So I've been dating this guy off and on for about a year and a half & the only reason I say on and off is because of his female friend. He doesn't know I know about her but he has mentioned her once to me but doesn't think I remember. I know it sounds cliche but I know what me and him have (had?) is something really special. Weve always had a strong connection & we even stopped talking for several months due to a fight but he eventually came back and apologized about everything & wanted to make it up to me. I know he's attracted to me and whenever he's with me he's more stable & happy and talks of the future & commitment/ marriage but here's the problem. This friend of his (a woman) whose significantly older than him. I don't know the dynamics of their "friendship" but I have a large & distinct feeling that they have hooked up. What gripes me the most is that whenever he makes plans to hang out with me, something always seems to come up last minute & I always have this feeling that its because of her. I know she is manipulating him & a lot of guys would say that's a bunch of bologna but I just feel it in my gut. Plus whenever we have been on the downfall ( meaning just friends) he's told me things like how there was this girl that used him but still somehow he always seems to go back to her! What shocks me the most is that he's a really cute guy but she isnt! She's honestly very ugly, has bucked teeth, a big pointy nose, short bleach blond hair that she's constantly changing, flat chested, dresses like a hooker, party-whore, p*ss poor job & acts inappropriate for her age. Yet he always harsh on me for all my irresponsibilities. I just feel like he always overlooks what we have or hides his true feelings even though he's told me in the past that he does have feelings for me but couldn't commit at the time due to his job which is really tough, but I feel that he can at least treat me better & attend to our "friendship" more than he can with hers...But that's the thing is I can tell she's really pushy & likes to get her way with him,but I can tell he is not happy with her & seems to try to get rid of her but always finds a way back in his life. I don't know why he just doesn't get rid of her? Bottom line is it has affected our relationship/ friendship majorly to the point where I don't know if I can be friends with him anymore? I'm at a point where I can't care about him anymore & I want to move on & meet someone who makes me happy. The thing of it is that I get lots of compliments from guys all the time & he gets very jealous of this yet just holds back with us. I know if I officially moved on he wouldn't know what to do with himself. Also he doesn't realize that this female is the reason we've been having problems & that I feel she has been trying to sabotage us from day one, but I don't know why he doesn't see it when the writings are on the wall? Will he ever see the truth?
Why doesn't he just get rid of her?
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