Who agrees? Fit people should stay with fit people and bigger with bigger?

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Ok hear me out. I'm pretty fit and have been with a girl a little on the bigger side before. Bc I'm fit she gets extremely self conscious about her body. Not attractive. A fit person would be ok. A bigger person wouldn't judge a bigger person

AleDeEurope · Accepted Answer

You should help her to stop feeling self conscious. So now if you meet an amazing girl that's on the bigger side, you're gonna stop yourself from getting to know her better just because she may feel self-conscious? What if she, as a person, can give you the best moments of your life? Are you just gonna let that go because she's bigger?

I don't agree with your title. People should be with who they want to be, no matter how fit or how big someone is. Self consciousness shouldn't be a problem if there's a strong emotional connection, if she knows you don't care about her body, and that you want to be with her, she shouldn't feel the need to be self conscious.

Theguyoverthere · Accepted Answer

As a guy who goes to the gym I notice that girls can get the feeling they are inferior. Since so many of them rely on looks and nothing else, when the guy looks better than her and she is attracted, she is gonna have to figure out another means of attracting him and this stumps them.

I do think lifestyle wise they struggle as well. Fat people typically lead sedentary lifestyles while fit people will want to do physically demanding activities.

xXiTacoXx · Accepted Answer

I don't agree with that. I find that it's more skinny and fit girls who think they aren't skinny enough and are more insecure about their bodies always talking about how they need to lose weight. Most of the big girls I know are secure with themselves.

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(My reaction when an already skinny or fit girl says she needs to go on a diet.)

ishplump · Accepted Answer

Weight probably does play an important role in the amount of self confidence she have. But not to say that fit people need to e with fit people and vice verses I'm bigger and been with tons of fit guys the key is to make sure you don't really care about their weight.

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

just go with what you like, that goes for everyone.

aamy811 · Answer

That's really dumb. People should just date who they like. So their insecure, make them feel better. And if you can't no big deal, just accept their company. Jut date oh you like and are attracted too

Stacyzee · Answer

She constantly kept comparing herself to you, that's why she felt insecure.
Get someone who is confident of themselves (no matter their weight).
When you find that you will hear how ridiculous the title or your question sounds.

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

Eh. My ex was on the "bigger" side and I'm skinny and small. We were ok with that. Honestly, he wasn't my "type". Cuz I like skinny, scrawny guys and my ex was stocky/husky a bit. But he was confident about his body and I thoroughly enjoyed it.

That girl may be self conscious. But not every bigger girl is. In fact, lots of big women seem to be very secure with themselves.

Adults should just date who they wanna date.

KäseChäe · Answer

If you fall in love with someone it is what it is.

I consider myself fit, but I'm willIng to love whomever. That being said, I have certain things that I find attractive in girls, and honestly I need to be attracted to someone to fall in love.

But I'm not one to tell fate where to strike.

Bethany-Louise · Answer

1) 'fit' people can be insecure 2) 'bigger' people can be confident 3) If a 'bigger' person has self esteem issues, it isn't necasarily because of their weight 4) you're a moron

GirlsLie · Answer

I don't agree, I think you should be with whoever you're attracted to, the size shouldn't matter. People have different definitions of "fit" and "bigger" and just because someone is "bigger " doesn't mean they don't necessarily have confidence.

nert73 · Answer

Who cares? So much shallowness here. I sort of understand what you mean, but I still don't see why it matters. It's all about preferences and personalities.

sammy_31 · Answer

Well yeah she would see how fit you were which caused her to feel bad. I don't think that is true and should be that way it's kind of wrong and not cool. Everyone would be with who ever they are attracted to.

LaGronio · Answer

Next time you have a thought, just... let it go. (No that was not a frozen reference, it was a Ron White quote)

Klaatu51 · Answer

i disagree... what if a fit person LIKES a bigger person and vice versa?

Your_boss960 · Answer

I don't agree. Although I do agree that slimmer people just get along with slimmer ones. However, I have a crush on a bigger guy. And I don't think he looks big at all

Random_chick_2384 · Answer

The chances are that's what they are going to do anyway. But I would date a fat person but he had to be really funny and a good person.  But I perfer fit brunttees and blond. but that's just me

rebekahj391 · Answer

People should be with whoever they like as long as they are attracted to each other.

bubble_tea · Answer

It has nothing to do with her weight, but all about to do with her age. 9 out of 10 girls are self conscious about their bodies at your age.

MaiNameIsSunshine · Answer

What is it like inside your funny little brain? It must be so boring.

Thegoodgirl88 · Answer

No I don't agree and a bigger person might still Judge another bigger person. And a fit person Might like a girl more curvy.

LovesTVDx · Answer

No. People should just go for who they like and not restrict themselves because of stupid stereotypes.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, we should start controlling who breeds with whom. lol

Prof_Don · Answer

I disagree. Different people like different things in a partner.

Anonymous · Answer

I used to be overweight, and I didn't blame women for not wanting to be with me. I didn't take care of myself and she would. That's being a hypocrite.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't care what anyone else does but that already happens for the most part

bestusername · Answer

So many men so many ideas as you know.

Princessofpersia · Answer

well then no hotties for me :(

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