What should I act?

[Anonymous]

Greetings,

I have a question and would appreciate any feedback and suggestions. I will try to give a brief context of the situation, so I make sure my confusion is clear.

So, 1.5 years ago I went to sign up for this gym. One day, and since day 1 I noticed this girl coming to the gym and I crushed inexplicably and instantly. From the way she walked in, the way she works out, the way she manifests and just being so me in many ways. The thing is for the past 3 years I had no interest in going out and meeting any girl. And that is because I was very focused on my discipline and literally, I had no time to give out for distractions. I would wake up at 5 AM starting my workout routine (meditation and yoga), then work, and in the evening - physical activity, be it lifting weights, running or other, and then getting home, shower and sleep. Every day.

Being caught in this routine I had no closeness with a girl and at the same time the attention I often get from other girls I just pretend I don’t notice it and just ignore it. Rarely do I crush on someone, and if I do it passes in a speck of time.

But this time… at the gym, this woman just captured and stole my attention, and it just grew. I can’t believe I am in this feeling for such a long time as such a long time passed since I experienced such thing. And it is not a sex thing, just an urge to communicate to her, knowing her, that genuine interest is above any physical contact.

Updates

1 y

So one day I approached her and we had a talk. We chatted for 30 mins or so in the parking lot and she said that she is focused on her family and so on and does not have friends, does not go out to gossip with friends and her circle is very closed. She complimented me at some point, and we just had a nice talk. She told me she has everything a woman wants in life (she seems to have a very rich husband) and it would not be possible to hang out or go out for a coffee.

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1 y

I accepted this and was very happy we talked. I closed my curiosity at that point and did not look after more. Later on, exactly after this talk, as weeks passed by, I ignored approaching her, looking at her, because I had no intentions to continue, respecting her position. Strange thing, at some point, I started to notice that she follows me in the gym with eye contact very often and intensively. At some point she would salute me from the other corner of the gym. One day I intentionally pretend

[SueShe]

It is clear to me that you should not attempt anything with this woman because you don't want to be a homewrecker. She says that she has everything she needs, including a husband and therefore, that should be enough for you to keep your fingers off.

Don't let yourself be ruled by your hormones but stay friendly with her and that is about as far as you should go, even if she in turn follows you.

You have been able to live that long without getting into trouble with the opposite gender and I would suggest you continue as you did in the past. If things get out of hands because of you not being able to get her out of your mind or her following you, then do the only thing that is reasonable and change your gym. Go to a different one where you will not be tempted or she will not be able to follow you.

[Anonymous]

"She has everything a woman wants in life (she seems to have a very rich husband)"

There is your answer - back off.

[strateguy632]

stop waiting invite her to jog with you and talk afterwards.

[Iron_Man]

if you want her bed enough pursue her

[Anonymous]

Leave her