Were you hugged enough as a child?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Too much when I was young. Sometimes it felt like an invasion of my personal space. Sometimes it was done in embarrassing situations without regard for my esteem as if I was a pet who had no right to my own wishes or feelings. As I got older, I distanced myself. At some point, hugging was no longer done in our house. That was unhealthy in the opposite extreme.

I remember when I was brand new to high school. There was a girl in one of my classes. We became friends. One time I saw her talking to some people outside of class. As I approached she greeted me warmly and opened her arms for a friendly hug. I didn't know what to do because it was like I had never heard of hugging. Anyway, I embarrassed myself that time. But I realized what I had done wrong.

As time went on, I became a hugger.

David92506 · Accepted Answer

I got hugged a lot in my family, although we didn't get along.
Both my Mom and Grandmother had gigantic breasts and when they hugged me my face got smothered in them.

As I grew up I felt grossed out by women's breasts. They were such a turn-off and it made me feel weird and different - because I'm not homosexual.

I went to see a therapist, once a week, for many years to deal with growing up in a dysfunctional family. I really learned a lot. I no longer feel grossed out by women's breasts.

Behappy85 · Accepted Answer

Parents were never affectionate or hug type people dont really remember having hugs as a child maybe my nan or my auntie but l. dont remember any. Think the first time l remember having a hug l was in my early teens and it was from a friends sister after giving her a gift. She hugged me and l froze l had no idea how to react it was totally unexpected.
But as l went to college lots of my college friends were always giving hugs so l got used to it by then. But yeah as a child l. dont remember any from parents which is sad.

Cherokeehp · Accepted Answer

I can’t even remember a time my mom hugged me. Now as an adult I’m usually the one giving my mom hugs. My mom is emotionally very fucked up, and I definitely am as well, but I figured I could start trying to do my best to help her. Healing has to start somewhere, and I’ve decided to take the first steps.

KaylaJoy · Answer

I was abused and neglected until I was 6, and then I was put into foster care, and adopted when I was 8. My adopted family liked to give hugs, but by that point I hated to be touched, so they would usually not hug me out of respect for my discomfort. So I guess I wasn’t hugged enough as a young child

JackSmy · Answer

No. Rarely, and parental love was 'Conditional' based on school grades and 'performance'!
They are both dead now, and I'm over their lack of parental 'anything'!!
I had a home and food, and clothes, and a good education, so I guess they did what they could. . .

AndrewMG · Answer

My Dad has not hugged me (but touched my hand in an affectionate way once... I think he may of been tipsy at the time) lol. He was in the services from a young age and finds it difficult to show affection. The important thing is that I know he loves me (and hopefully he knows how much I love him) but I'm not expecting a hug in the near future lol

hellacray · Answer

Well what would be considered enough?

But if I had to guess I'd probably say no lol. I tense up when people try to hug me or touch me.

When I got my first massage I was extremely ticklish and my body was tense. I was told to focus on my breathing and eventually relaxed.

alice55 · Answer

I was never hugged and I when I asked my mother told me I was bothering her and I should "get out of her ways".
My father worked all the time and only got back on the week end. I don't remember if he hugged me or not.

CarpetDenim · Answer

I was almost never hugged as a child and now I find physical affection from older family members extremely uncomfortable. I’m fine with my friends but it’s weird with my family.

Akachan · Answer

Yes, my mom was/still is the type to bust in your room and hug you. I don't like others touching me though so i pinch her when I can't take it anymore.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Yes, my family is very big on hugs and I am too as a result (though I will not just go up and hug someone I am not 100% certain would be okay with it).

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I never was a friend of child huggers.
You know: these hysteric Neighbours, Aunties and Grannies who -unasked for- would press you into their fat and wrinkly bodies...
Luckily, I got away with a minimum of hugs of that kind.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Not really. My parents weren't really the huggy type, so after I was old enough not to need them (probably around grade school I believe) they just stopped hugging me.

Jjpayne · Answer

This is one thing that I enjoyed quite a bit as a kid from family and friend and teachers. And loved every minute of it 😊

Hannah_98 · Answer

I think so, probably too much actually. Never really liked it though. I’m just not one for intimate contact like that.

Adam1978 · Answer

No, would be the simple answer to that. My parents didn't have a loving relationship between themselves and then they could show it to us either.

FatherJack · Answer

Probably not , grew up under not the best circumstances. Not a hugger at all , not fond of human physical contact... not fond of people in general really

Nekto · Answer

Not at all maybe like once? Being deprived of hugs isn't good as a child since now I'm nervous with skin to skin contact.

PrettyWoman_ · Answer

Nope. My granny used to hug me. Now I don't even remember when was the last time someone hugged me. Now I'm craving for hugs.

IronmanT · Answer

My mother had but 4 pics i could find of me growing up. So no a hug for me was a rare thing... but i had friends, and some extended family that treated me well. So I am not real sure how effected by the lack of hugs if at all.

Fanglite2 · Answer

I barely got any Hugs growing up. I was always told what I did wasn't good enough or dealt with physical abuse.

YourVirtualBae · Answer

Me? Not at all and now since I've big boobs people line up to hug me!

bigmisssunshine · Answer

No I wasn’t. I don’t know but I think that’s why I crave hugs so much now

julieanderson · Answer

Yes lol my aunt is like a squeeze the stuff out of u hugger

guyismyname · Answer

Too bloody much, sexually attacked by about 10 or so kids in high school, (3 main intigators) we were all about 14... par for the course though eh?

the_bruh · Answer

I've been hugged once or twice by my dad, how much would be considered enough though?

Anonymous · Answer

I was never hugged really. When I was 14 someone in my family died. A neighbor woman hugged me, really hugged me and I remember how good it felt on a human level, not sexual. I hadn’t experienced that before.

beebella · Answer

My mom stopped hugging me regularly after my brother was born. My dad has never been much of a hugger.

Debbie29 · Answer

My dad always hugged me as my mom left us when I was a baby. He still hugs me sll the time

NarutoUzumaki007 · Answer

I was hugged enough as a child I am not hugged even the bare minimum as an adult

Bhavin2184 · Answer

Nope but my parents did express it other forms and taken good care of me.

Trooper205 · Answer

I mean, hey... Who could ever have ENOUGH hugs? I was hugged lots as a kid, but I could always do with more.

YHL6965 · Answer

No and, the only time I was, it did not feel good because I was not into it, probably due to something dark that I would rather not talk about in public.

oualid22 · Answer

Well in my family a week without seeing each other is a lot, so when we meet again hugs everywhere, that's it is so hard for us through this time... lol it is a tough exam

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

Yes, by my immediate family. Before we left for the day and at bedtime.

Guanfei · Answer

Tbh I don't remember one time I've been hugged, except once by my grandma. But you know how memories are, not necessarily accurate.

AcidT0y · Answer

Don't remember being hugged much if at all. But I don't like people touching me so that might have been why

tiajoka · Answer

Nah. Pretty much as soon as I was born I had tactile issues, so I wouldn't let people touch me. Was kinda lonely...

ColHathi · Answer

Dunno. I would've liked more hugs, that's for sure.

AmeerX · Answer

I can count on my hands how many times I was hugged in my 27 years old life

Anonymous · Answer

I was not. Think I’m still starving for those hugs now

Anonymous · Answer

No I wasn't.. And till today, I crave hugs. Easy to give but hard to receive!

stuntbrain · Answer

Every year I got a handshake from mom on my birthday

SenseiSeptred · Answer

Yes but I did not look forward to it due to why it was happening in the first place.

JesseCraft · Answer

I've only been hugged if my dad did something wrong which made me upset or mad

Anonymous · Answer

Plenty of times I was hugged and especially by my grandmother who was a huge hugger

mrgspoter · Answer

I hated it I don't like it, even now it's just a thing that's reserved for a few lady's I've been comfy with

TheAfrikan · Answer

⚫Nope I think I was not that much hugged a lot, so that is why the beast of hugging in me is now on rampage.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I have been kissed more than hugged. Even when I was hugged, it didn’t feel genuine but forced. .

OddBeMe · Answer

My therapist says I may have suffered from emotionally distant parents. Interesting to discuss.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I don't remember much, but my mom and grandma kissed me a lot more than they hugged me.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

A lot but thinking about it now, they weren't really genuine.

HelloWorldIsTaken · Answer

Nope. From my father I remember it happened only once 🤔

Nimbeast · Answer

Probably not but I've never been a hugger either, my twin is but I'm just not.

Enochian · Answer

Nope. My parents avoided me most of the time

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Not even once after age 7 or before age 5

louyaa · Answer

Yeah when I was little

Dinklex3 · Answer

Yup. Lots of hugs, kisses, & affection 🥰

On_cloud_wine · Answer

During the holidays, that’s it.

TheBootyChest · Answer

Not even close. That's why I want it so much now.

Nik1hil · Answer

I was hardly ever hugged.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Nope I wasn't I missed it a lot

nodnol32 · Answer

Probably. I recall too many hugs.

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