Why doesn't my friends with benefits want to get rid of me?

[Erica686]

So lately I have been pestering him about a situation including another person meaning another female. And I can tell that he really doesn't want to be bothered. But, I'm just trying to find answers. But anyways I didn't want to be a pain in the ass, to him so I mentioned and said at this point maybe you should just block me. And basically he responded and said Nawl I'm not going to block, it's no need for that. Like, him and I haven't hooked up in months. I decided to cut the intimacy part off I have my own reasons so don't ask. But why won't he let me go? :(

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Why doesn't he want to get rid of me

[spartan55]

He doesn't have to let you go. It's not on him... YOU are the one with the issue obviously. So that means YOU block him... it's like that's not even an option for you.

[Erica686]

Facts and I agree and I asked him he said I don't understand why you would do such thing like that

[spartan55]

And on and on we go...

[Erica686]

No. It's not on and on. I have a decision to make but like I said right now we are on good terms we have no real issues to be honest. But he better not be talking to that girl, and the one I told him to pacifically stay away from

[spartan55]

He doesn't have to do what you say... I mean you think he gives a shit?
You are on good terms, but you create a problem where there is none by pestering about that girl. Do you understand how much guys hate that shit? Apparently not, because you keep hassling the guy for 'answers'. He doesn't owe you answers.

[Erica686]

You're right and he's telling me he's not talking to that girl and he's also like stop talking about it and the more that I keep pestering him about that the distance he becomes

[spartan55]

Mmm, is that right.

[Rudon00]

Erica686 given the last discussion we had. Avoid getting into an emotional tanglement with him. its either you are moving on to better yourself or you want to stay and suffer the consequences with that guy.

[Erica686]

What do you mean consequences?

[Rudon00]

The consequences of you giving yourself emotional trauma over this guy. He is playing with your feelings at the same time seeing other females. Having yoh thinking he is still on interesting in you

[Erica686]

I don't think he is playing with my feelings. Of course he might be playing games and that's not good either

[Rudon00]

Okay as you say. Of playing with your feelings , Playing games. He is not serious at all

[Erica686]

I know that. But I'm not concerned about whether if he's serious or not I've been dealing with this man for 8 years I asked a Pacific question I know enough about him wanting to be a player and him dealing with multiple girls. Trust me there's nothing new

[Rudon00]

I can see that Erica686. However given that eight years together you can see you truly care about him. As I'm some people cases They would have move on and forget about each other but you do care inspite of his destructive lifestyle. hoping he can make a change for the better.

I wonder if he values you enough in the same way You value him over that 8yearsOf knowing each other

[Erica686]

We do have enough respect for each other, and he doesn't come at me disrespectfully. There's a lot of stuff that he has put me through but we are making it work. We're not perfect but I pray to the Lord like a few years back to make things right between him and I and usually I don't pay for any man.

[Rudon00]

Okay so since you have been praying to God concerning him. What has the lord put in your heart regarding you and Him?

[iProx]

As a woman, I believe maybe he really values your friendship. If he hasn't pestered you about sex but still hangs out then maybe he is alright with just being friends.

[Erica686]

Will a few months ago. I mentioned to him about me having a fake boyfriend, because he wanted to have sex. And I knew using the boyfriend thing will wing him off. But trust me. He still wants me

[Morgador]

Your a friend first and foremost. You don't just kick friends to the curb.

[Erica686]

Awe :( is that what it is..😞😞. He's been going through some things

[Morgador]

Yeah I would say that's what I think. Be a friend and be there for him. Hold him up when he's falling, don't kick him when he's down

[Erica686]

Okay thank you for that. 😎😎😎

[Morgador]

👍👍👍👍👍👍

[bsann2015]

You can't be that blind.
He has feelings for you

[Erica686]

I see. But he acts weird lol at times. And I k he still wants to have sex with me. But 8 years is a long time.

[bsann2015]

Yeah well it maybe he's become very attached to you but doesn't want a commitment or maybe he's afraid to ask

[Erica686]

What's the difference between when a person mute you versus when they ignore you and when someone removes you on Facebook Messenger? ↗ can you answer this

[bsann2015]

When the person just mutes you on messenger they are still keeping an eye on you.
They can still see your postings and your profile.
When a person blocks you on Facebook they can no longer see your profile or your postings.
Unless they have multiple accounts and ignore you on one and are monitoring you on another

[Erica686]

Is it also the same when you remove someone from messenger like they won't be able to see you

[RichSD]

Maybe he thought there was still the "friends" part even without the benefits. But, sounds like you're not sure you can do that?