There was a guy I really liked and when I thought things were going well he started acting really weird. I thought he didn’t want me and that he had just used me because he said he just wanted to be friends. But the way he acted made me think that was all crap! Long story short, we recently had a heart to heart about everything and he opened up to me for the first time.
After our chat, it’s become quite clear that he’s not emotionally unavailable like I thought he was, that in fact he could have some kind of emotional detachment altogether! I came across Schzoid Personality Disorder and everything that it says fits this guy perfectly.
So in order to understand him more, if you have personal experience of this I’d love to know. Do people get better? Can they lead a normal life? Can they ever have a normal relationship?
Schzoid Personality Disorder. Does anyone have this or have experience of it?
All personality disorders are complicated diagnoses. Most psychiatric disorders has behavioral components that exist in most people. What differentiates the diagnosis is s careful psychological exam to root out causes and the levelof social disability. More than likely labeling him with any psychiatric illness It's probably easy but inaccurate. Hope that helps.
Yes. People really need to stop associating personality disorders to other individuals or specially themselves. If you think something might be off, ask a professional, or ask the other individual to have a talk with one. I hate how people find themselves to suddenly be experts in human psychology. there's a reason the practice is so hard and takes years to study and even more to master.
I’m just merely trying to understand why a guy I’m in love with is being the way he is with me. I’m not saying he’s got this but it would explain a lot. I’m asking about it because I’m trying to get things straight in my head. There is something not right I know that. Because he’s not your typical guy. He’s absolutely gorgeous looking and could get a girl so easily, yet he chooses to have text based friendships instead. He never asks how I am, he definitely has some detachment of emotions. He claims to find me incredibly attractive but will not tell me how he feels other than that!! His behaviour is not normal with a guy who has had his fun & doesn’t want to know me! He is very confusing and I’m just trying to find out why. Because if he has this then it explains a lot and I can be more understanding and give him what he needs and that’s space and a girl who isn’t going to push herself into him!! I will bring it up with him, he just thinks he’s weird!
The first step he needs to do is get a diagnosis. It could be a number of reasons he's feeling like this. A professional would be the best place to get information.
I talk every day in my position I hold, to many different people. You would be surprised to how many have this mental disorder. I always advise them to go get help for it. There are good doctors today who have great new medicines on the market. But the choice has to be up to them. This mental disorder gets worse as they get older. I tell them this as well.
I have this. It goes hand in hand with depression and in my case anxiety too. I don't know if I can lead a normal life. I don't know if I'll get better. I have pretty normal relationships but it's with people I've know since before high school. It wasn't until after high school that I felt this way, so because I made friends with them before this happened my relationship with them is normal. I suck at being friends with new people though. I have nothing to talk about really since nothing to me is exciting. Nothing exciting is happening in my life either. I don't go out to parties. I think I went to one last year and I left in 5 minutes. I'm a virgin because i don't have much desire to have sex. I don't know how to flirt or take hints. I do know one thing though. I think if I met someone who was willing to put in the effort to help me they could. Not just some therapist though I mean someone who's willing to make a bond with me and care about me. I still remember when I was normal and I miss it. Sometimes I cry just thinking about when I was normal.
The fact that you cry about your past and reminisce about feeling normal tells me that you don't have this personality disorder type. I mean, you're Looney tunes af because ur pretending to have a mental disorder that you know u really don't have. So why pretend? Cuz ur Looney af
I don't cry about it a lot. I'm just mentioning the fact that I have in past done this. And if i don't have it then you can blame the medical system of America for saying I do. When i look at the symptoms it does match me too. Don't know what your problem is but maybe you should release your own anger with a therapist.
The fact that you're just now displaying a normal range of emotions to my sarcastic reply (displaying resentment, a bit of anger) tells anyone that you just don't have this thing. If you did, you really wouldn't have cared about the content of my reply; you just would have felt an obligation to reply only because someone (me) responded to your post. And even then, your reply would have been something mechanical, along the lines of, "Thank you for your insight. I will take it to heart and see what other people think about it..." But your reply was far more appropriate and umm... Normal.
Because you're wrong. I can't socialize I'm not dumb. You were making it seem like I cry all the time or something. Then proceed to call me a looney. Being dumb and having social problems is different. You also seem angry still.
This is going to be an extremely controversial topics in and of itself, people are going to tell you yes, no, maybe. Now you have to think about it this way they are emotionally detached from everything other than extremely close family as the post says now who's to say that you can't become there truly close family it will take a lot of work but and of course you know patience but there is always a chance that I can happen. Now if you were to bring them kids that is going to be very tough because being emotionally detached from kids who are continuously saying what they feel and think without filter can put a strain on the person with that kind of personality disorder. Now normal is relative he can have a good relationship with someone who's willing to try and no him and deal with what he's dealing with without oppressing him or forcing him to change. Now as to what you see is normal there's a very small chance that that will ever ever come close to what you want
I have a variety of diagnoses, but not that one. Those diagnoses are difficult and require a panel of doctors to assess accurately. The most important thing to remember is that if he is interested he may very well be risking his own personal safety to be with you, and that takes a considerable amount of confidence and courage- even though it doesn't seem like it because of his symptoms. Not all forms of mental illness are dangerous to others, but learn of the risks for you and him. It will take a lot of learning for both of you, but even if you break up you will certainly have learned a lot. Just be safe, and recognize when signs are pointing towards an episode.
Actually, I do know of a guy. He was normal and suddenly at 16 years old something snapped and he's been a shut-in for 20 years now. All friends cut off, he didn't even bother finishing school. He literally left the house less than 5 times in 2 decades.
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Was there something that happened to make him snap or was it just one of those things?
Which is similar (very similar). I got it once and quickly snapped out but it depends on the individual. . Schizoid I wouldn't go there yet but I haven't ruled it out. It could seem random because there are things people just don't want to or know how to say. It could be a totally ridiculous reason but the cause of this is through a recent traumatic event. It may not be as traumatic to me and you, but for some people, it could be the straw the broke the camel's back aswell as childhood fears that we're not aware of.
I'd start there. Don't want to kill a fly with a sword lol
I know several people who have Schizoid personalities. To be perfectly honest, they don't ever seem to live especially normal lives. That's not to say that they never could, if they had the right medications and an extremely loving and supportive partner, but it would always be a struggle. You have to go into the relationship/friendship with the understanding that things could, and probably will, change on a dime, and you won't have any preparation time or warning when it does.
Those symptoms are common to dozens of disorders. My concern is that you jumped from him being a bit distant to him being schizophrenic with no clear description as to why other than him being emotionally unavailable.
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Just some of the things he’s said and the way he’s acted led me here. I didn’t jump to conclusions. I based it on fact. I just didn’t share the whole story because I’d have been here forever! I did say cut a long story short!!!
Some of the things that led me to this conclusion: He has very little friends. In fact only one and that’s my boss! He is always on his own. He prefers being on his own mostly. We tried a sexual relationship but he avoids intimatacy quite a lot. We have had sex but it’s not a physical need for him like it is other men. Other things too that I’m not going to keep listing.
So I haven’t jumped to conclusions and I’ve been talking to this guy every day for 8 months so I know him. And he isn’t Schizophrenic, it’s Schzoid Personality Disorder, not the same thing! Sound similar but not!! Read the picture I included!!! Everything it lists relates 100% to the guy I’m referring too!
I told him I loved him and his response was (bear in mind he’s 29)
‘When you said you love me, I don’t know how to deal with that or what to say. I’ve never been in love and don’t even know what it is or how it feels’
He has never talked about feelings or emotions until now. Maybe he has got something on the Autism Spectrum. I just don’t know but I’m just trying to understand him.
His affect would have to be flat most of the time. If not, rule out schizoaffective disorder. Plus, don't add to what he's saying about love. You may be interpreting his explaining of love as a complete inability to feel it, when in fact he may be saying he just doesn't know how it feels only because he never felt it before. To which you should reply, "do you think about me all the time? I know ur shy in the bedroom, but do you think of me when you beat off? Do you like feeling like you're protecting me when ur with me? If yes, then the emotion ur feeling is love. Welcome to the party!"
First of all, you cannot associate a personality disorder to anyone but yourself, and even that is not recommended. There's a reason psychology is complicated and takes a lot of years to master, unlike other professions. The right thing to do if you do however think a personality disorder fits someone is talk with them about it, show the behavior similarities and recommend them to try having a talk about it with a professional.
I've been told I have a low level schizoid personality but it's not a disorder. So I guess not. You never know though. Psychiatrists don't want to give you a diagnosis, they just treat your symptoms.
This guy, from what you say, I doubt he has schizoid personality disorder. He's just relatively shy, or may even have some mild Autistic Spectrum Disorder. If you like him and he likes you, it doesn't matter.
Ur correct because for a normal chick to be with dude for so long only to find out he had schzoid personality symptoms much later? Don't make sense. therefore something else is wrong w the fella
He's normal, just not very emotional, I am a borderline sociopath, so I have trouble feeling emotions and when I do feel emotions they are more of a nucanse than anything
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