Keep being his friend?

[cuteblonde245]

I have been this guy's friend for more than a year. He is now divorced. We teach together. All the high school students think we are a couple. We do a lot of stuff together but it is always at the last minute, it is nothing too formal.Sometimes it is with a group of his friends. I am on a strict diet to get back into a bikini so I am drinking no alcohol whatsoever. He used to like inviting me out to bars to sit with him. We both have liked each other forever, so much that his wife called and threatened me. Nothing has happened, I have not even kissed the guy. At this point I think he needs to grow up and invite me out to do something a bit more romantic, and alone. Does that make sense? Am I being too much of a bitch and expecting too much?

[islands7]

Of course remain his friend.

If you want to spice things up and you are his friend, you'll plan something both of you will enjoy now that he's divorced ... unless he's afraid the ex will find out and he's trying to back into her house.

Recently divorced men need alcohol more than a cute blond in a bikini right now. Next summer gives you more time to shed pounds in a healthy way, better chance to keep them off. He'll be drinking less next year as well.

[cuteblonde245]

Here is the update. A few weeks ago I told him I was no longer friends with my female friend of 15 years. I did not tell her this. He went behind my back and contacted her on facebook, asked her out. When she said she would not go anywhere without me he told her he was never into me. She called and told me this, making me feel very dumb. I am no longer speaking to him and have scheduled my whole day to avoid him like the plague. He came to me today begging for help. I told him, "No."

[islands7]

That update was out of right field. How many hidden stories are entwinded here? So I reading he thinks of you as friend and your gal friend as date material - even asks for help in dating her. Of course NO help but you then are playing the waiting game as his friend, waiting for him to adjust his thinking, since his ex can't force him to think you only a friend anymore - in this game, you don''t avoid him but continue on as before - it's not his fault his thinking is not changing fast enough.

[islands7]

However, I think another game would work more to satisfy your shortened time schedule in changing his mind about you from friend (= no consequences at home) to playmate to date material, et al. Since your gal friend is so loyal & already made the suggestion, you three musketeers go out of the town, share fun activities until he sees you in this new light. MUCH later on, "hook set", should he still be sitting on the fence - your gal friend brings in a possible Bfriend to seal the deal.