Sensing he wants space, is he losing interest?

[Anonymous]

We have been together for 6 months now and have hit a couple road blocks. We had our first fight a few weeks ago, we talked about, understand why it happened, but never resolved it.

Anyway, ever since the first fight I have noticed a shift in my feelings for him. I still think about him all the time and crave spending time with him but I am not feeling as strongly as I did before the fight. (I guess the honeymoon period is over).

I have also sense that he wants a bit of space from me (which I feel I have been giving to him). He started a new job a few weeks ago and since then I have noticed he is contacting me less and I am always the one to make dates. It started just over 3 weeks ago, and that just seems to me like a long time to need space. I am starting to feel starved for his attention.

We spent time together on the weekend and he told me about how he is having trouble adJusting to the new job. He also made comments about me meeting his family and asked when I was free this week.

I guess am wondering if his need for space is because he is losing interest, or just because of new stresses in his life?

[LukeLockehart]

It sounds to me like you two are just beginning the second phase of your relationship. You right, after about 6 months the honeymoon phase is over and relationships do become more challenging.

Also, I recently went through some similar events and can share from experience. My girlfriend went from having a 9-5, to being unemployed for over a month, then back to another job. And there were a lot of crazy swings during that period. First when she was unemployed she wanted too much of my attention, then when she got all into her new job I felt I could barely get hers. But after a few weeks things balanced back out.

Big lifestyle changes like new jobs really are challenging on relationships, but it will balance out.

Two things you said are really good signs of it:

1) He said he is struggling to adjust to the new job (that is normal, and is the cause of the new imbalance. He will figure it out)

2) He said he wants you to meet his family. Guys don't take that lightly. I never want to bring a girl around my family unless I am really proud of her and know she potentially could the one.

With that said, I think you are going to be fine. It will be challenging for a week or two, but I promise if your patient, things will get back to normal. (A new normal though!)

Good luck

Luke

[Sima2]

But you can it also be,it can also be that when he got a new job he was simply kinda lost in time and space and he didn't realize he is not paying intention to you.This should be just in faze in your relationship

[SkinnyG]

Well, if he wants you to make time to meet his family, it still sounds as though he's serious about you.

It also sounds as though you guys may need to rehash your fight which never was resolved and try to resolve it. Even if you have to swallow some pride.

His needing his space may mean he's still pissed about what ever you guys fought about and is still thinking it over. This sort of thing can't be hanging over your heads. You need to clear the air with each other. And the new job thing probably doesn't help his stress level.

[CasaNorba]

i think he is loosing interest. but you should give him what he wants, so when he finds out how hard it is without you he will want you back and eventually have more feelings for you

[Sima2]

Thumb up from me,think it is encouraging

[sauna]

You can always ask him. Communication is best...