Any ideas for weight loss for my mom?

[DaniJ]

My mom is overweight, and is constantly complaining that she is overweight. She eats pretty healthy, and has started serving healthier foods to the whole family, but she's right in peri-menopause, so it's harder for her to lose weight.

My biggest frustration is that she isn't really trying to exercise, but keeps complaining about being overweight and asks me for help. I've suggested going on walks up the hill in town, but she can't do that because she has stomach problems and needs to be near a bathroom. I've suggested taking a free exercise class with me, but she won't do that because she doesn't want to commit the time when she has failing relatives that might need her help. She can't go biking because her knees are bad. She always has a reason, and I need her to realize that life isn't going to stop for her to decide to exercise.
I'm going to try giving her some tough love and force her on the idea of exercise, but I need a list of things that she might be able to do. I'm sticking with the exercise class, because I think she can deal with it, and I don't think it would be a problem, but I want to load her up with a BUNCH of things that she can do so she gets the picture. Any ideas?

[DodgersGM]

It's tough because, other than being supportive, there's really not all that much you can do to help her.

My experience has been that people are basically going to do whatever they want, and they're going to do whatever it is that they do when THEY are ready.

I can understand that it's probably annoying when complains and yet does nothing about it. That would get irritating for anyone to have to hear all the time.

If I were in your shoes I would just be supportive and try and offer solutions (give her attainable goals both as it relates to diet and fitness) where you can. And yeah, at a certain point it might not be a bad idea to give her some real talk and cut through the BS if she keeps feeding it to you.

[ImCoasting]

Tell her to use myfitnesspal, she can track her calories there. Tell her to walk for an hour a day at a quick pace. She can do it in 2 30 minute increments.

[ImCoasting]

Also swimming is good because it's low stress on joints. But she should actually be swimming and not floating around

[timetowaste]

Listen. Weight loss is 80% diet, 20% exercise. In the grand scheme of things, diet is absolutely the majority of it. Not that exercise doesn't help, but if she's already maintaining an appropriate diet and not seeing many results, exercise isn't going to greatly improve that. Of course it has other benefits. You don't have to go somewhere and do things.. you can do plenty of things at home. YouTube has tons of workout videos on it. Turn one of them on and follow along.

[knotme]

I know you love your mom and ALL, but you can't make someone what to live a "healthier" lifestyle, they have to want to. If you really want to help her, when you go shopping help her pick out health item, so if the food is not in the house she can't eat it, because what you eat is 80% of the battle

[DaniJ]

I agree, but she's already doing so much in the food department. We've already kicked all the unhealthy food out, and most of our dinners are homemade from fresh ingredients. What she needs is exercise, and she "knows" this, but she won't do it, and then keeps asking me to help her lose weight.

[knotme]

Can you really say she is not still eating too many calories?

[biggie90]

Well that's tough. Cissus would help bad joints if thats whats wrong with her knees. And eating healthy doesn't mean she's not getting too many calories watch that too.