Anxiety Question (Read description then declare yes or no)?

[Anonymous]

Is it considered normal to be anxious all the time? To worry about your future? Make up events that may not even take place? Assume you are going to be alone for the rest of your life and fall into a panic attack when you see someone you know get engaged/begin a new relationship? Persist negative thoughts 24/7? Assume everyone is out to get you and you are alone in this world? Fear death? Fear being in debt? Lose faith in your religion? All in a short amount of time drastically, considering the fact that it gradually began at age 12? Feel like your friends are using you/going to be betray you at any given point. THOUGHTS PLEASE

Yes

No

[TheFangirl]

You probably have anxiety, the disorder. DON'T PANIC FOR THAT. It is fine, there are a lot of things to help. You just have to find your coping mechanism. There are group therapies, and therapists, and prescription medications. There are also things you can do such as making a small book of things that calm you. I have anxiety, and I like to read. I printed out some of my favorite book quotes, and pictures from tv shows I loved and taped them into a small journal and carried it with me, and when I was having anxiety I just looked through it. Sometimes I write quotes, or names on my arm or leg, and that helps me. Find what calms you, and make something work. It could even be just making something to keep at home, and knowing when you get home, you can do more, and that might help keep you calm, just thinking of it.

[existing_not_living]

It's normal. Of course, not everyone experiences these feelings, but many people struggle with severe anxiety just like you. I have severe anxiety. I have many anxiety disorders including social anxiety. I have it all the time and it is constantly being shoved in my face.

"Feel like your friends are using you/going to be betray you at any given point." - I feel that they are going to leave me all the time. It's a constant fear of mine. I am anxious about it every day.

You are not alone at all.

[Asker]

Have you tried medication? Or consulting with a professional? Do you worry about ever finding someone either? How long have you been feeling this way. It is a terrible terrible thing to go through.

[LookatDuhDonkay]

I didn't vote because anxiety is NORMAL for ALL humans. Anxiety isn't normal when it's EXCESSIVE though.

Please look into meditation, and I seriously mean that. Don't consider it some hobby, really commit to it daily for about 10 minutes at first and try to work your way up for 20.

Find a space (could be your house, a space in school, etc) where you are alone for a short period of time, get in an upright posture and just meditate. Breathe in, breathe out.

At first it's very hard, because anxiety keeps you attached to ideas... the point of meditation is to break you AWAY from those ideas. It allows you to live in the NOW instead of unlikely or worst-case scenarios.

Look it up. (I used to suffer from severe anxiety)

[Asker]

to the extent I had it?

[LookatDuhDonkay]

Nausea, jittery feelings, feeling hot, constant negative thoughts, second-guessing the most irrelevant decisions. Yep.

[hypno-trip]

I have anxiety issues that began at 14 because that's when hormones really kick in and alter the brain. It's a life-long struggle against anxiety but basically I have to tell my brain to shut up sometimes.

[Xoxoxooo123]

i have suffered through this feeling and i reccomend you take a chill pill and talk to a psychartrist or however you spell that. the world isn't out to get you and you may need to take medication for your anxiety or learn how to cope through feelings of nervousness and anxiety. nothing is wrong with you but no what you described is not normal or healthy please seek help so you can enjoy your life again. im sure you're miserable,:/

[PT1911]

I'm constantly preoccupied by my future

But I always take a deep breath, relax, and tell myself everything will fall into place.

[ThisGurl]

It seems u have Generalized Anxiety Disorder. :) it is normal to feel anxious, from time to time though

[Anonymous]

In a sense yes, but in another sense no. Its normal to feel or think those things a lot, but not to the max extreme constantly. Max extreme occasionally, and normal levels most other times.

[BellePepper]

I think it would benefit you to speak with a professional.

[Chris011]

I have anxiety also, but it is not as severe as yours is. Have you tried medications?

[Asker]

Prozac and Klonopin. I can't get a break :(. Am I just unlucky or is there some curse on me?

[Chris011]

Some meds don't really work. Do those work for you?
You may just be unlucky haha. I think it is pretty common to have anxiety like that though.

[PiuBelloAmante]

i use to be really bad with social anxiety

[Asker]

as bad as myself? How did you fix it?

[PiuBelloAmante]

I wouldn't worry about everyone trying to get me but, i would worry about every move i made regarding talking to new people, dealing with friends and starting relationships

It takes time to change those thoughts and manage your anxiety
Go see a professional, let him know these things and they will help you out

[Asker]

So you used to worry about finding a romantic partner?

[PiuBelloAmante]

Always, always but i found one!
and then she cheated on me which brought all those problems back and afterwards my self esteem was destroyed

I had to build my self esteem up, get my confidence back and now, i am beginning to manage my anxiety better when it come to dealing with women
I just really got over my ex

[Asker]

wow life is such a b*tch man -_-.

[PiuBelloAmante]

sigh... yes it is !
but a beautiful bitch we have to deal with

[Asker]

So how old were you when you had your first gf? I am 20 and have never been in a relationship and it kind of bugs me. I try to tell myself that it will get better but i feel as if I am lying to myself.

[PiuBelloAmante]

well ihad hook ups which helped, but my first serious Gf i got at 17 years old
she came on to me
stole my heart and threw it away

trust me it will get better, you gotta just act and not think as much, the more you think about things the less actual things happen!
Be a doer!

[Asker]

But I dont really know anyone. Is that even a normal circumstance? Do you think that I am feeling sorry for myself?

[PiuBelloAmante]

Its a circumstance that affects many people, more than you think, you can't isolate yourself it will only make you crazy!

Feeling sorry for yourself? nah you sound sad, and thats ok, you are going through a rough patch
You need to get out there and make some new friends and meet a boy

[Asker]

I have another question for you. And this relates to something else. You seem to give good advice so here is the question, if you do not mind answering it:

Alright, so here is the deal. I currently work part time (making clost to ten dollars an hour) and have a somewhat decent savings account. I live with my grandmother, but we clash a lot. We had a big fight this previous Friday and I ended up leaving the house the next morning, packing my bags and headed to a resrt for the weekend. I AM SO ANXIOUS. I DO NOT WANT TO LIVE WITH HER. She nags me and makes me feel insecure. She tells my parents and her son and then they get mad at me. I feel as if I cannot trust anyone. AM I UNLUCKY IN ALL SERIOUSNESS? Should I:
1) Stay at a resort for the next couple of days and figure things out
2) Go back home tomorrow and face the situation diligently
3) Look for a room to rent
4) See if I can enroll in my college of choice in order to move in for the next semester (by myself)
5) Take out lo

[Asker]

and give me an example of feeling sorry for myself. You are 19 and I am 20, so we are close in age. How is your life now? Do you like it? Have a good job and go to school?

[PiuBelloAmante]

2) is the best option financially, you go back apologize (even if you aren't/didnt do any wrong)
try to avoid your Gma at all costs rough it out until you have saved a bit more

I moved out of my moms house a year ago and rented a room for 2 months, it was a serious struggle and i ended up moving back in a few months, it was a waste of time energy and money

Just gotta rough it out with your fam...

[Asker]

did you and your mother argue a lot too im assuming?

[PiuBelloAmante]

My life now is very busy, but i recently quit my parttime at Lord and Taylor i was making 10 an hour there
I am a college student, i dorm here, i have a scholarship so my loans aren't huge
Things could be worse, i just am constantly stressed about bills, and school work

[PiuBelloAmante]

My mom and I had a geat relationship until my brother started throwing dirt on me, he was 28 living at home with us, freaking loser, but anyway, i beat him up because he was talking shit about me to a bunch of people, i was home that day cause i called out from work, he didn't know that, so i opened my room door, and knocked him out

My mom found him on the kitchen floor, and kicked me out...

[Asker]

I will hopefully be moving into a dorm next semester. So I shouldn't resort somewhere for the next couple of days to figure things out? Do you have many friends? And how are you doing in school? Whats your major?

[PiuBelloAmante]

haha! do you mind PMing me?

[Asker]

Damn major respect! You rock! Did you want to meet my gma? ;) lol jk but yeah you seem to be doing fine in life. I am sure you will come across a sweet girl one day.

[iiWolvie]

Thats basically my life in 1 paragraph...

[Kidanis]

You might have an anxiety disorder

[Anonymous]

Ugh I feel you. I have severe anxiety :/

[Asker]

Methods to cope?

[Opinion Owner]

Deep breaths helps. Meditation sometimes helps with relaxing. Look at what you have that others don't have to ease you. Always be moving to get your mind off things. Listening to music helps and drinking tea for some reason helps. Tea kinda soothes me. Another thing is to get a stress ball that you can squeeze when you feel like panicking. Exercising helps if you feel like you're starting to panic.

[Anonymous]

every day i just get so worked up i cry sometimes