I think I have to lose 10 more pounds BUT my husband told me that my current weight is the ideal in his opinion DO YOU THINK HE IS HONEST OR WHAT?

[Anonymous]

So I used to be skinny ( got married while i was skinny) but after 3 kids I gained 20 pounds so couple of month ago I started to hit the gym and take care of what I eat and LOST 10 pounds but still I have another 10 to lose and my husband does not encourage me to do so and think that my current weight is the sexiest for me (I am 5ft 6 inches and 144 pounds ) what do you think I should do because I think I would be in my best shape if i lose that weight? ?

[redeyemindtricks]

He's probably being honest, but... why don't you just pay attention to stuff that he CAN'T fake? Like sexual attraction, horniness, etc?

I am naturally built like a handrail -- I only weighed about 125lbs as a teenager, and I'm about 6'2".
•___•
Throughout my life (not counting my pregnancies), my weight has occasionally fluctuated, but never by more than about 10 or 15 pounds.
One thing has been ABSOLUTELY consistent, though -- I've always gotten MUCH more attention from men, including my amazing husband and every boyfriend I've ever had, whenever I've GAINED those 10 or 15 pounds.

I'm talking *radical* change, here. Those extra pounds have always made men's approaches MUCH more frequent, MUCH more sexual, and MUCH more aggressive. Random men even flirt with me more in public settings.

I mean... basically, men like curves.
At the end of the day, men like women who actually look *fertile*.

So... yeah, he's probably not lying.

But, just pay attention to his sexual behavior around you. At what weight does he pay more attention to you? Get more amorous with you? Kiss you and touch you more? Grab yr ass (and other parts of you) more? Just want to fuck you more often in general? Get better erections?
Etc.
Those things don't lie.

[Asker]

I think he became a more of ass guy lately and finds curves to be attractive , maybe that's why he wants me to not lose more weight

[redeyemindtricks]

Yr ass may be a focal point, but it's more likely the whole silhouette of yr body in general. It's the way *everything* is put together. (:

[Asker]

Thanks , I think I will lose a few more pounds and leave some curves for him to play with (that should leave the both of us happy😉)

[redeyemindtricks]

I mean... honestly, I think you are overthinking this. @Red_Arrow put it well in his opinion -- Yr man should be into you, regardless.
So, it shouldn't matter -- especially if we're only talking about a difference of a few pounds. (Yr weight probably goes up and down *that* much during a normal menstrual cycle... or even if you eat a bunch of soup or other salty liquids. LOL)

He's probably trying to communicate 2 things:
1) He thinks you're HOT at the upper end of this weight range,
2) He likes yr body no matter what, so, you shouldn't feel like you have to lose weight *for him*.

But, even if you *do* lose the weight, he'll still be into you. <3

[Asker]

Thanks ❤❤❤

[redeyemindtricks]

Tx for the MH luv <3

[Rocket_Queen]

I think he is honest. I started working out and losing as well and while my husband supported me, he was did ask "how much are you planning to lose?" He wanted my butt and boobs to stay lol. But definitely go for what makes you comfortable, he should love you either way. But I think he was being honest.

[redeyemindtricks]

yyyyyep same old story

[Rocket_Queen]

@redeyemindtricks right? He digs the curves

[redeyemindtricks]

... along with EVERY other straight man

srsly, 41.5 years I've lived now, and I'm *still* waiting to meet an actual straight man who fantasizes about size 00 chicks. (The only man I've ever met who's judgy about those preferences was as gay as the day is long.)

[Rocket_Queen]

@redeyemindtricks 😂😂😂😂 this just made me laugh so hard! Yeah, I agree though.

[Asker]

I guess you are right, he loves my curves (and we are in the era of the ass , maybe that's why )

[Red_Arrow]

The woman I married was not what I had a preference toward. But I loved her and therefore I loved her body. Then she got cancer and the treatments caused weight gain, plus she did not have the stamina to "walk it off". But them I loved that body, again because it was her.

I think he will love you as you are and then love you as you end up. if you feel better slimmer, or if a doctor says less weight would be better, then lose the weight. He should love your body either way.

[Asker]

I think you are so sweet.
my husband loved my body when I was thinner so I wish he loves any weight I am at

[Red_Arrow]

It sounds like he does.

[redeyemindtricks]

"I think he will love you as you are and then love you as you end up."

^^ That.

<3

[MoonlitSonata]

He wants you to feel good about yourself. He is expressing that how he feels about you cause he wants to alleviate the pressure you are putting on yourself. If you are doing it for him stop. If you are doing it for you talk to him about it.

[madhatters4]

well you do want to feel good about yourself and taht is of course reasonable as long as you have reasonable weight loss goals. losing another 10lbs is fine but 144 is also a fine weight as well.

but do what you want with reasonable expectations and done in a healthy way

[Oram52]

You're in healthy weight range. Can't speak for your husband maybe he likes you more curvy. Some partners may feel self conscious that there SO is getting fit and they're not. But he married you when you were skinny. I would say you do what makes you happy, if you think you feel happier, sexier losing those 10 pounds go for it. Husband wouldn't have a big problem.

[Browneye57]

It's more important that you have frequent sex with him and enjoy it. He's not that fussy about your weight. Silly girl.

A man has some 17 to 20 times as much testosterone in their system as a woman - the ladies don't really get it about the men - they NEED to be with you, it's really important to them.

[Anonymous]

You're in the healthy range and the scale alone won't say how good you look or feel.

Just work on maintaining good health at this point. A fluctuation of 10 lbs won't make or break anything. If you lose a little while staying healthy, that works. If not, that works too.

[Xfitchick]

Your BMI is around 23, which is ideal, so why loose extra weigth? Just have your fat/muscle ratio measured in the gym. That may give a hint whether you have to loose extra fat and build more muscle or stay as you are.

[sassygirl13]

You may hit the gym to reshape your body a bit without loosing weight.
I did that it really made huge difference to my figure and I feel toned. You said yourself you were skinny so few pounds is not a huge issue unless it makes you self conscious.

[SillyMilly]

he's just trying to make you feel good about yourself. Cmon girl if he was honest and said " Nah i think you should lose 10 more pounds you look a bit big" you'd be pissed or be in tears. Lose that weight.

[Hannah591]

He loves you as you are but if you're not happy with your weight, you're allowed to lose it.

[06CuriousMind]

Do what you feel most comfortable with. I would lose the extra 10 but that's just me. I'm a perfectionist with my body

[iAMNirvana]

You certainly look good at your current weight but i think you should do what makes you happy not your husband. Loose 10 pounds.

[Bellathecar96]

If you WANT to loose weight and you're healthy I say go for it. Your husband should respect your choice.

[jwhit]

I don't believe he'd lie to you about that, but it's still up to if you wanna lose the weight.

[ak666]

I think he loves you and is being a gentleman.

[ak666]

It's very possible he thinks you're the ideal weight. It's just that husbands aren't exactly reliable critics when it comes to questions concerning ideal weight. Hence I think he loves you and is being a gentleman regardless.

[Asker]

I didn't ask him if I need to lose more weight I already go to the gym and losing weight and he wants me to stop losing weight and just toning my body BUT you are right you don't get the most reliable opinion from husbands

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'7 and 120 but not skinny. You can afford to lose weight

[Superchick123]

Do whatever makes you happy. It's your body.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Lose the weight sister

[anonman32]

why would he lie?

[Asker]

I really don't know since he loved me when I was skinny I don't know what gotten to him to dis encourage me to lose that weight

[anonman32]

i think that the weight you feel most comfortable with is going to be best for you personally. if you husband loves you he will understand.

[Asker]

Thanks , I think you are right

[Iron_Man]

Lose 10 more pounds