Am I Being Paranoid? Girls opinion

[Anonymous]

well when me and girlfriend first met everything was good she was very happy and we were living the life but all of a sudden she started gaining weight and now she is trying all these diet plans to lose it she is a bigger girl so I didn't get to paranoid but my friends started telling me that this is what girls do when they are cheating start caring about appearance a lot and its got me a bit paranoid she told me "she is trying to fit back into her clothes and I want you to support me" I have had suspicion of her cheating b4 but I have been cheated on in the past so maybe its paranoia I don't know what to do I need help am I taking this to far?

[Seraphic]

I think you are being a little bit paranoid, I understand why because she has had such a change in behaviour, but I'll reassure you now, it's nothing to worry about as I have seen this from experience in my girl friends too, even married ladies that I know who, in different ways changed over time, sometimes it was weight issues, other times it was other things like being overly stressed with their kids or even relationship stress leading to major changes.

You don't need help, just reassurance and advice, you need to talk to her, but first I'll help give my opinion and advice.

Girls are very conscious of their appearance and even more so with gaining and losing weight. It is completely normal behaviour and it is unlikely to be a sign she's cheating, unless her behaviour with you has changed overall. For example she is caring about her appearance and not showing a big interest in you in general with other behaviour signs like being distant from you or asking for space - Then you should be worried, but if it's just her caring about how she looks, don't think on it too much. Girls like to look good overall, it's not just to do with how they look towards the opposite sex, but it is a self-esteem booster.

People in general don't stay the same, sometimes they can feel the need for a sudden change

A girl would feel more confident within herself if she felt her hair looked nice, the clothes she is wearing are gorgeous (hence why many women are stated to be shopaholics) and many have concern about their weight and figure.

One thing you should do is be open with her and talk to her more about why she's losing weight, how she feels and find ways to support her in getting her confidence higher. Reassure her also that you love her for who she is, whether she gains or loses weight and that her changes in attitude and behaviour have surprised you. I'm pretty sure she misses the weight she once was and when she looked back she felt happier and more confident. Be supportive of what she wants to make herself feel more comfortable, she has also asked you for support in this which shows she has nothing to hide from you and is tryin to get you involved in something personal with her. She is probably thinking also that because she has gained weight you are finding her to be less attractive, I sure would feel that way in her position too.

Don't look into it too much and just get involved with her and what you know she wants to do, find out more about why and then keep working on things as a couple to help her and each other. If she was cheating I think you would find more obvious signs when being involved and discussing things openly whilst spending time together.

Good luck and I hope that things will work out.

[Dela1111]

I think you're being paranoid because of past experiences. Its easy for girls to get sex but not as easy for big girls. A big girl can get laid as easy as an extremely good looking guy who is great with women... Anyway ur prob just being paranoid.