Social Anxiety Disorder in teens?

[FallOutBoy2001]

I'm starting to worry that my boyfriend has Social Anxiety Disorder, and I'm looking to see if anyone could either validate my suspicions or at the very least, give me some sort of list of things I should look for.

I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now, and I've noticed a couple of things:
- He's pretty quiet, especially around adults or new people
- He really tends to keep to himself
- He's usually very passive about things concerning him and his opinions, though he will be assertive if it involves me not being able to do something (i. e. making sure that I (vegitarian) always have something to eat when people order food)
- He's overly concerned about negative evaluation, and is really afraid of being embarrassed or humiliated
- He hates public speaking
- He plays piano, but gets very anxious about playing it in front of people
- He mumbles and speaks really quietly when he's around lots of people he isn't close with
- This morning, I was flicking through his photos (Yes, I asked, and no, I was just bored and wanted something to do) and I came across a few self-care checklists saved to his camera reel. This could mean nothing, but I was wondering about it because I keep a self-care checklist on my phone as well, because I need a reminder to practice self-care (ADHD) and most other people I know that use them have some level of depression and anxiety.

I'm just wondering if I'm over-worrying about him. I'm going to see him tomorrow, and I want to talk to him about it, because he always makes sure to check up on me but he never talks about how he's doing. Does anyone have any idea how to start that conversation?

[goaded]

He sounds like me, apart from the piano part, I have no musical skills whatsoever.

If he is like me, he probably doesn't ask for much from you, but when he does bear in mind it is probably something he really feels strongly about. Try not to take him for granted (e. g. if he always does Job X for you, do it yourself from time to time, or at least thank him when he does it; I had one partner who set an alarm clock ten minutes early so I could make her coffee in the morning, it changed something I was doing out of love into a chore).

It sounds like you love and care about each other, I hope you'll be very happy (and don't worry too much).

[Tony1974]

Is it "social anxiety disorder" is is he just an introvert? Not everyone is an extrovert and loves attention. I'm more introverted but have learned how to flex and be extroverted when I need to but it's emotionally draining for me to step outside my comfort zone.

[FallOutBoy2001]

I'm an introvert, so I know what it's like and what it looks like. I'm just a little worried about him, because he's really much more introverted and anxious than me.

[ashleysummer]

Hi there! First of all, it's up to doctor to diagnose a social anxiety disorder. You cannot set this diagnosis by yourself. Secondly, I recommend you to post such a question on the specialized forums like socialanxietysupport forum or
rather than here. You are more likely to find a right solution there. Anyway, I wish your boyfriend be healthy.

[Waffles731]

don't worry about it.
Though his behavior shows that he loves you

[FallOutBoy2001]

Thanks :)

[jman46241]

You are vastly overthinking the behavior of a teenage boy..