what I wore? Mkay...
Good answer
omg...awesome. <333333
I love fashion and I love looking good. Dressing good makes me feel good, wearing high heels makes me feel sexy. If I wear sweatpants, I feel like a total slob. Now, while I like fashion, I can neither afford nor justify spending money on designer clothes. I know few women that do and those who do, don't expect men to be drawn to them for that label-it is more so that they found a brand the love, so they continue to buy it.
Sometimes I'll wear makeup, but it depends on the day. While I may notice what other women wear, it is not a competition.
As women, there is a lot of value places on our looks, we are taught this from birth. The expectations are higher and more rigid for women than for men. Just food for thought.
So yes, women don't really dress up for men (but I do like to look nice for my boyfriend), but it's not for a secret competition, either. At least for me.
I try to look good for all of the above- myself, guys, girls. Classmates, teachers, job interviewers. I don't go overboard, but I try to look presentable for the public in general. That's what's expected of girls and we didn't all win the genetic jackpot. If I think I look better with a little makeup than without, why shouldn't I wear some?
I'm getting a little confused by your question though because trying to "look nice" and being obsessed with designer shoes are two totally different things. I do the first, but I don't do the second.
I guess it depends on what you consider "dressed up".
I hardly wear makeup and 90% of the time I'm in a Tshirt and jeans. I dress up for church, I dress up for nice occasions out (dinner with friends at a nice restaurant, going to a play/musical downtown, etc) and even then its just a dress or a top (nicer than a Tshirt) with shoes nicer than sneakers.
I think girls dress up for a variety of reasons. I go to an all girls school and there are two extremes...the girls who wear sweats and yoga pants everyday cause they don't care what other girls think (there are no guys to dress up for) or the girls who dress up everyday in dresses, heels, cute scarves, etc (either for themselves or in "competition")
I look good for myself and my man and the way you look on the outside is usually a reflection of your inside. For me I don't give a f*** about what other girls wear... I care about what I look like and I wanna look the best I can be because when I look good on the outside.. I do feel so much better on the inside and I'm filled with so much confidence and that comes across as being attractive to guys. Don't get me wrong some girls don't even need makeup and they look really good but it does help bring out your best features. I think girls who dress up to look prettier than other girls for a competition is just stupid and very dumb... it just shows how insecure they are
i pity you. you feel better on the inside when you look good on the outside? that's proof you are insecure. self-confident girls are confident no matter what they wear. you know you're not good enough/worthy enough and that's why you feel the need to dress in an overly stylish way.
Why rip her down if she chooses to reflect her confidence in her dress? If a woman looked dissheveled or unkempt, I may be drawn to help her versus being drawn to the confidence of a woman who is pristine.
Why do you think we dress up for rituals and important events? It shows that you prepared and take the situation seriously.
I agree with this.
well like I said makeup does help with a girls confidence and it does help make a girl feel better. You may just have a preference that you don't like girls with too much makeup or your probably insecure that's why you never ask girls with makeup on and only go for girls that don't wear nothing because they won't turn you down. Guys are also attracted to girls with makeup which suggests that they have confidence
I wear make up and dress the way I do because I like it and it makes me feel comfortable. I like wearing ripped jeans and red lipstick the way some people like wearing sweaters and yoga pants. It's just my style and actually, a form of self expression as well. I don't think it means I'm insecure or cocky or that I'm shallow and have nothing else to do. I just like feeling good about myself and looking 'nice' is obviously part of it, just like acing a test for example. Doesn't everyone? It doesn't mean I think I'm hot or that I look down on others or that I'm in a competition with the rest of the world.
The girls that you should watch out for however are the ones that BEHAVE like they're hot or whatever. Don't generalise and assume that because a girl likes looking good, she's automatically a shallow bitch because there's girls out there that don't give a sh*t about their looks and are shallow and bitchy anyway.
Kudos to Ponchi's comment below btw.
I agree with you so much.
I think that's kind of a blanket statement on all girls who dress up. I wear designer clothing because I like them and the pieces fit the style that I have at the moment. I don't care if other people notice (or don't notice) what am I wearing because I'm not in a competition with anyone but myself(since I always strive to look my best). I usually don't wear makeup for the most part but every now and then I would throw on a mascara or eye shadow (I don't wear foundation ever). I honestly would much prefer to be judged by my actions and the things I say not by the fact that I'm not wearing sweat pants. If we had a conversation and you walk away believing that I'm shallow then that's fine but you can't just look at someone and make up your mind that they're shallow and insecure. Who's to say that the girl who lives in her hoodie and sweatpants would be not vapid and full of insecurities? You can't judge a book by it's cover.
^ That's like my opinion summed up perfectly too.
what are you talking about?
not all girls TRY hard to look good...a lot of them are just naturally beaufitul...
if you're talking about girls who LOAD up make up - then yeah I'm with you, gross as sh*t...when you can see a layer of make up on their cheeks or forehead, regardless of how "hot" they are...immediate turn off and I have no intensions of going after them
but yo, be careful how you word your qeustions and how you ask this to a girl dude, you're just asking for it lol
You make me feel so beaufitul. (Razzing you & your typo) <333
haha hate you :P
Nah. *hugs you* :P
haha :)
I wear no makeup and don't even own any, hair is in a bun or ponytail unless I just got out of the shower, and my wardrobe consists of sweatpants, jeans, tank tops and tshirts, and sweatshirts. I only own sneakers. my idea of dressing up is straightening my hair and wearing a nice shirt, and I'm 110% okay with it. I am beautiful and strong and don't care about other people's opinion on my choice of shirt because I'm comfortable and that's all that really matters.
siiik. I love your attitude.
thanks lol
:Its NOT that were trying so HArd to look good for everyone or for guys, it was just were trying to make our self to feel great, to feel good and to be comfortable and most of all to show who really we are... because for me "IT doesn't matter what people think about you, Its about how you think about YOURSELF!" people may give you positive and negative comments about how they think abt you BUT never ever let yourself put you down because ONLY you and yourself knows who you really are! Hope you get my point :) Takecare and Godbless :)))
you worry what other people think. that's the only reason you dress nice. if you didn't worry/if you weren't insecure, you'd wear sweatpants in public. it's obvious you don't dare to wear comfortable sweatpants in public. confident girls are confident no matter what they wear/don't feel the need to look nice.
Well, I don't feel insecure and why should i? I dress nice because I LOVE FASHION, I don't care if they don't like it or not... at times I wear jamas at mall or outside if I wanna eat somewhere... and I don't care what people think about me... as long as I'm happy then I'm good
I like girls that are naturally beautiful... They don't have to try as hard to look good, they don't need to cake their faces with make-up, and they still end up as the prettiest-looking women out there, IMO.
But obviously, what's inside is what ultimately counts, and will determine whether or not a man wants to be with a woman. A woman's personality is what determines TRUE beauty to another individual, what seals the deal... For example, there are tons of just like... absolute BABES out there, lol that honestly, I wouldn't want to be with, because they just don't click with me. Like that's just how it is... There's something there, or there isn't.
And sometimes, she isn't even the "hottest" girl in the bunch... Just depends on the person truthfully.