How important is being athletic?

[Anonymous]

All throughout high school, I played lacrosse, mainly because it is a fun game, helped me stay in shape, and allowed me the benefits of team sports. Lacrosse in the south doesn't really get the collegiate attention that schools up north receive, because it's a growing sport, and those in New England are much better at it. When I got to college, I attended the same very small private school my mother did, where most of the students there were brought in by sports scholarships, and so the school is very athletically oriented. There, you are either very dorky or an athlete of some variety. in fact, many of the colleges in that area are like this. I came from out of state, whereas most students are from in state, and had assumed that in college the whole clique mindset was gone. The male baseball players dominate these schools, and are accompanied by their female soccer playing counterparts. Although most of my friends are baseball players and soccer players, they are still very exclusive. especially dating-wise. I even started dating a female athelete, but she later decided she wanted a baseball player. I went so far as to casually survey my female athlete friends on whether or not they'd date a non-athlete in general, and to my dismay, said no. I've explained to people that I played lacrosse but there isn't a men's team to play on. I came to the conclusion that my sports career ended after high school so I could focus on college, which I assumed to be a respectable decision. I've even been told I look like a baseball player, but the fact that I'm not turns them away. These girls have told me that I'm funny, attractive, and sweet but I will always be the friend. For some reason they just want a baseball player, all of which bone them and then leave them, repeatedly. I would date another nonathlete if I could, but they are very large and very Jesus oriented and would frown upon many of my college-related actions. The athletic women do not. Then I was thinking that even if I could date a girl who played sports, she would be out scoring goals and giving me something to be proud of them for, and I couldn't really do anything for them to be proud of me for. She goes to practice and to the gym. I go to the gym, then sit on the couch. I would feel very inferior. So with everything I've told you, uhh...what do I do?

[Raelin]

I say get a new veiw of relationships yours is screwed up.

Being with someone who plays sports because she's not overweight,and don't try giving an excuse because I quote ". I would date another nonathlete if I could, but they are very large" wich is bullsh*t. You just want to date an athletic girl because they look good over the ones who don't play sports supposedly,wich is bullsh*t again I may add, your lumping people in to groups instead of seeing indaviduals,wich is why your not getting dates.

You not giving non athletes a chance because they according ot you are all bible thumping amazons...uh hu sure.

You want to date only female athletes but they don't want you probably because they want someone better than you. Not to mention your fixating way to f***in much on your whole used to play Lacross to much...and no offence I must say on average not manny people give two sh*ts for lacross sorry to say.

You need to get over it and try to find a person no matter athetic abilities or no so just get to know girls in general instead of fixating "what group" they come from. Once you stop generalising people you might find a date