I have a strong feeling that I won't be able to have children?

[Anonymous]

My grandmother, on my Dad's side, had difficulties to be able to conceive a baby. But when she finally did, she gave birth to a girl, but the baby had a lot of problems and died 3 days later. My grandmother was heartbroken, so she went and tried to conceive another baby, and when she finally did, she gave birth to a boy, my Dad. He had breathing problems and had a high chance of dyeing, but fortunately he survived. He's an only child.

However, every woman is very fertile on my Mom's side of the family. Her side of the family has never had any problems with having children, and I have many aunts and uncles, and a LOT of cousins.

The reason why I feel like I'm going to end up like my grandmother, is because my breasts are the same size as my grandmother's, which is only a B cup. Every woman on my mom's side have double (some triple) D's and my mom said when she was my age, she was already filling in a C cup. My sister has this big boob blessing, but I don't.

I know that may seem like a stupid reason, lol, but whatever. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep because of this fear. Because I really want children when I am older, and I've already figured out how many I want, what their names are going to be, and how I'm going to raise them.

I keep telling my mom about all of this and how I want to get checked out at the Doctor's or something, to see if I'm fertile or not. But she just shrugs it off and always the same thing. "Who cares? You're only 15. You shouldn't worry about this until you're much older."

I know I shouldn't worry but I can't help it. So, advice?
(sorry if this was very long._.)

[madhatters4]

you're only 15 you shouldn't be getting fertility tests at this age. in fact you really shouldn't be worrying about your fertility until you are considering having children. you also have to consider that conceiving a child is much different than it was when your grandmother was young. there are so many things they can do for women who have issues. and lastly, your breast size really bares little meaning in regards to your fertility. perhaps you got your father's genes when it comes to breasts but it doesn't mean other things are going to necessarily follow the same trait.

don't worry soo much. like your mom said, you're 15. you're way to young to be worrying about this stuff

[RBT-RS]

Just don't think about it. Also, you're old enough to book an appointment by yourself, and with patient confidentiality, your parents cannot know unless you tell them. So just get yourself tested!

[Seriousness]

i'm so sorry you feel that way :(.. you're still very young, don't worry about it. one of my biggest fear is also to become infertile. i don't think i'd be able to handle it if ever. i understand your feeling but frankly speaking if you'll go to the doctor i don't think she would take you seriously :/. for now, what you can do is to learn more about it, research more about it. there are a lot of ways to conceive a child now so try to calm down.

[Asker]

Thank you.

[Seriousness]

aww you're welcome! ^-^ and thanks for MH :)

[harakiri]

Your fear is irrational. Until you see a physician, you will not really know about any fertility issues, if you have any! Seriously! Do not stress about this, there is no concrete evidence... Chest size has nothing to do with actual fertility... Please don't cry yourself to sleep about something so silly :/

See a doctor and find out for sure! You can eliminate a huge stressor in your life.

[Anonymous]

Go to a reproductive medicine endocrinologist they can tell you the facts... even better than an obgyn

[Anonymous]

Say you want to make sure to ease your wondering mind. Say, "regardless of worrying bout it when i'm older or not, I feel like I need to know. I keep worrying about it because I would eventually enjoy to have children."

[Anonymous]

Get checked then and find out