Too much when I was young. Sometimes it felt like an invasion of my personal space. Sometimes it was done in embarrassing situations without regard for my esteem as if I was a pet who had no right to my own wishes or feelings. As I got older, I distanced myself. At some point, hugging was no longer done in our house. That was unhealthy in the opposite extreme.
I remember when I was brand new to high school. There was a girl in one of my classes. We became friends. One time I saw her talking to some people outside of class. As I approached she greeted me warmly and opened her arms for a friendly hug. I didn't know what to do because it was like I had never heard of hugging. Anyway, I embarrassed myself that time. But I realized what I had done wrong.
As time went on, I became a hugger.
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I got hugged a lot in my family, although we didn't get along.
Both my Mom and Grandmother had gigantic breasts and when they hugged me my face got smothered in them.
As I grew up I felt grossed out by women's breasts. They were such a turn-off and it made me feel weird and different - because I'm not homosexual.
I went to see a therapist, once a week, for many years to deal with growing up in a dysfunctional family. I really learned a lot. I no longer feel grossed out by women's breasts.
Parents were never affectionate or hug type people dont really remember having hugs as a child maybe my nan or my auntie but l. dont remember any. Think the first time l remember having a hug l was in my early teens and it was from a friends sister after giving her a gift. She hugged me and l froze l had no idea how to react it was totally unexpected.
But as l went to college lots of my college friends were always giving hugs so l got used to it by then. But yeah as a child l. dont remember any from parents which is sad.
I can’t even remember a time my mom hugged me. Now as an adult I’m usually the one giving my mom hugs. My mom is emotionally very fucked up, and I definitely am as well, but I figured I could start trying to do my best to help her. Healing has to start somewhere, and I’ve decided to take the first steps.
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I was abused and neglected until I was 6, and then I was put into foster care, and adopted when I was 8. My adopted family liked to give hugs, but by that point I hated to be touched, so they would usually not hug me out of respect for my discomfort. So I guess I wasn’t hugged enough as a young child
No. Rarely, and parental love was 'Conditional' based on school grades and 'performance'!
They are both dead now, and I'm over their lack of parental 'anything'!!
I had a home and food, and clothes, and a good education, so I guess they did what they could. . .My Dad has not hugged me (but touched my hand in an affectionate way once... I think he may of been tipsy at the time) lol. He was in the services from a young age and finds it difficult to show affection. The important thing is that I know he loves me (and hopefully he knows how much I love him) but I'm not expecting a hug in the near future lol
Well what would be considered enough?
But if I had to guess I'd probably say no lol. I tense up when people try to hug me or touch me.
When I got my first massage I was extremely ticklish and my body was tense. I was told to focus on my breathing and eventually relaxed.I was never hugged and I when I asked my mother told me I was bothering her and I should "get out of her ways".
My father worked all the time and only got back on the week end. I don't remember if he hugged me or not.I was almost never hugged as a child and now I find physical affection from older family members extremely uncomfortable. I’m fine with my friends but it’s weird with my family.
Yes, my mom was/still is the type to bust in your room and hug you. I don't like others touching me though so i pinch her when I can't take it anymore.
Yes, my family is very big on hugs and I am too as a result (though I will not just go up and hug someone I am not 100% certain would be okay with it).
I never was a friend of child huggers.
You know: these hysteric Neighbours, Aunties and Grannies who -unasked for- would press you into their fat and wrinkly bodies...
Luckily, I got away with a minimum of hugs of that kind.Not really. My parents weren't really the huggy type, so after I was old enough not to need them (probably around grade school I believe) they just stopped hugging me.
This is one thing that I enjoyed quite a bit as a kid from family and friend and teachers. And loved every minute of it 😊
I think so, probably too much actually. Never really liked it though. I’m just not one for intimate contact like that.
No, would be the simple answer to that. My parents didn't have a loving relationship between themselves and then they could show it to us either.
Probably not , grew up under not the best circumstances. Not a hugger at all , not fond of human physical contact... not fond of people in general really
Not at all maybe like once? Being deprived of hugs isn't good as a child since now I'm nervous with skin to skin contact.
Nope. My granny used to hug me. Now I don't even remember when was the last time someone hugged me. Now I'm craving for hugs.
My mother had but 4 pics i could find of me growing up. So no a hug for me was a rare thing... but i had friends, and some extended family that treated me well. So I am not real sure how effected by the lack of hugs if at all.
I barely got any Hugs growing up. I was always told what I did wasn't good enough or dealt with physical abuse.
No I wasn’t. I don’t know but I think that’s why I crave hugs so much now
Too bloody much, sexually attacked by about 10 or so kids in high school, (3 main intigators) we were all about 14... par for the course though eh?
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