Unhappy with ourselves

[mandingo]

I moved in with my girlfriend. Things have been going down hill. She barely kisses me, won't let me hold her, won't make out, won't sleep with me more than twice a month. ouch, and calls me a perv when I act respectfully sexual. Well we were both out of shape she went to the gym for a month and gave up to sit on the couch. And now is five three and onefifty. I didn't I lost a lot of body fat and now sport a six pack and I have never been this strong. I know this is all due to her insecurities. I always tell her how beautiful she is and how much I want her, but it never helps. How do I get through to her. How can I make her pain ease? I don't know how long I can deal with this lack of affection.

[sallyandL]

Is she depressed? That would explain the lack of affection, especially if she's depressed about her body. There's not much you can do about that other than what you are doing. Also, when you talk to her about her body, make sure she knows you're concerned about her health, not her weight- women are touchy about discussing their weight, especially with men! If she refuses to talk about it, or do anything constructive to help herself, then I don't know what else you can do, except decide if you can handle it or if you want out.

[independentgirl820]

I was in a similar situation and it was because I was not happy with my living arrangements. You really need to dig deep and look at your situation. It's not healthy for either one of you to live like that.

[loveAnsweringOldQS]

Is she depressed? That would explain the lack of affection, especially if she's depressed about her body. There's not much you can do about that other than what you are doing. Also, when you talk to her about her body, make sure she knows you're concerned about her health, not her weight- women are touchy about discussing their weight, especially with men! If she refuses to talk about it, or do anything constructive to help herself, then I don't know what else you can do, except decide if you can handle it or if you want out.