What do you think I should do?

[Anonymous]

So I am a teenager and I have this problem that I keep everything to myself and Ican't open up to people not even my mom. I think it might have to dowith my childhood as my parents are from a different country than the one I was born and live so I was discriminated for being from another country but I were in the same race as everybody. My parents didn't have the best jobs because they were foreign so we never mentioned their jobs. ( they don't do anything illegal or bad my mum is a cleaner and my dad a gardener) At school I was bullied about my nationality and my grades ( I had the best grades) and it was by one person who by lying turned everybody against me. Later my dad lost his job for a while and my brother was born with some problems so my mum was busy taking care of him. My parents never loved each other and always fight. At the time I was bullied I had nobody to turn to. My cousins who were older at the time teased me for being younger. Then we moved house and went to different neighborhood. My dad found a new job and I went to a new school. I got friends there, but I got a friend that ruined most of my friendships there. After that year ended I went to junior high school. I made new friendships and forgave the person who ruined my previous ones. But that person did it again and also made me fall apart from my studies. The second year I ended my friendship with that person forever and made my grades the best again. I started being friends again with the people that my friendships got ruined because of fake rumors, but I was the friend that got left behind. This year I finished the third year and still am the friend that gets left behind. I have the best grades, help my supposed friend when they need it, I am one of the better looking ones as I am tall and skinny and have a better face , but guys don't really approach as they know I am not slutty so I won't have sex with them unlike my friends. So what can I do? I feel lonely, depressed like I am missing out.

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Also as kid I was pressured to be perfect at everything, so I always feel insecure and like I am gonna mess up. I am quite introverted. I don't harm myself or anything and also I can't get special help as people will think I crazy so its a no

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I also have OCD I haven't been diagnosed but I have done research and have symptoms.

[bente2]

Been there. It's kind of bain to think of yourself as someone better looking, but hell, I don't know you or them and i'm about body positivity, you go gurl! As for your problem, it all seems very annoying, to say the least. I've had similar experiences, and am still currently in one. But everything will turn out okay. It's hard to trust your parents, and you don't have to. Your cousins are annoying, never look down on someone that has it hard. But trust me, things will get better. As long as you are you, don't change for others and do your best, life will turn out the way you want it to. Friends come and go, so don't worry. If you need someone to talk to, i'm here ok? I onow you don't know me, but if you ever seem to have an issue that you need an opinion on, just share it.

[523206720]

You have to suffer to be promoted in life. That is what my pastor said. Every successful and popular person that I know was a loser, a victim of bullying or a social outcast at some point in their lives - their insecurities and self-introspection helped them to understand their lives better - enough that they could overcome the humiliation they faced when they were farther along in their lives and better off then they were before. Don't let anybody compromise your grades in school - grades are EVERYTHING. Anybody who disagrees is a lazy jerk who would rather blame other people for their problems then be a decent person and earn what they have in life.

[Asker]

I have to agree. My grades are everything that I have in order to get out of this shitty country, go to law school and have the life I want. Even though I am an atheist pastors always give good advice

[Anonymous]

Please, please, please see a therapist. Don't let these haunt you forever. There are people educated to help you overcome.

[Asker]

I can't. My family will deny and if they take me they will think I am crazy. I can't be diagnosed or anything this will not give me a bad reputation as it is uncommon where I live but it might be bad for my future career.

[Opinion Owner]

Therapists do not diagnose. They just ask you the right questions so that you can figure out useful approaches to your problems. Talking to one does not mean you are crazy, on the contrary it is very smart to do so.

[Asker]

I know but where I live its not considered that way

[apple24]

Wow! Teen years! Stop it!!! hahah! Thank apple I am not what 16? haha um... Well you should feel pressure to be friends with people you don't like or feel like you have to have sex like everyone else. You do you at your own pace! Dare to be different!

[Anonymous]

I think you need to talk to a therapist and work on your issues

[Asker]

Were I live its not common and if I do people will think I am crazy and something that I can't do