He wants nudes but I can't because my body is in terrible shape, should I tell him?

[Anonymous]

I had two children and gained a lot of weight and it left me with a lot of stretch marks on my stomach. I've lost a lot of weight and am in good shape now but I'm left with loose skin on my stomach and also stretch marks. A guy I've been seeing asks for nudes but I always make excuses or I just cover up a small part of my stomach. But lately he's been very persistent and I don't know what to do?

[SomeGuy37]

You are who you are, and if he really cares for you, maybe he is challenging your own personal issues?
Why do women assume that men only want the perfect, VS supermodel types, and will reject others, that aren't like them, as they are? Kind of speaks badly of the concept of 'trust' and 'compassion' in a relationship, doesn't it?
I love cuddling with someone that I really care about, and maybe love. So what, if she has a soft little 'muffin top' over her too-tight jeans, or yoga pants!! Maybe her breasts are a little more 'soft, and ample' than when she was in college. SO WHAT? She is still the PERSON that I want to be with!!
If I decide that I like her, just as she is, and she argues, and hates her body, and thinks she is 'fat', I feel offended, like she is telling me what I should like, about her!!
I've already decided I ADORE her little muffin-top tummy, and her soft thighs, and that perfectly soft, wonderfully beautiful bottom, just as it is!
Just get over all the BS ideals of what you should be, and love how the one that loves you, LOVES YOU!!!

[Red_Arrow]

Take the nude pictures, then send them to me and I will Photoshop them for you.
lol.
Either he has already seen you nude and knows and accepts you as you are (and is turned on by it). Or he has not seen you and it sounds like time that he should, based on his asking and you wanting to. If you are doing it but with a small part of your stomach covered, you are almost there and he should be pleased with that. But you need to gain a bit of confidence and go for the gusto. He will more than like them.
By the way, those are not flaws! After 2 children, they are "stripes" you have earned!

[AnggieGirl]

if his persistence is causing any type of anxiety for you, then perhaps consider if you want to be with someone like that. Personally, i woulndt send him anything. Why? Because thats just how i am. Just say you don't feel comfortable sending those type of pictures of yourself. ... You don't have to justify any more.

[Rocket_Queen]

Yes. Just tell him. He is eventually going to see you anyway if things go on. And this way you're not stressed out or worried about. You have put everything out on the table for him to know and decide. And I also don't think it's that big of a deal. Most of us have imperfections and still are beautiful.

[Cmasterson]

You can just tell him you're not the most confident right now, if you want to send him nudes maybe tasteful parts, so not everything at once.