What It's Like Being Overweight As A Male

[Anonymous]

Ever see a male who is overweight and wonder what his life has been like? Well as an overweight male, I know what it's like and I'll share my experiences. I'm 16 years old and 291 lbs. and no, none of these pictures are me.

Man breast

The worst of all, breast are supposed to be for women, not men. If i had to go shopping for a bra, I'd have to look in the B or C cup section. Walking around as a male with breast is so embarrassing. They are just out there and there's no hiding them unless you wear some sort of jacket (like I do) everyday in the summer, winter and any season.

Also bullying, women don't get bullied because of their breast no matter how big. They're supposed to have breasts and some women may be like not all guys like big girls big breast blah blah blah, kill yourself. there's some guy out there that likes big women, no girl and I mean none at all like a man with breast, imagine your man having breast bigger than yours... think you could impress him?

Swimming!

Yeah some big guys hate swimming believe it or not, I mean how could somebody hate going for a good swim? I'll tell you hot.

Taking our shirts off: Some guys care, some don't. It depends really on if the guys insecure, or not. I am insecure.. so no I don't take my shirt off.. You know what its like to want to take your shirt off and impres women but cant? It sucks.. I remember one time in the 3rd grade as a field trip I went swimming and my teacher told us if we didn't take our shirts off we couldn't swim so I took mine off.. Everybody laughed at me i still went swimming but as soon as i got home I just laid down and cried...

Exercising!

This picture explains it all

"Do something about it" " Drop the weight" How can we? Everytime we try to people stare and tease us... I remember once I was jogging and this girl from my sisters church goes

"Hey, look at you jogging and your boobies just bouncing everywhere" I stopped jogging and walked home, so no.. we can't really "lose it" because of the people around us. We'd usually do it on our private tine and usually during our private time we have no equipment... and no way to be able to drop enough pounds to get abs.

Ab expectation

Girls (especially online) expect guys to have abs. I've been asked if I had abs.. getting abs isn't an easy job trust me. It takes years of dedication a lot of people don't have.. No we don't have abs I'm sorry. Next time you talk to a guy online or whatever don't expect him to have abs ok? Please don't.. You can expect him to look average but don't expect abs.. The abs could be a surprise but dont expect it ok?

Of course we want abs... We don't like having boobs.. And if it was easy.. Trust me! I would not have boobs right now.. I really really wouldn't.

Penis size!!!

What all you sicko's were waiting for.

Ever see a guy and see how big he is and assume his penis must be big since he is? Think again.

This man in the picture has probable a 2 - 3 inch penis, no that big lump isn't his penis, It's extra fat. big guys have smaller penises that really skinny guys. A lot of that fat covers up the actual size of the penis so when you pull down a big guys pants dont expect it to be over 4 inches ok? You will be very disappointed? Me, since I'm very tall I don't look as big but still don't expect much from me im 6 inches because of genes so I got off lucky and I'm only 6 inches if a push some of my pelvic fat back, so again just don't expect a big guy to have a big penis ok..

I could go on and on and on i have at least 6 more i could think of but i don't want to overdue it

Just don't expect much from us big guys ok? But we do have feelings.. Probably more than you think.. And I think its harder on men because as women.. guys will still like you no matter what your size is someone out there will love ever bit of you no matter how big,

But no female wants a man with breast, its just not happening..

Tell me what you think and if i've missed anything, if you have tips on this please please post about some tips for me, and other people. and here are some things I left out but I will tell you about if you really want to know

Motivation

Diet

Intercourse

Hugging

Public activities

Sports

[apple24]

You want advice? First start by accepting yourself as beautiful! NO ONE WILL Hold YOUR HAND AND TELL YOU Your amazing. Hell I am FUCKIN Fuck! Did I think anyone will ever love me! HELL NO! lol You know what love yourself and smile! Just be happy! Don't tell yourself you can't run because you got boobs! Fuck what they think! CUZ at the end of day you are all that matters! Please don't compare your body or your brain to others! You got believe your amazing in your own way! You know what today challenge yourself wear a tight shirt let your boobs saggy and smile! Show the world that you have more depth than the outside. I am not all talk! lol Today I showed my jelly rolls and Of course got my parents and people looking at me like a gross slop! lol YES IT HURTS! but you know what Fuck it! I DON'T WANT PRETTY! I want love right now and right here. Even if I'll always be consider from people around me ugly and fat and stupid and slow and whatever you want. But it time to wear what you want and do everything you want because you only live once! <3 Please PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF APPLES! LOVE! SHOW OTHER GUYS LIKE YOU THAT YOU CAN BE REALLY truly HAPPY! Fuck what the media says! Fuck if you don't fit the mold! Love! LOVE! LOVE YOU! Stay positive!!! And when you feel worthless remeber those people also are insecure. They are just afraid of become big. Oh if I knew you... I'd give you a hug and take you for my long jogs. I jog because its what I am passinoate about lol Yeah! I actually like it. lol Please you don't have to live a life of self hate! You can change! Start with your heart! <3 Start with your mind!

[apple24]

Everytime you feel like your gonna say something negative... Stop... and think positive... So you feel gross... STOP... I am beauty and deserve everything like any other human! I deserve love and respect and kindness. I deserve to take care of myself and hang out with others!
Sincerally, Queen Apple! <3 Of G@G!

[myTake Owner]

yeah i try to love myself but its hard when you have a body like this
there's nothing to really love about it

[apple24]

Not the outside the inside!

[apple24]

Give yourself a chance don't reject yourself! Your all you got! Be your lover!!!

[Hddhdhdhdd]

Damn girl, you got such a strong personality, respect!

[Touglyforfemales]

LMFAO anyone who believe's this crap needs to be shot.

[apple24]

@Hddhdhdhdd Thanks (: lol! I really do care and I am not all talk! I try my best and I do try to give myself a chance! <3 Sure I'll admit it sometimes gets on my nervous how pretty and perfect some other girls look. But I am me and I won't apologies for it! (: This is me! This is what you can see but you just haven't meet my inside yet lol! I am just done with what the media feeds me! I want different! (: Anywho! byee!

[apple24]

@Touglyforfemales *Rolls eyes!

[Touglyforfemales]

Hey if other wanna fall for it let them I for one ain't going to.

[Rawrzz]

Political correct winner.

[apple24]

@Rawrzz how? So you rather him stay sad alone and upset than be happy. Sure he can try to change but he should love himself. Yes the world cruel and you can't control that. People will always be like your fat no-one loves yous BS! Fuck people like that! I have a choice to let the negative thought ruin my life or live a happy life. I rather be happy. (: So stop trolling!

[Rawrzz]

It's inevitable to compare yourself to others. And, pretty sure a 16 year old boy wants to get laid. You're basically telling him "Oh, just forget about all your desires, 'because you're beautiful just the way you are'. Though I didn't read all of it. Your point of fuck what they think is valid, when it comes to him preventing himself from exercising because of other people. Your emphasis was on "you're perfect just the way you are." Clearly, he is not. He's going to die at 35, weighing that much. All your lovey dovey nonsense just encourages that he's fine just the way he is. People should care what other people think about them to some degree. It gives you goals to reach. With a "fuck em all" attitude, it just encourages stagnantcy.

[myTake Owner]

@Rawrzz
im going to die at 35?
and you're both right...
i do wanna love myself...
but this isn't the me i wanna love.

[apple24]

@Rawrzz Well you didn't read it all thats all the fuckin way! Why should he hate himself while he tries to lose weight! WHY? Is getting laid all guys care about? Thats pretty shallow? Don't ya think! I am sure guys have more depth than what meets the eye. Having self esteem is not bad! Its good and healthy to care about yourself. Its good that he want to workout and fuck it if people don't like that he working out! Why should people like you put him down from running just cuz he has fat! I have fat and I don't care. Your to young to dumb to understand the media fuck with our brains!

[apple24]

@MyTakeOwner! Dude of course I want you to improve! Hell I want to imporve as well. But you know losing weight doesn't happen over night. You need to be happy right now with yourself to grow some self respect. Little by little you'll get better. But I want you to enjoy your life while your body is changing (: @Rawrzz is just a fuckin troll! I never said I didn't want you to not change! I want you to love yourself while make small process. Don't get discourage if after a year your still big. But your not as big! (: lol I been trying to lose weight since forever and here i am (:

[myTake Owner]

yeah
i guess i do have to love myself because if i dont ove myself then who will
any by a year, i want to drop at least 45 max 60
its not really how much i weigh its about how much i look like i weigh actually
i mean if i can drop at least 20 pounds and get rid of these breast id be more than satisfied and the other guy relationships and stuff like that i want my goals to come first
it sounds good but at the end of the day who would want to be in a relationship with me looking this way.. so i try not to think much of it

[apple24]

Yeah I understand!!! But don't be to hard on yourself. You'll work on it. Slow and in your own pace. I just don't want you to be hating yourself while you try.! Grow to love yourself and the things you do for you. So when you do get smaller you already gain inner self esteem! (:

[Rawrzz]

Getting laid and survival is all anyone cares about. Propagation is pretty much the point of humanity. Particularly to boys in puberty, yes. And I'm 6 years older than you. -.-; How exactly does that make me young.

@OP
Er. Maybe not? :D But, early, maybe.

[ShayanMortazavi1]

Nice speech

[DarkHumorRUs]

I'm the same as you with my wiener size. It sucks but I doubt it'd be a problem with sex.

Also, I can't remember for the life of my when exactly I started getting a belly, because I know I didn't have one in most of elementary school.

I haven't been to a public swimming pool for a while though. I've had to make up reasons I don't wanna go with my family and they don't seem to get it's because I'm fat.

This is just another reason I can't wait til I'm 40, cause I have the body of a 40 year old, not an 18 year old.

[DarkHumorRUs]

*for the life of me

[WhiteSteve]

I appreciate your take, bud, and I felt compelled to give you a couple key pointers to help you out, at the risk of sounding like another "just drop the weight" person.

Dropping weight isn't that difficult IFFFF you go about it the right way. Step one: join a gym. There's just no way around it. Save up some money if you need to, but make that top priority. You can jog and all that outside, but for what you want to be doing, you need to be able to see what your heart rate is. There's probably a Planet Fitness or something in your area, you drop like $100 at first and it's like $10 a month after that, totally affordable.

Step two: get on the stationary bike. I find this to be easiest, as it's easy to sit there and hold the hand sensors for your heart rate without interrupting your rhythm. So your heart rate is EVERYTHING. Can't stress it enough. EVERYTHING. You want to do at least 30 minutes, and ideally, 45-60 minutes of cardio, operating within your "fat burning zone, which is in the window of 60-70% of your max heart rate. Your max heart rate is determined by the simple formula of 220-your age. I did the math for you, your "fat burning zone" is between 122-142 beats per minute (bpm). Good news: getting to that heart rate isn't really even that strenuous. I like to put it to a high resistance level to get my heart rate up quickly into my zone, then lower it as needed to keep myself at my target bpm range. Your legs won't be churning all that fast, it really is fairly leisurely. But you'll sweat bullets, haha. And the optimal time to do this is first thing in the morning on an empty stomach. Your body is starved for fuel at that point and goes to your fat reserves for energy. You burn 3x as much fat doing it that way compared to later on in the day. So it's not worthless to do it later, but you almost feel guilty for not doing it early because it's so much more efficient, but even if you can't work out in the AM because of school or whatever, it'll burn fat regardless. Try to do it every other day, at least. And great news: those first few pounds will FLY off. Your body doesn't want that excess weight, so it sheds easily.

Running low on space here so I'll wrap up with motivation. First, I understand being self conscious. Maybe someone might even snicker behind your back, to be totally honest. And you know what? Fuck 'em. See how it feels when you're down 50 lbs and everyone is telling you how good you look and how much admiration...(continued)

[WhiteSteve]

... they have for you making a positive change. I've seen people do it plenty of times, sometimes even on a less drastic scale, and believe me, the "hey, look at the big guy on the treadmill, hahaha" to "goddamn, bro, you look like you lost a ton of weight" transition happens faster than you'd imagine. All it takes is a commitment from you. You just have to say to yourself "what could possibly be more important than taking care of my physical self?" A guy told me a long time ago "do something 21 days in a row and it will become a habit", and I don't know if that's a hard and fast number, but the point is still well-taken. If you go to the gym for a month and try to eat relatively clean, you WILL see progress, and you won't want to MISS going to the gym, seriously. I used to love to lay around and eat badly and play video games and whatnot, and it just changes when you commit. In three months you'll be SHOCKED, and so will everyone else, I promise you. A year from now you could...

[WhiteSteve]

... be down a 100 lbs if you put your mind and body to it. It just comes down to discipline. You have to want the change. You have to be sick of what the others are saying but at the same time, don't give a fuck about them. Like I said, see what they're saying to you when they barely recognize you from your old self and dream about how good that's going to feel. I just got done cutting some weight myself after working a sedentary job for the past few years and eating on the run at fast food joints, etc. I never got huge, but I was definitely dumpy and dissatisfied with myself, and I wanted the old me back. 6 months later, I'm in maybe the best shape I've ever been in, at age 37 with a post-30 metabolism. I have two motivational phrases I live by: "make progress, not excuses", and "all you have to do is do it." So I wish you the best, and I hope you consider giving this a go, it will change your life, for real. Feel free to hit me up if you have questions or need pointers👍 Good luck!

[myTake Owner]

Thank you for this,
i actually used to do an hour on the treadmill.
when i went then i would go down to this room and.. its like a room where you have a ball and a tennis racket and hit the ball up against the wall and it would bounce back i have no idea what its called but that would get my heart rate way up.
i could feel it when i woke up the next day
in my head im thinking
"Its working."

I want that mindset again.
im told all the time not to care what others think
and me believing it i did stop caring and since i stopped caring i stopped trying to change myself and put the weight back on.
its easy to care what people think about you when they say something nice
but then you're told not to care what people think about you
no motivation
hardly any dedication
but desperate to reach where i want to be

[thewanderingme]

joining a gym won't help to lose much weight, it just helps turn the fat into muscle. only diet affects weight much.

[dipta]

I think you mean squash (the sport).

[dipta]

@Asker

[BlueCoyote]

I can understand you in many ways. I myself am nowhere near your weight but I'm a little chubby too. I'm around 90 kg. which corresponds to roughly 200 pounds. I do have the breast problem a little bit (I hate it too) and I also have the penis problem just a little bit. It's not very bad in my case but I'd love to be 30 pounds lighter.
What I hate most about being chubby or overweight is that so many people don't understand what it's all about. @ichot is a perfect example of that. Overweight people aren't overweight because they're just incredibly lazy or because they eat some unhealthy crap all the time. Being overweight doesn't mean you sit at home on your couch every day eating burgers and cake. For most overweight people, it's so extremely hard to lose weight NOT because they're too lazy to work out but because the way they eat is caused by emotional problems. It doesn't even necessarily have to relate to eating too much. Some chubby guys like me just have a kinda fucked-up eating style. For example I sometimes starve myself and eat only an apple for the whole days for two or three days, get terrible stomach aches and feel light-heaed, only to suddenly eat a really big meal because I'm so hungry. I know that this kind of behavior is not caused by laziness, it's only a way of coping with lots of stress and other emotional issues. Almost every person in the world has some kind of unhealthy way of dealing with emotional problems. Most of my guy friends drink a lot of alcohol. For example when my best guy friend is lovesick, he goes to a big party in a nightclub and gets completely wasted. Other people smoke a lot or they take drugs or they sleep all the time or they hurt themselves etc.. We're just unlucky because seeking comfort in eating shows much more on the outside than seeking comfort in alcohol or sleep. And being overweight is particularly hard because the bigger you become, the more miserable you feel due to the bullying etc., which in turns makes you eat more again. It's a vicious cycle that is incredibly hard to break and that is why losing weight is so tough. It's not the part about going out and running that's hard, it's the part where you're lovesick or you're under a lot of stress in school or at work and you feel like you want to die and you know for a fact that food will relieve these terrible feelings but you also know it will make you fatter and so you also feel guilty on top of everything else. THAT is the hard part.

[myTake Owner]

I know what you mean,
i actually did starve myself i weighed 305
last summer but i started eating less, and less, and less,
i still do it
its about 7 pm here and i haven't eaten its becoming a habbit.

But i heard this is bad because if you don't eat your body assumes you're starving and goes into starvation mode which makes your stomach even bigger
i didn't know this at first

[BlueCoyote]

Yeah, my girlfriend told me that too. But that's exactly what I mean. When you have this problem of being overweight, you understand this stuff (cuz being chubby doesn't mean you're stupid) but you don't have the strength to influence it. It's like being addicted to heroin or alcohol. Drug addicts are not dumb. For example my uncle died of life-long alcohol addiction 3 years ago when he was only in his mid-50s. He knew exactly that the way he consumed alcohol was very bad for him. The doctors told him time and again "your liver doesn't look good anymore, you've gotta stop" and every time he promised himself to stop but as soon as something happened again (for example a job application was turned down), he went back to the bottle. Of course it's not quite that bad for us but it's the same principle. I know starving myself is really unhealthy but somehow I still end up doing it.

[Hddhdhdhdd]

So right.

You drink to much, no problem
You smoke to much, no problem
You take drugs, no problem
But when you eat to much, than you get btand as lazy and a lot of other things.

And not eating is no solution, as soon as you eat again the pingpong is comming becaus of the starvation mode.

I normally trie to eat arround 2000-2200cal a day. But when I'm very hungy I eat a bit more, but than I go and ride it away on the bike. Becaus its better to eat for example 3000cal and reduce it by 1000 through sports than only eat 2000 becaus chances are lower that your body demand more and switch to starvation mode.

[myTake Owner]

@Hddhdhdhdd
i heard from a fitness guy on youtube you're supposed gradually start eating less calories

[Hddhdhdhdd]

Yeah. It wasn't a problem for me. Actually when I started counting the calories I ate more, because I was love sick and ate almost nothing for a couple of weeks. But when you feed the app with your weight and height and how much you move aproximately (dont lie to yorself, and dont include workouts there) it calculates what your body needs to hold your weight. For a few days count your calories (its pretty easy since it has a large dazabase and you only need to scan the products) you'll see if your gaining or loosing weight.

You can also add workouts, but you either find an calculator for it online or some exercisebikes can calculate the calories for you.

I've mad good efforts by setting my weight target to loose 0.75kg/week. Whith exercises I'm even under my daily limit normaly

[myTake Owner]

@Hddhdhdhdd
how do you keep up with that stuff

[ichot]

"What I hate most about being chubby or overweight is that so many people don't understand what it's all about. @ichot is a perfect example of that."

/facepalm

What overweight people don't seem to understand about normal people is how absurd you sound being aware of your vicious cycle and still not doing anything about it. You're like the frog that will allow itself to be boiled to death. This frustrates me and yet people like you will continue their helpless behavior and cry foul.

[ichot]

So to reduce down your block of text.. Some people are overweight.."because the way they eat is caused by emotional problems".

Not to belittle your (and others) emotional problems but it aggravates me how helpless you, OP, and most people lately have become. You 'starved' yourself? Bullshit. Have you even made the effort in to starvation? Try being homeless for a month then tell me you've 'staved'. People who have been starved aren't overweight anymore. You're belittling starvation with your hunger.

Great, you went on trying to make a point saying you're not lazy. Now how about not being so helpless and quit succumbing to your 'feelings'. You aren't stupid and clearly aware of your vicious cycle.. THEN DO SOMETHING.

"It doesn't even necessarily have to relate to eating too much"..
/both-hands-and-a-foot-on face
"Eating too much" is exactly how one becomes fat...

[Hddhdhdhdd]

What do you mean?

[Hddhdhdhdd]

I' refering to "how do you keep up with that stuff"

[ichot]

And why are you even making an attempt at starvation‽

Didn't you just say in the comments..."cuz being chubby doesn't mean you're stupid".

If one isn't stupid, surely one would find a viable long-term solution to weight loss and weight maintenance.

"you know for a fact that food will relieve these terrible feelings"
... That seems to be why most people are fat. Additionally a lack of foresight to recognize that isn't even fact.

" Almost every person in the world has some kind of unhealthy way of dealing with emotional problems."
so what? Are you going to be one of those people or not? If you don't want to be then what are you doing to not be one of those people? Just gonna crying foul claiming you're "UNLUCKY" (oh my god... I don't have enough hands or feet)?

[ichot]

@Hddhdhdhdd I think he meant..."How to do you keep up with tracking calories".

I'm no where near overweight myself but even I find that ridiculously difficult to do.

[Hddhdhdhdd]

@ichot at the beginning it was. But you get used to. In the app i mentioned you just scan the product and enter the weight of it.
The only annoying thing is to weight the things you eat. But it helped me a lot, now I've a feeling for what food has how many calories.

[Hddhdhdhdd]

But I have a goal, and if I compare the disadvantages of being fat with the disadvantage of counting cals, I know what I choose :-)

For me its motivating to see how much i "lost" today, as 1kg fat equals arround 7000cal.

[BlueCoyote]

@ichot: I'm not gonna argue with you cuz all you want to do is spread hatred. I'm not very overweight (my BMI is still within the normal margin) and I even I feel offended by your bullshit. You just want to shame people. When girls are anorexic, everyone's like "awww she's such a poor baby, she must have some real depression going on" when people are overweight, people like you think they have a free pass to let off all their bitterness and aggression of their daily life against these overweight people. I have been born with a severe physical disability that prevents me from exercising, which is part of the reason I find it hard to lose weight. Unlike you, I can't just go to the gym because I'm allowed to do things like running or weight lifting because I have a glaucoma. I'm also not allowed to play team sports because it's simply too dangerous. I've been bullied enough my whole life, I don't need any more bullying from a jackass like you. If you're so perfect and happy, good for you.

[Prof_Don]

@ichot dude your incendiary word choice is only going to get your advice ignored, you know; the Asker, from what he wrote in his Take, isn't motivated by "negative reinforcement"

[BlueCoyote]

@Prof_Don He doesn't want to give any advice. He's just another asshole who uses the internet to act out his offline bitterness. Literally the only reason he commented here was to hurt people and put himself above others. Apparently he needs that to feel good about himself. Both the asker and I were very self-reflective about our problem but that ichot moron doesn't even realize or care about that. Most overweight people are probably a thousand times more decent and mature people than skinny people like him who think being skinny gives you a justification to degrade other people and put them down.

[Anonymous]

First let me say, I think you're speaking 100% of the truth of your experience. You feel this way because these are the things that have happened to you, that people have said about you, that you're going through right now. However, at the end of the day, what is your solution? You can stay fat or you can do something about it. I'm not just saying this as someone who doesn't know anything. I am currently working on trying to not be an overweight female anymore. I just got sick and tired of being sick and tired, and feeling like crap all the time. I'm working out at home with Dvd's, some dumbbells, free youtube workouts, anything I can because I know I've been missing out on the good things in life by having to always sit on the sidelines. When you say you can't do it because you don't have a gym, that is an excuse and you know it, but its just easier to say well I don't have equipment, so I can't work out at home. I believe you when you say people were bullying you, but you most definitely can workout outside of a gym. People have been walking and working out at home forever, and if you could afford to go to a gym in the first place, then you can afford a few dumbbells and some training equipment.

You've got to first and foremost want to change and do any and everything you can to make that happen. It's hard as hell. When I started, for the first 3 months, I wanted to quit every other day, but I knew that if I did, none of the problems I had associated with my weight would change. Exercise can be a lot harder when you're bigger. You can't run as fast or at all, or lift as much, and "normal" exercises are sometimes difficult at a big size. Believe me I know, but you have to stop thinking and comparing yourself to everyone else and bring the focus right down to you and what you can do each day. You, not a friend, not a family member, you.

My aunt told me, you take it one step at a time, one foot in front of the other, moving as fast as you can until you get there. That is the only way it can happen, and she's right. For me, I made so many bad choices to get to the point where I am now, but I'm also now choosing to make the good choices to get me where I want to go, and I can only wish the same for you. Don't give up on yourself because you will find people who will believe in you, but you've got to believe in yourself if you want to change. The only time you can't and there is nothing you can do about a problem is when you're dead.

[myTake Owner]

actually starting Monday i plan on going to the gym
everyday after school from maybe 3 to 6
and im dedicated this time.. i remember going for about a month straight and i saw no change not even a pound, actually gained some
.. i know why.. it was my diet.. i drunk and still drink 2 liter sodas
all i really eat is fastfood and that was my own fault.. i was working out for nothing
all i was doing was tiring my body out, losing a couple pounds then putting it right back on as soon as i got home.
it was my own fault..
i do have equipment at home i just dont use it because i gave up..
i didn;t know any of this i wish there was someone to tell me
thanks for your feedback
its my fault that im fat i miss being able to run, i miss having friends, i miss being able to hug other people and actually have fun if my family goes somewhere like swimming... it really is time for me to change... being big is not for me.. its really not..

[Opinion Owner]

Use all the things you've said to yourself and all of us as motivation to keep going. When you get down on yourself, remember why--all the things you've listed here are why you need to go to that gym after school as much as you can. I would also suggest joining a weight loss support group, either in person, or online, especially ones geared towards teens. You need to hear from people who are supporting you and are going to help you. You can't prevent negative people from doing or saying negative things, but you can build your inner strength up and have that support place to go when you're feeling weak. Believe it or not, diet/exercise is the easy part. The mental part where you're using food and lethargy to solve emotional problems and emotional distress, and stress that can take you down. If you don't deal with the mental part and why you eat poorly, and why you feel sad, you'll keep going back to the place you are now. Don't be afraid to ask for help, and take it one step at a time.

[Minerate]

I read this and felt that I had to respond to it. In the end, it's all in the mindset. If you're happy with how you are, then that's fine. But don't expect everyone else to have the same reaction, unfortunately in this world appearances make statements, sometimes unconsciously. (Same with first impressions, as much as I hate it)

If you want to lose some of the weight, then the only person who can do that is you. (Something I've found out the hard way). You don't have to go to the gym necessarily, just having a semi-active job walking or lifting things will do it. (Working in a warehouse picking stock, I lost 20 lbs over the coarse of summer break. (~4 months) Losing weight is entirely doable, you just have to say "enough!" and start to adjust your body's movement and (usually) diet. Find a motivation to go for and just start, put some music on and gradually you'll remove some of the intimidation.

As someone currently undergoing weight loss (two years ago, I was at 225, my new job resulted in my weight going up and I'm now down from 285 to 265 lbs in the last few months) *Yes, I gained over 50 lbs in 2 years, going from a semi-active job to sedentary/desk* and having a coworker who has lost some insane weight (down from 510 lbs to 275 over a few years, something I didn't even believe until I saw the pictures); there are many ways to help. Some very strict (my coworkers diet and exercise regimen, basically removes all carbs and various other things) or a one meal a day (a lunch feast!) to simply learning another skill. (Jiu Jitsu is a great cardio and semi-strength building martial art or martial arts in general are excellent cardio / self defense).

The biggest problem (that should go away soon) isn't your weight, it's the high school atmosphere and mindset. I'll admit it's toxic at times, the high school me vs. college vs. now... ENTIRELY DIFFERENT PEOPLE! And I have to say, once you leave and go to college or get a job... NOTHING ABOUT IT MATTERS! Not one damn thing from your high school past will really matter. (Outside of legal things/graduation, ect)

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In the end, you truly control your own fate and in this case, weight. Unless it's medical, it's adjustable. If you have to, use spite... give all the people who laugh at you the *proverbial* middle finger and over time you will prove them wrong and surprise yourself.

Best of luck with whatever you decide to do, from one heavyweight to another.

[Prof_Don]

He is spot on about high school... that mentality vaporizes into nothingness after high school graduation!

[Hddhdhdhdd]

Oh dude I absolutely know what you're talking about.
I weight 150kg before something happened that changed my life. A girl was flirting with me. I mean an actual girl not a guy online pretend being a girl. And she started the whole thing. I would never ever have started flirting with a girl, or even touch her, i think you know why.
But she polished my ego so much by flirting with me. So I flirted back, started touching her, and she liked it. We even cuddled and I stroked her. I was feeling so luky that I can't really describe it. But there's no happy end, she found another guy, becaus I was moving to slowly.

BUT it changed my life, I thought what if, what if I wasn't fat? I developed such a need to get this feelings back I liked so much.
So I bought a exercise bike and ride it for about an hour a day. And if I say I'm sweating, I really mean I'm sweating so much that one towel isn't enough. I also started to count calories with an app (blue icon by the way.)
In the past 3 months I lost over 25kg and feeling so much better now. I still have too much weight and boobs :-( but I'm sure I will loose both and onday get a girl that loves me.

You can too manage it. Try an excersise bike, I wouldn't go to a gym because you only earn those looks again. And ecen more important count calories! You'll realise what and how much you are eating.

[myTake Owner]

I actually planned on going to the gym Monday,
What app is it you were talking about

[Hddhdhdhdd]

I don't want to make advertisement but if you search for count calories you should find it. Is's a blue icon with a white woman making a split. And its free (at least on android), you don't need the premium funtion wich cost a lot of mony per month

[DarkHumorRUs]

I tried to use a calorie tracking app for a month and I simply couldn't remember to input everything. So it was useless.

[rjroy3]

If you want easy tips, then here are a few:
1. Only drink water. Flavored zero calorie water is ok for now if you NEED flavor in there.
2. Don't eat breakfast first thing in the morning. Wait 4 hours to eat your first meal so that your body uses fat it has stored.
3. Calculate how many calories you should eat in order to lose weight, based on not working out at all.
4. Pay attention to the calories you take in each day so you get an idea of what is best to eat.
5. Stay under that calorie limit and Take it day by day. If you over eat one day. Don't try to "make up" for it by eating less the next day. You'll hurt yourself and only make it harder.
6. Reward yourself for sticking to your goal and reward yourself once a week by letting yourself go over your daily calories. But still count the calories on that day so you can make a wise decision on what to eat and when to stop, but still allowing yourself to splurge.
7. When it's feasible, if you can choose between driving and walking, walk instead. Take the stairs instead of the elevator.

That's it. Do this until it's a habit for you. When it's at the point that you don't have to think about it and you just do it, because that's what you do. Then consider working out 1 to 3 times a week. But that's up to you. The best thing for you is to accept where you are and make new habits now that will lead to the change you want. You can do it. Just start small. Drinking only water and eating with in your calories is a good start.

[myTake Owner]

how long do i do this until i actually see a change

[rjroy3]

You'll feel and see a change immediately. Even one day later. You just have to be consistent to see regular change

[myTake Owner]

i mean a physical change

[rjroy3]

That's what I'm talking about too. You'll see a physical change very very quickly

[rjroy3]

If you want to make it easier still. Just skip breakfast. Eat lunch, eat what your family makes for dinner. Drink only water. Results will come quickly

[myTake Owner]

I've been playing basketball the last couple of days
i haven't been this active since elementary
and my legs are killlingggggg me, and my feet.
i think it was a mistake to eat before i went

[rjroy3]

Been there lol. If you eat before basketball, give yourself 2 to 3 hours before playing. Sprinting is different from jogging. You can literally force food our of your stomach if you sprint hard directly after eating

[myTake Owner]

Does the let thing to away I remember when I first started lifting my arms would lock up
But it went away after like a week

[YoloKitten]

I know people are hard on your weight, but listen to me when I say this, think about how stupid they will look when you lose it. Just think about the fact that they can't bully you or tease you if you lose it. You just have to start. People's words shouldn't be an issue ( even though it's very hard to ignore) I hate when people mock people over their weight. What's the point? Especially when they TRY to lose it. I've never had problems with weight but I can see the struggles. The anxiety from not wearing a jacket, showing your arms with stretch marks, the man boobs, binging, trying to lose weight is hard, and when people say stuff like that it makes it so much harder.. You just need to look up my friend and you can get there. It's going to be a long road but you can. If you don't want to go exercise out in public maybe go to a private area, or even in your home, there are many ways you can exercise in your room. You can even dance. Your diet is everything though, so remember. Ok well, like I said before just keep your head up and don't give up!!!

[myTake Owner]

yeah the worsst part about it is the boobs...
you stare at them in the mirror and just hope they dissapear somehow
being overweighht just isn't fun...

[YoloKitten]

Yeah I can only imagine... even though I'm a healthy weight, I can't stand looking in the mirror and seeing my legs. When I try to look specifically at my legs I close my eyes before I look at them. I bet it can be so hard for you at times.

[myTake Owner]

yeah i wish i could get surgery
if it was offered to me id get it

[Anonymous]

I used get bullied, harassed and made a joke of at school by pupils and teachers. I glad they did this because I never realised how fat, unhealthy and immoral I was until others pointed it out. Basically my parents were professionals who worked most of the time and didn't make sure I was eating healthy and getting enough exercise, they were liberals who would volunteer at animal shelters, soup kitchens, childrens charities and raise money to help fight child abuse and to help combat childhood obesity. What they allowed me to become was child abuse and authorities should have put me in a foster home. Behind every Obese or Overweight child are bad parents.
Thankfully the school gym teacher took me under his wing and encouraged me to lose weight by never letting up on the name calling "fat ass" "bitch titties" and others to motivate me during gym class always picking on me specifically. He even give me extra gym secessions after school by having me fall in with the track team, soccer team and basketball team who all teased and bullied me relentlessly. Thankfully my the time I left school I had lost most of my fat and lost more at college until I got to a normal weight. I still keep my fitness up. Thanks to all that bullying I was saved from the miserable life you described and the serious health problems you failed to mention (strokes, heart attacks, diabetes and impotence). I owe that Gym teacher so much for pointing out how fat I was and that I should not accept being fat as normal.

[bluenose1872]

Pure hypocrisy. Neglect the kid and keep up the pretense of caring by helping charity. No offense but how low can somebody go. People know how to cover their evil with a mask in this society. You bring up a great point. Bullying. Is there instances when it's acceptable. I've been through it. I was a prick when I was a teen on drugs. Was threatening people and very violent. I got violence back in spades until it came to the point I thought everybody had turned on me but it made assess myself and I realized I'd turned into a dick. The bullying helped. I always thought it was necessary to stay grounded and identify a problem. Coz to ourselves were always perfect and can do no wrong eh?

[Opinion Owner]

@bluenose1872 www.funnyjunk.com/.../5501028
Bullying can help and in the case of obese people fat shaming to let them know they are living an immoral lifestyle.

[Opinion Owner]

@bluenose1872 static.fjcdn.com/.../...+friday_1ef0c8_5500584.jpg
This guy's friend obviously cared enough to encourage him to lose weight.

[bluenose1872]

Result eh? Getting abuse really cuts through the delusions. Its there for a reason. Kids aren't taught it its part of the package. I trust whatever comes natural

[Opinion Owner]

@bluenose1872 this killing with kindness bullshit has got to stop as its not working and kids arr

[Prof_Don]

"immoral" for being overweight? How?

[Opinion Owner]

@Prof_Don its an immoral lifestyle choice. Look up the bible. Ultimately we have the power to change our lives and bitching and moaning won't help nor will people throwing a pity party.

[Prof_Don]

Everyone gets motivated in different ways, for you the "negative reinforcement" methods of being called mean names fueled you with anger to motivate you to change (lose weight).

For the Asker, this "negative reinforcement" obviously doesn't work for him! This is DEMOTIVATING him instead of motivating him. He, like I, function better with positive reinforcement.

My dad has finally learned that his "negative reinforcement" methods get him ignored by me because all negative energy I immediately purge.

[Opinion Owner]

@Prof_Don nah he will never loose weight unless forcibly sent to fat camp as he has no will power or discipline. Shoving a sugar coatef positive reinforced donut down his throat will give him diabetes and didn't work since it was invented were as negative reinforcement has a long history. No fat people in the twenties right up until the laye eighties when all this positive jazz started.

[Prof_Don]

Read my answer... I didn't sugar coat , I just added a pinch of sugar to my words so I didn't come off mean. But I gave him the straight talk of how you can't let the actions of others bother you so much to the point of demotivation.

I've never dealt with vicious bullying although I've been overweight since a teen (and steadily getting more and more healthy)... but for his experience I can see why he will read what you said and say "fuck this guy", and dismiss all of the wisdom you wanted to provide.

[Opinion Owner]

@Prof_Don thats up to him but somebody has to be the bad guy and say "bitch titties lose some weight". Obviously there is no one in his life that cares enough about him to give it to him straight.

[Prof_Don]

You don't think the teasing from his peers can be an equivalent?

[Opinion Owner]

@Prof_Don yes and even his girlfriend needs to get in on it.

[bluenose1872]

@Prof_Don I get the negative reinforcement shit. I was missing my apprenticeship when I was 17 coz I was on the piss woth my mates all the time. My dad used to go off his nut. He'd tell me I'd end up being a toilet attendant when I was older. Made me hate the fucker and miss my work just to spite him. I ended up smashing him on the jaw when I was 18. He was actually happy about it. Thought I didn't have it in me. He obviously didn't me at all. He'd goad and push until you were ready to pick up a hammer and commit murder. Negative reinforcement is defo counter productive. I finished my apprenticeship coz of my girlfriend. She was great and patient. A fuckin oasis compared to the house

[Prettygurl12]

I never understand why people bitch about how they look.

Like... if you don't like it... go change it. Put in the work and change yourself. You bitching about it does nothing for you and doesn't make people like you any more or feel any worse for you.

So do something about it.

[hazoplmeught]

1 what if the bone structure of your face makes you ugly?

[Prettygurl12]

@hazoplmeught In today's age there are solutions to that issue.

[BarelyHoldingOn]

Yeah, if you're rich. Many people are not.

[Prettygurl12]

@BarelyHoldingOn Most people don't have that badly fucked up faces.

[BarelyHoldingOn]

But it costs a lot to get surgery on your face, doesn't it? Most people don't have that kind of money.

[myTake Owner]

@BarelyHoldingOn my mom was going to get it but she actually losses weight just by switching to diet pops I haven't lossed anything in a while

[rjroy3]

^proof that it's just not acceptable for guys to be needy lol. I'm not saying she's wrong, but a girl putting up a similar post would get a gentler and likely sympathetic response. With some tips on what to do thrown in. But you're a guy, so man up and get to work. Tough love!

[VomitIII]

Who cares if people see your boobs when you're jogging? It should drive you to lose them. You're doing a good thing, and when you get the weight off, you'll be in such great shape that you'll put them to shame. As the singer Eddie Vedder once said, "The best revenge is to live on and prove yourself".

[myTake Owner]

It is motivation
The problem is being insecure
Its different
Insecure people have s different thought process

[VomitIII]

Your problem is that your wallow in that insecurity. Part of being an adult - an by extension, helping your weight problem - is not giving a fuck what others think. Now, you might use that an excuse for not changing the shape you're in. Don't. In this case, losing weight is all for you. It will make you healthier and happier, I guarantee.

Essentially, your choices are enduring some condescending looks for a short time to live a longer, higher-quality life, or enduring condescending looks/remarks for the duration of your life. Ultimately, no one can change that but you. That motivation has to come from inside you - no one else can provide it, though I guess you could view teasing remarks as a sort of impetus. If you don't want it badly enough, you won't lose the weight. You have to accept the severity of your weight problem before you can do anything to fix it. I personally am rooting for you, as I'm sure many others on GaG are, but changing your course in life is all on you.

[Hddhdhdhdd]

I'm the one who lost 25kg again.

"That motivation has to come from inside you. ... If you don't want it badly enough, you won't lose the weight."

That's so true. I always wanted to loose weight but never wanted to do to much for it. Until I met and lost her. Before I thought that I will never get a girl, even if I'm not fat anymore. But she showed me that there is a realistic chance of getting a girl. And if she liked me when I'm fat how many woman out there could like me when I'm looking at least normal.

You really really really need to want to loose weight and are willing to do anything for it.

And belive me, holding a girl in your arms is worth all the pain ;-)

[VomitIII]

@Hddhdhdhdd Props to you, sir. Asker, this is what it's al about.

[myTake Owner]

losing weight is one of the hardest things to do
i wish i knew that while i was gaining it

[Hddhdhdhdd]

The biggest problem is this doom loop.
I was a bit overweight (nothing to worry about) but the other kids started to tease me.
So I ate, because eating makes you happy. But I got fat from it, and they even more teased me. It only got better at university, where no one commented on my body. So I felt better even if I still gained weight because I was used to eat too much. But this selfconfidence should impressed her.

I know it's hard to brake the circle. Especially without making the experience that thankfully happened to me. But maybe you can gain strengh from my telling. You are younger than me, it's not to late.
And if you are about to give up when you are doing sports, always think about what you are doing for. Think of all those beautiful moments you will have, they are so fu*in worth the pain!

[myTake Owner]

@Hddhdhdhdd
Believe it or not i wasn't always big,
i used to be skinny as a pencil literally but it was in elementary.
around the 4th grade i noticed me gaining weight because of an eating habbit i had to cure my depression.
i wish i never ate like that i miss being that skinny kid so bad.

[Hddhdhdhdd]

I was skinny too until I was arround 8 or so, then I started to gain and gain and gain.

Even if I'm not with her and was so love sick when she "left" me, I'm so thankful, because she changed my life. i never said her, but I think when I reached my goal, I'll contact her and try to meet her, not to get together but just to say thank you.

[Jack_S]

Good take for a young lad.

Im a large guy trying to lose weight. My will power against food is shite. If there is a bag of chips in my house, it sits on my mind like a splinter until I go and eat them.

You're 16 and i imagine living at home. That make it very hard to control what food makes it inside your house.

Something to try; get an app called 'lose it' (free ftw)
You can use the app to track calories throughout the day (has a fantastic bar code reader - you can scan foods right into the log)

As sad as it is, simply tracking the calories in was enough to see how out of control i was and helped me to reel in some habits.

[myTake Owner]

you scan the bar code and it tells you if its ok to eat?

[Jack_S]

No, just the calorie content. It take a literal second to read and log, and forces you to be aware of what's going into your body

[YourFutureEx]

I am obese but not overweight. I accepted myself and promised to do hard work. I did and already doing it and I'm just a mere inches away to get my desired shape. I'm not one of those who give fuck about criticism. I can relate to EVERYTHING you wrote, but I'm proud that I'm very good now.

[myTake Owner]

im 291
my dream weight is around 200

i have a lonnnggg way to go here..

[YourFutureEx]

You SHOULD try. People used to call me lazy and fat too, but I just can't die imperfect and that insanity helped me.

[myTake Owner]

yeah im tired of being called lazy
when i first started gaining weight people at school called me "big juicy"
and my sisters been calling me manboobs for a couple years now
she doesn't even call me by my name she just says
"hey manboobs"

[YourFutureEx]

Don't worry dude. You still have a HELL LOT of time. You'll be fine. And you have good genes too ;)

[myTake Owner]

i have good genes? how

[YourFutureEx]

"im 6 inches because of genes so I got off lucky"
Your own words.

[myTake Owner]

oh i thought you were talking about my weight
i was wondering what genes had to do with it

[YourFutureEx]

Some people can gain/lose weight easily.

[myTake Owner]

most I've lost was about 10

[ichot]

"we can't really "lose it" because of the people around us"
Oh fuck off. That's the most used excuse to justify your own helplessness. "It's someone else's fault I'm the way I am." How about doing something for your own sake?

"We'd usually do it on our private tine and usually during our private time we have no equipment... and no way to be able to drop enough pounds to get abs."
More excuses. You don't want to put in the hard work to become fit, you just want easy abs. Otherwise you would have found ways to get there by now. Equipment isn't even a requirement.

"But we do have feelings.."
No shit you have 'feelings'. EVERYONE has feelings but most successful people don't let their feelings overcome their objectives/goals.

[ichot]

@Apple24 "First start by accepting yourself as beautiful! "
... No. Be aware of yourself as an individual and not some narcissistic goblin

[epiper888]

I understand your point here, but it's extremly hard for some people to lose weight, I'm in good shape but I can somewhat feel bad for this kid, there's no need to be so harsh

[ichot]

@bluecoyote Ah, Blocked.

"spreading hatred" oh. So that's how you see it when your points are addressed and criticized? Albeit blunt and not restrained. Being 'nice' over these matters is a waste of time to be frank. I've dealt with far too many overweight people weaseling themselves out of anything and everything with excuses and excuses.

I love how people bring up their own conditions way after the case. Do you want to make an argument about YOU or overweight people? There's quite the distinction now, which you ever so conveniently left out. Is it my fault you're offended? Yeah, I assumed the most safest assumption. Majority of overweight people don't have physically detrimental conditions.

Regardless of your condition, I still stand by my point. One must take control of their own life. And for most overweight people, holding their life by the reign isn't what they are doing.

[Lynx122]

You should keep jogging and exercising even if people make fun of you. First of all you'll get through life better if you're not always concerned what people think of you and secondly it's the only way you're going to lose the weight so it's your only chance. It's not going to get any better if you don't do something. Don't use the taunts as a excuse to quit just keep going and then your situation will actually change. You can also do jumping jacks etc inside. Anyway if you don't change what you're doing you won't get a different result don't expect the world to change to fit you, you have to change.

[myTake Owner]

this is true
no matter how much i try not to care about people making fun of me i do
and there's only one way to stop that..
loving myself isn't an option because... this isn't me.

[26ukdude]

I've done CBT and I will tell you want the problem is here, its your attitude and mindset. It's a cycle of negativity and you are giving excuses not to change so you remain fat and then complain and it goes round in a circle.

I have lost a stone since last year and aim to lose another becuse I was overweight and I was told to lose it by a nurse and I didn't like how large I had become and you know what, I got my fat ass out there and laughed with the guys who said I was big and exercised even when I didn't want to and I;ve forgotten the amount of times I wanted to by that cream cake or chocolate bar but didn't. No one said it was easy, instead of looking for reasons not to do anything about it, find reasons to do it. And remember, the only person who can do something asbout it is YOU.

[Anonymous]

Honestly mate, I get you've gone through some stuff and it builds character and personality. Doesn't have to be so bloody bad if you take something good out of it.

Now you obviously do not want to be fat. Well, you are. That's the reality of it. And you should get back to walking, jogging, working out. If there's some idiot girl who makes fun of it, ignore her. A year or two from now you would be the guy she secretly wishes she could date. It is all about having the determination to make yourself do it. Every day. For months on end. Maybe more.

And yes, that's f*cking unfair, because I was born with the metabolism to eat three pizzas a day, every day, candy and beer on top and still be slim. Well, you know what? Some of us get lucky. You didn't but if you want it you do have to go get it. Make up your mind, you do or don't. And when you do, don't quit. You will love yourself for it one day, we both know that.

[Opinion Owner]

And Oi, if you're going for it. Start today. Up and go. No excuses. Feel free to make a schedule and put Xes on the days you do or anything else. Up you go. 30mins or so of fast walking is a good enough minimum. Chop chop. No compromise. That's how you get results. Off you go. It will feel wonderful having started.

[Anonymous]

Tape your boobs down before you run... I used to do it before I discovered the sports bra. It'll push them in and stop them from jiggling all over.

Don't make excuses... that's how to never get anything done. Work out in your home and start with some simple cardio... you don't even need anything for that except you, a good pair of shoes and a glass of water. Measure your waist before you start, take a before picture and get on the scale, every couple of weeks repeat so you can follow your progress. Goodluck!

[myTake Owner]

tape them down...
if someone caught me doing that id die right there on the spot

[Opinion Owner]

And how would anyone know unless you told them? Do you normally rip your shirt off in public? No one ever knew I did it and I did it forever! Also even if they did who cares, you'll have the last laugh when you are shedding pounds like no ones business.

[myTake Owner]

that would be lying to myself
id need a lot of tape because they're tthick i just want them gone for good

[Opinion Owner]

Or you can just keep thinking of excuses and not change anything, whatever floats your boat. It's your life!

[dipta]

If you run a lot, your nipples will get sore fron rubbing against the shirt... not because of being fat either. Might as well just tape a bit :P

[mistixs]

Actually research shows that men care more about looks in relationships than women do.

& Plenty of girls get teased for having big boobs - and *especially* for having small boobs.

What is hugging like?

[myTake Owner]

We don't big people.
The only person I ever big is my mom.
Nobody else, no matter who it is a simple handshake is all we do unless it's someone as really care about.. Like family
And if you ever see a guy with man breast and he doesn't guy you that's why

[myTake Owner]

Hug*

[ManOnFire]

@mistixs Not gonna agree with that research. Women often are the ones who see looks as worth much more than men do, to the point of caring about it even in other women, who they're not dating.

[BlueCoyote]

I don't quite agree with the breast/chest thing because yes, some girls get teased for their boobs but it's still different. I don't think a lot of big-breasted women get teased... unless they're somewhere in the G-cup or AAA-cup zone. Also, relatively few guys tease girls about their boobs. Guys know how insecure girls are about it and so we're raised to understand that it's not okay to laugh about a girl's boobs. On the other hand, it's totally okay to laugh about overweight guys' boobs. In fact, I've read several opinions on GaG written by WOMEN who used words like "man boobs". I can totally see how it must be very difficult for overweight guys.

[ManOnFire]

@BlueCoyote You ALSO made an excellent point. Very true.

[Hddhdhdhdd]

@BlueCoyote yeah its different. I once were waiting at a fastfood restaurant. In front of me were about 4 girls talking about their boobs sizes. Suddenly one of them said: look this guy has bigger boobs than me (she actually had pretty decent ones). I think no girl can understand how you feel in such a moment.

[myTake Owner]

@BlueCoyote
this is true my sister calls them man boobs when she's trying to make me sad

[myTake Owner]

@Hddhdhdhdd
must've sucked,
worst thing someone said to me was when my oldest sister looked at my chest and said
"ha, yours are starting to get bigger than mine"

[Hddhdhdhdd]

Your own sister? What the...

[myTake Owner]

@Hddhdhdhdd
yeah she means

[Checkers82]

I've had the reverse happen to me. A larger guy friend of mine looked at my chest and said "even my boobs are bigger than yours" and kind of laughed at me for being flat.

[mistixs]

@Checkers82 same. being called flat-chested for a girl is like a guy being told he has a small dick. luckily i've developed self-confidence and now i'm happy with my breasts and body no matter what anyone says

[myTake Owner]

yeah this may be true
but...
girls can eat to make their breast bigger
and when they get pregnant the size automatically increases...
there's nothing men can do about penis size..
if you're small...
oh well.

[mistixs]

no we can't? it's all based on genetics. there's absolutely nothing a person can do to make their breasts bigger.
& breast size may increase with pregnancy but pregnancy decreases the desirability of the rest of your body (stretchmarks, weight etc) and also causes breasts to sag too

[myTake Owner]

having boobs for a man
is like...
growing a mustache for a girl.
you dont want it... everyone can see it
and your gender isn't supposed to have it. you get teased because of it and there's nothing you can do about it... you shave it but it keeps coming back...
what boy wants to kiss a girl with a bigger mustache than him
what girl wants to hug a guy with bigger boobs than her

[YourFutureEx]

No. Just no!

[steven7890789]

@mistixs women care about looks too.

[Fearless_banana]

That sounds inaccurate lol. Not trying to instigate anything with you but in my experience women are shallow as fuck. Could just be a part of the bodybuilding/aesthetics culture out here in socal though.

[mistixs]

@Fearless_banana Which gender spends the most money on makeup? cosmetic surgery?
Which gender spends the most money on looking at attractive people of the opposite gender?

[Fearless_banana]

I'd say women but there are SO many other variables to that issue other than mens expectations.

[Sexualchrist]

Hahahaha! Moobs! (Man-boobs)

Seriously get your fat arse to the gym and don't worry about people who make fun of you. That's the whole point! People are making fun of you because you're fat!
So dedicate every waking hour to losing weight.
Do everything! Herbalife, weight watchers, ab doer, seven minute abs, fat blaster, days in the desert with only water if you have to, lipo suction!

Dedicate your life to all this for just 6 months out of your precious fat bastard life and I guaran-fucking-tee you will get thin.

So go! Right now! the power of now! Yes right now! Get the fuck off the couch before it falls through the floor from the weight of your fat arse and go!

Why are you still sitting there reading this? Fucking get going now, go!

[Prof_Don]

um... the incendiary way you wrote this will cause him to ignore your advice. Don't totally sugar coat your words, but add a pinch of sugar to get rid of the sourness and bitterness.

[Sexualchrist]

@Prof_Don Yeah but I am who I am so...

[Prof_Don]

Did u type all the above to give advice and guidance to a fellow male,

or to pass judgment to put a fellow male down to make yourself feel "good"?

#BeHonest #NoOptionC

Caus if u aimed to do the former, based on how he has reacted to negative reinforcement in the past via his Take... you wasted your time typing that answer.

[Sexualchrist]

@Prof_Don I wanted him to take into account the fact he's bitching about something which he caused in the first place and he is the one who also holds the key to improving himself.

So I want to help him but he also needs a kick up the arse which hopefully finds one of his cellulite dimples so it has a better chance of getting through to making him realize how piss weak his attitude is and that bitching about it is not the answer. Actually sucking it up and doing something is.

[bluenose1872]

Even if your thin it's hard to get a woman nowadays. They expect far too much. Far more than they deserve most of them. They get led by the media. They all think theyre perfect 10s when most are imperfect 4s if they're lucky. It never used to be like this. Women used to be ladylike and men used to be gents. The standards have slipped badly. Even a big guy like yourself could pull a woman coz they genuinely valued what was inside. I worry nowadays though. Women are killing off simple relationships with their mad standards that nobody understands

[Prof_Don]

I agree, nowadays I notice the character flaws in many women more and more, and I don't give excuses because I want to have sex with them.

My personality/character standards are really high because I hold myself to a high moral and character standard... and over time I realize how saddening that so many women bore me.

[bluenose1872]

@Prof_Don women were always boring but now they've got that entitlement attitude as well. Trying to tell me what to do and demand I be a certain way. Fuck you you know. Girls used to be easy going and enjoy letting a man take the lead. Not now. They think they can be us with a lot of will power. It's like a duck trying to kid on its an eagle. Most guys are sick to the back teeth of them. With some exceptions most of them just aren't sharp enough to take charge of anything. Being bitter and angry doesn't make you competent at anything