How can I get my girlfriend motivated for workouts and to lose weight?

[GlennStorm]

My lovely ladyfriend is a little overweight and wants to lose about 20-30lbs to get down to the shape she wants. Trouble is... she doesn't really act like it! She is pretty good about TALKING about eating healthier and exercising more, but any attempts don't seem to last long. Particularly the working out thing. She just doesn't stick to programs well at all. Then she gets discouraged about lack of progress.
I don't want to be 'that guy' who seems to be a jerk by forcing his girl into looking like he wants her too. eg. buying her a gym membership seems risky, I don't want her thinking I'm dissatisfied with her shape - I'm not! I want her to choose how to do it, and to conquer this challenge with her own willpower. With a little guidance perhaps hehe
I should add - one big hurdle right now is that we an online couple, and not together very often, so I can't really work out with her regularly and help that way.

How can I help her?

[Thatweirdone_]

I say do it with her even though it's online
You can motivate each other and don't let her go on with excuses. Just tell her
Do this workout now and then you can relax and it will be worth it. And with her diet encourage her to not just go cold turkey and just eat healthy from day one. that usually doesn't work. Instead tell her like Hey maybe (if she adds sugar to her tea) and she put I don't know three teaspoons
Tell her to add one or two
And then eventually stop sugar un tea and that will be a huge step into cutting out sugar which can be bad for you as it stores as fat.
Just start small isy advice and be patient and be with her every step

[GlennStorm]

Thanks :) I'll definitely start trying to workout at the same time, that's a good one - if we can ever get our schedules aligned! And I think you're right - dieting cold turkey is real hard. Stuff like substituting fruit for worse sugars is a good way to start. I just can't stand over her and make her keep to the plan unfortunately. Trying to be encouraging without being bossy is difficult! Patience is good advice :)

[Thatweirdone_]

You don't have to be exact on the work puts. If your timing is different be like
Oh I did my workout for the day now it's your turn. I used to do that with my best friends and it worked haga

[GlennStorm]

That sounds like it would work well :) A bit of low level, friendly shaming to put pressure on her to keep to her work outs hehe I'll give it a shot!

[apple24]

hmmm... I love excerising but I can't eat healthy because I can't cook! I would suggest you show her myfitnesspal its an app! She can join me too! Everyone encouraging! I mean maybe go shoping with her through the phone. Maybe she feel insecure buying healthy things alone! I think your a sweet guy for thinking of her. But don't push her like crazy! Just be like let go shoping together and walk and talk on the phone or text! haha LOL... Than when she running text her lol... maybe when she walking is better! lol I am planing to do that! I can't seem to get out and run because I am thinking of apple pie! Anyway, good luck!

[GlennStorm]

I'll try myfitnesspal-thanks! I think she generally does well buying and cooking healthy, but her roommates buy less healthy things and she gets tempted haha Texting while running does sound dangerous haha, but yeah I'm gonna try working out at the same time. We'll see what happens!

[apple24]

haha! I meant walking! LOL I think she should call you ever time she tempted and to remeber that she doing this for her!

[Anonymous]

Maybe say you're getting into shape too, and share progress every other week along with pics and tips for each other.