Do I have the right to be mad at her?

[Anonymous]

I have played on the same soccer team for the past 2 years as the number two goalie (due to the fact that they chose seniority over skill) and this is my third year. Last year I broke my hand and another girl had to take my spot for the last two games. This year the girl that had been the number one goalie finally graduated and I was next in line. Then they switched coaches and I my history was completely erased. What is worse is the fact that the girl who was my sub tried out again, for my position. She got the number 1 spot and I was stuck not at number two but number 3. I felt betrayed.

I am the captain of the B team and people think I am over it. I even attended one of the A team's games to show support (its part of healing right?) but I still sort of have this unresolved hate for the girl who stole my spot. Do I have the right to be mad at her? How could I forever get over this?

( I cannot try to get back on the A team because it is too late)

[Anonymous]

You don't really have any right, she just tried for the position and got it, whether or not she knew you wanted it, she might have wanted it also and the position should go to the best player. If anything, you should be mad at the coach and yourself. You for not telling the coach your history in the position and getting your old coach to put in a good word for you, and partially mad at the coach, for him not asking the old coach and getting some background info on the team and where you want to be and then try you all out for said positions.