I went through a depressive state and managed to beat it (ever so gradually). Now I feel happier and am have more self-driven anchors to keep me going. It was kind of weird because GAG and the people on here helped me actually get through it. A lot of it was changing my own mindset after taking a step back and looking at my life. Amongst other things, I think GAG helped me do that a bit with seeing multiple perspectives and other people's experiences with things. Likewise, GAG helped let me know of some positive qualities towards myself which helped my self esteem/confidence out.
My self esteem used to be shoddy and my mindset was bleak. I got into this whole "stuck in the rut of life" feeling along with a "I'm worthless" notion. Now I'm not like that. I was able to keep hope that it'd get better, and it eventually did. Life isn't perfect by any means, but that doesn't mean my attitude towards it needs to be continually pessimistic :)
Now that I'm out of it too, the experience of it has made me stronger I feel. I can handle my emotions better on the whole. I of course get sad just like anyone else, but I don't let emotions control me for the worse.
If there's another bright side, it's given me the ability to feel empathy for those going through depressive states. Call it God's plan, fate, whatever, I truly feel like part of my life has been set up for the purpose of helping others. I still don't know the big plan and stuff, but that's the conclusion I've come too. (Alright, yeah that sounded probably pretty cheesy, but I really do feel that way. I'm totally going off on random tangents. I'm just going to press submit lol)
See, this is when the G@G Community is fantastic and a great place to be. It can be super supportive... and so can you. I do think you do a wonderful job at helping others, too. 😊
Awww... I know you're right, but wow, it's tough. The pulling away, being cold and not talking, even lashing out sometimes at me. I understand her reasons and they're valid; a younger me couldn't have taken it. I'm just glad I'm at the point now where I can take it, because I think (don't know for sure) that she needs someone like me. I'm pretty solid, established, supportive and loving. It takes a long time to break down those walls; but I promised her I wouldn't leave her, and I'll be damned if I'll be made a liar out of it. I love her with all my heart and I'll stay with her as long as it takes and beyond. *ahem* Sorry for the soapbox comment there. Lol.
Got it through genetics, my dad has it and my bro has it and so do I. But we're no longer in the dark period that we used to be in. Personally I wouldn't consider myself depressed anymore but I can easily fall back to it if Im not careful and if I don't keep myself in control, and I always have to seriously consider what friends I make (I need positive surroundings). My genes will always make me more prone to falling back to depression than a regular person would. Used to go to a psychiatrist for it, was given meds but didn't help me at all so I got off it, and eventually I got better when I moved country and had new surroundings, positive surroundings, no toxic people to prevent me from staying on track in my life or give me a bad or difficult day.
Definitely, hardest part was to let one of my best friends go (who was the most toxic person in my life). But I was eventually able to when I moved away to another country.
Hope you'll recover as well as I did. ❤️ Never been happier than this in a really long time, honestly didn't think this time would come. 😯
I have been going through a pretty rough time (it's been a crappy year due to medical problems) so I've been going to a psychologist. She says I'm not depressed. She did say that I'm in mourning of my life prior to my medical issues. I think she is right.
I don't have proper diagnose for depression, but I have suffered from anxiety pretty much my whole life, and also mild ADD. Recent events have left me very frustrated and stressed, which has triggered lots of anxiety. At this point, reading, writing, exercise and music have been my closest allies. I'm trying to socialize less and avoid drinking until I get back to "normal". I guess everyone deals with shit, and have their own ways to channel it. Thank goodness my period on benzos was short, though, that stuff really fucks you up.
*shrugs* I don't know. I've often wondered if I have dysthymia or anhedonia but don't care for a formal diagnosis. There was a two year period when I moved out where I'd alternate between feeling 'normal' for a couple weeks and then feeling like shit and utterly alone for a week, which culminated in something I'm not overly proud of. When I do get depressed, it's either short bouts of sadness or frustration. But then after 10 or so minutes I'm back to my indifferent, joyless self. I try not to get too high or too low.
been depressed my entire life, watched a lot of people I know die, grew up poor/homeless and I work 70 hours a week just to make ends meet, and I'm kindof alone in this world if it wasn't for my bros
hell I'm kindof failing my college classes now so I'll never get out of this cycle, I need alcohol in my system just to function, I try to be positive but I always get a reminder every day that its all in vain, I have dreams I want to accomplish, but there isn't even a road to follow anymore, just lost in the wilderness waiting to die out.
Wow, 70% of people have depression! I think that song was right..."we don't need another mountain, ... we need love". Seriously find Jesus, not a cure all, but at least it is something you need... love, and can get healing there. Drugs is not the solution. There is something not right in the world, that's why you are depressed. Get your mind right and most of that goes away.
great question. would you say it is essential for all human beings? Where do you get it? :)
It is THE reason I turned to Christ, Christianity. The Bible explains it but it isn't so clear. We all want to get love from some person here... mom, dad, siblings, lover, friend. we get it, but it isn't quite perfect and they are all temporal people (they will pass). there is one thing that is constant IF you believe. When you believe it starts to change you. Nobody is perfect, so don't expect it out of "Christians". Ah... that's my sermon for the day, great question!
Thank you, and I'm not sure. I think we all go through depressive periods. However, for some, it's temporary and not so temporary for others. I do think it helps if you've got the right kind of support behind you, pushing you to take care of yourself and all of that. It means a lot. I can say that from experience. It simply is harder for others, though, and I have seen that firsthand as well.
I have bipolar, skewed heavily towards depression. Right now it's under control, but that's only due to having shock therapy last year. Without the etc, I'd probably be dead by now.
Don't get discouraged if your current meds aren't working- nowadays there are a lot.
Excellent comment. I've worked in the medical field since I was 23 and you hear a lot of negativity about shock therapy and antidepressants. The fact is, they can be very effective and a lot of people are helped with these. And you make a good point about medications. A lot of the time the doctor has to try medications in a different class to see which class an individual responds best to.
I have depression. Have since I was about 13/14 but wasn't diagnosed until I was 21. I'm on medication but it doesn't 100% fix it.
I have days when I feel normal and other days when I want to go into the bathroom, pick up a razor and shred myself. I have days when my boyfriend comes home to me crying in bed for a week.
To be honest I probably need my medication adjusted as its a recent thing (past year) that I've steadily got worse.
My family don't know the full reason I'm on anti depressants but the doctor has hinted I will likely be on them most of my life. I've tried to come off them a couple of times with disastrous results
If you're constantly crying in bed, you definitely need your meds adjusted- there's no reason that you should be like that. I know how hard it can be to do things when you're down, but you need to get in touch with your doctor ASAP.
Overall I'm not too bad - I'm fairly normal. And it's important not to be over-medicated so that you are like a bird flying high and still have "normal" responses.
I've been going through something quite upsetting - I do take things personally but I've been reacting more and for longer... where a normal person would just get upset, have a cry and some ice cream, it takes me a week to recover. And it's not me being "boohoo poor me" like I physically cannot get up, I randomly start crying. I think I do need to have my medication adjusted. Currently I'm on 20mg of Citalopram every day.
I have been diagnosed with mild bipolar but I feel I have mild General Anxiety Disorder, mild OCD, mild addictive behaviour combined with severe insomnia. Lots of milds in there but sometimes they combine to make the perfect storm to make shit of my brain
It is not as bad as it sounds - I have had it so long that I know the dynamics of it - I can almost chart it especially with the bipolar as the name suggest you overload to crash very quickly - With mental health issues, what I did is a lot of research and listened to what other people did to cope to see could any work for me - If you see coming pre plan get as much of your work out of the way so there is no pressure, cover your responsibility, create as much me time as possible - Figure out what works a good cry, writing, creating, talking, reflection and above all always remember s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/.../...547f75ad57.jpg There are funny things that come to mind, no matter how lonely the night feels it is 4.30am where you are, there is always someone on GaG, believe me I have been on here at different hours talking to Aussies at their peak time which is very early for me 5/6/7 am and North Americans just after midnight for me is their peak time.
Depression with some PTSD ( from British Army service , 3 x operational tours ) , controlled by sheer bloody minded willpower , I don't ever want to take Citalopram or similar again , really messes you up. As a single dad , I HAVE to hold everything together !!
Went through the infamous P Company , British Paratroop training which also builds mental toughness as well as physical. Also men , especially my age group , stand alone in life ( there ARE gender roles !! ) , we get used to it & just " suck it up " . My children MUST come first , also I work FT too. It can be hard , some days I don't want to even get up , but can be rewarding also !
@EmpatheticLady Me and her got into a heated argument over some stupid question. Yeah, I know.. Mr sunshine over here. I was attempting to bury the hatchet.
I wish you well - I only know you from your GaG posts but I always got the impression you were a little hard on yourself - I know it sounds easy maybe even a bit lame, I have learned the hard away but life can be easier when you praise yourself rather than find fault.
@Saoirse_Nua No worries bud, I've actually been doing great lately thus attempting to make amends. The mr sunshine was sort of an inside joke to @EmpatheticLady lol
That does not always happen.. For example I tagged them in the responses that did show up in my notifications. No tag at all here.. I get plenty of responses from other questions as well. Sometimes tagged, other times no.. Anyway, I was trying to be nice to YOU and be civil. Depression is a real bitch. Do you really even have depression? Look the point is if someone offers you an olive branch, you should at least respond to it.
I was eating nachos and one fell and I hadn't swept yet and the cheese side hit the ground right on a little pile of dirty cuz I hadn't swept yet and it looked like pepper cuz it was black but I knew it wasn't so I really had no choice but to properly dispose of it so I ate cuz of the five second rule and it didn't taste right so I had to spit it out and now... *Sigh* I'm depressed... :-/
I had depression but I think I forget it now. I remember I step by step to finsh what I want then get out of it but now I found that is boredom to make me it.
Humm, dont know. I was happy by a little thing like I bought wireless network to solve interference today. I felt I bought it right fill with being satisfied. Maybe Just look back to realize the boredom but I now try to be in boredom without being like it below. But I feel those pass by not dedicatiion anymore only like dream still exist, perhaps just let it be vsekidki.ru/.../...780_lol-graphics-32-810x485.gif
I would say yeah, and it's been going on for a while. Tired of many things in life, actually I might as well say being burnt out.. I really hope that it will get better but it's very hard.
I do. I can't control it when it really hits me, but I always try to stay positive to prevent myself from getting as down as I do sometimes, it's not easy, especially when everything goes wrong all at once in my life.
Hah, I know that feeling. I try to stay positive on the outside for most people. I'm a complete wreck with others that I'm close to. I feel bad for 'em, listening to me rant all the time.
I put on a show for everyone and smile way too much because that's how I hide all my feelings. No one knows how really feel and if I were to ever tell someone how sad and empty I feel on the inside, I'm sure it'd make them depressed too. For that reason, I just keep everything to myself.
Not depressed, just feel like the best part of life is in the rearview, and that nothing about conventional adulthood is for me. Just kind of going through the motions, you know? Plus the Pats got shut out at home by the fucking Bills, some sorry ass shit right there, haha😖😫
Depressed, stranded, caged (opposite of being free), the feeling of being a product. I have depressions every day and I cannot get out of it. For me there seems only one way out.
There are free mental health services available. I've posted elsewhere in this question a link that gives advice on how to find them. You can also just use Google, of course.
I think I have it but I'm just in denial. I'll go through phases sometimes. It's starting to interfere in my life though so I've been considering going to see someone about it.
@tightblackjeans Isn't it bipolar disorder if it repeats itself? I read up on it a little after I had a 2 month long depressive episode, and I dimly remember it having to last around 6 months, but I could be wrong.
Hmm... My sociologist friend was telling me about bipolar disorder, and there are other criteria as well as the repeating, but now I can't remember what they were, how unhelpful is that. Are you OK? If there was an "I've had depression but I'm fine now" button, I bet I'm not the only one who would have pressed it. It's a horrible horrible horrible thing to go through, but after a few years of retrospect, there can even be a tiny silver lining... I think the feeling can go away, but not the knowledge of it, so you develop a deeper understanding of the people around you and sympathy for struggles everyone is facing. Maybe this sounds a bit cliche, but I think it makes us better people in the end!
@tightblackjeans I believe I'm fine. I can pinpoint exactly what caused the episode and why it's not causing it anymore, and it's the only one I've ever had. All signs point to me being fine. And that's a really really interesting last two sentences, I think I have gotten a bit of sympathy for the troubles of others now that I've felt some of my own.
It's totally a great sign that you have pinpointed and analyzed the cause, I'm sure that means it won't come back! And understanding people better makes life so much more deep and interesting, doesn't it!
Depression, anxiety, BDD is up and down, I'm on the highest dosage of pills my psych has prescribed to any of his patients. I don't really go outside at all so I'm mostly in my room by myself most of the time. :(
The first thing you should do is get a second doctor to review your drug regime- there are a lot of effect drugs out there, and a different MD may have some new ideas.
Since you're maxing out on drug and you're still doing horribly, you should also ask your current doctor if you'd be a candidate for non-drug treatments, i. e. transcranial magnetic stimulation and the nuclear option of shock therapy. Transcranial magnetic stimulation is the new kid on the block, and it's easier to administer and has fewer side effects than shock therapy. Don't be afraid of shock therapy- it's nothing like what's depicted in One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest. It's simply a very powerful last ditch treatment. You're under anesthesia, so you don't feel a thing. The major side effect is temporary memory problems.
I think there's two different types of depression. There's the depression you get diagnosed with then there's being depressed/sad/hurt from a bad situation.
Sorry to hear that. There is a book written long time ago it exposed the core human emotions... shame, fear, anger, pride we are all subject to so easily. They are powerful. That is poison to the human "heart" and when that is where your mind is programmed, it just indicates you "fell" into it like the rest of us who were exposed to a lack of the good things we humans respond to.
The human heart responds well to love, patience, kindness, hope, etc.. These are the counters to the above. Seek out these, your brain will adjust (note there could be other environmental stressors impacting you... food, fungus, EMF's are possibly a big one now, family).
Wish you well! I read a book long time ago that totally changed my view of myself..."mind as healer, mind as slayer". good book!
Well see here is the thing, i was raised by therapists so any use of conventional therapy does not work on me, it took a very famous intelligent psychologist to actually understand where i am. On one hand i am able to read others really well and on the other i bottle things up. In truth i worked very hard to bring anger out, because if i didn't it would sit there, fester and putrify.
@lightbulb27 That was a really pleasant thing to hear, yes my childhood was far from normal and actually brutal in a sense, how i ever made it out alive is kind of a mystery.
your description of anger sounds very normal to me, I was there, albeit a brief time. I think it is how our brains/minds work. I view all of this "disfunction" as a huge deep thing like the ocean, it has fast depths and people swim to different areas of it and it is unique, but it kinds works the same underlying mechanisms.
I'm not a Christian because it was logical, I am because I experienced how it changed me inside and then I started to learn about it and it took a long time, but now I great the "genius" of how Christ (savior), that is Jesus did... and that was 2000yrs ago when there wasn't a whole lotta knowledge, out in the dessert.
I won't beat you up with it, I couldn't stand that, but I at least want to convey the value and that it is, to me, an amazing thing and universal. I haven't found a case where it doesn't work.
I try to respect people where they are at though, trying to push someone off a cliff creates resistance, they have to decide to make the jump.
you should mytake your life so we have a better view into how you got to where you are, often times, that is therapuetic. We, in my view, are all damaged because we are easily damaged. the damage is emotional and it sits inside of us and it can go really bad. When you see someone like a terrorist, or someone nuts, that is wounds and they submitted to those feelings of "evil" rather than left it. Its all fascinating to me, I try to help people as I can with what I know. Best wishes!
You are utter freaking a) clueless and b) cruel. Clueless because you don't have the slightest idea what you're talking about, and cruel, because what other type of person would ask someone who's suffering "Are you just being immature?"
Hmm, I think it's being managed alright. I very rarely have anxiety attacks anymore. I do feel anxious every day but it's not really an overwhelming thing anymore and I don't feel any worse than I did when taking medication. I'm okay with my situation right now :)
@Flow_like_the_wind Yeah, nervous and shaky is probably the first thing I can think of. Unlike social anxiety, my GAD means that I can (and do :P ) get anxious over any situation, not just socal. I'm pretty much constantly twitching my leg or biting my nails or lips or picking at my skin as a nervous habit, and outside of the house, I generally feel anxious at all times. I feel very shaky and very nervous and my heart rate and blood pressure are always pretty high, I have to explain it whenever I get taken into hospital that that's normal for me. There's also the paranoia like you can tell yourself so, so many times that whatever you're worrying about isn't going to happen but I can never calm down once I've had that tiny thought. It's pretty disruptive (it used to disrupt my life more, like feeling unable to leave the house or to speak to my lecturers or to do something like ask to use the bathroom at school). Also there's a lot of difficulty with concentrating and stomach problems.
@fauchelevent Oh I see. You know now that you mentioned it I sort of feel like that too in a way. Like that constant feel of worrying that something bad is gonna happen. Having thoughts in your mind of always thinking about negative things that make it difficult to go out and do things. I can't say I have GAD but I know how you feel in a way. I don't like it because I want to go out and do things but I'm just thinking about the worst. Like not going on a plane because I'm afraid it'll crash or going near a flower that has a bee by it so I don't get stung.
That sucks. Depression is a killer. On my worst days I lay in bed all day, and eat nothing but junk food and drink, I'm not an alcohol person but sometimes I need it because it's too much to handle. I know I shouldn't though.
That's such a struggle especially if your job sucks. Sometimes I get an uncomfortable feeling in my gut knowing that I'm not in a good mood and I still gotta force myself to do things just simply because I have to.
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