I have hair loss that cannot be cured, diagnosed in my early 20s but I suspect it started in my late teens. Some treatments exist but it was ineffective on me and too expensive to consider life long use.
I feel like evevryone around me doesn't takes me seriously and is dismissive of my feelings, won't even accept my derms diagnosis as true. To them as long as you're not completely bald, or if the few hair you have is long you just have some kind of Iron deficiency. People will even try to shame me as if I was doing it to myself with an unhealthy diet. I can't blame them too much as uncurable hair loss in women isn't that common.
I'm starting to feel like I'm in some sort of isolation bubble around people who don't speak my language. Even my boyfriend is super dismissive of everything, I can't even share my struggle with him. I have had depression before and I'm scared to get there again. I thought I was crazy but once I heard a woman talking to her friend and she said that if she didn't recover from her postpartum hait loss she might have killed herself because it got her so depressed. It's got to the point where I feel I'm going to loose it. To be honest I'm objectively unattractive, I'll say plain as to not offend the deniers of ugliness, and I won't be able to rock a shaved head at all. Decent wigs are too expensive for me also but I try to save. I really don't know what to do, I feel so lost and alone, it's eating me inside everyday. Seeing my hair in a mirror, feeling my scalp and just a few strands of hair when I touch it, and not even letring my boyfriend touch it anymore. I'm afraid it has even contributed in the recent loss of my sex drive. The hair never stopping to come out on the brush, seeing my hair everywhere, seeing my scalp shine under even home lights, making more and more twists with elastics to tie my hair... I'm constantly reminded of how bad it's getting and it feels like torture.
How did you handle all of that personally?
I feel like evevryone around me doesn't takes me seriously and is dismissive of my feelings, won't even accept my derms diagnosis as true. To them as long as you're not completely bald, or if the few hair you have is long you just have some kind of Iron deficiency. People will even try to shame me as if I was doing it to myself with an unhealthy diet. I can't blame them too much as uncurable hair loss in women isn't that common.
I'm starting to feel like I'm in some sort of isolation bubble around people who don't speak my language. Even my boyfriend is super dismissive of everything, I can't even share my struggle with him. I have had depression before and I'm scared to get there again. I thought I was crazy but once I heard a woman talking to her friend and she said that if she didn't recover from her postpartum hait loss she might have killed herself because it got her so depressed. It's got to the point where I feel I'm going to loose it. To be honest I'm objectively unattractive, I'll say plain as to not offend the deniers of ugliness, and I won't be able to rock a shaved head at all. Decent wigs are too expensive for me also but I try to save. I really don't know what to do, I feel so lost and alone, it's eating me inside everyday. Seeing my hair in a mirror, feeling my scalp and just a few strands of hair when I touch it, and not even letring my boyfriend touch it anymore. I'm afraid it has even contributed in the recent loss of my sex drive. The hair never stopping to come out on the brush, seeing my hair everywhere, seeing my scalp shine under even home lights, making more and more twists with elastics to tie my hair... I'm constantly reminded of how bad it's getting and it feels like torture.
How did you handle all of that personally?
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Young lady, I feel for you. I assume you are experiencing the onset of alopecia.
https://youtu.be/hIMGAwlCXZwPlease don't think of this as trite. As a follicly challenged American myself after having had spectacular hair the women loved, I empathize. But, I also made a decision. It's not that I embraced what happened to me, but I accepted it and wasn't going to hide it. Hiding the issue - especially if it is obvious what is really happening - illustrates insecurity and insecurity is every bit as unattractive as most other things, certainly so than baldness.
My wife had a different but comparable issue. She had wonderful breasts, but she got a double mastectomy not quite 2 years ago. She joined a Facebook group "Flat and Fabulous" of women like her who embraced their flat chestedness. My wife did so much so that she got her chest tattooed and is more than willing to show her chest even on Facebook. I am proud of her for accepting what happened and embracing who she is now. Do I miss her boobs? Yes, but I'd miss her more, so they had to go and, frankly, as much as I miss them, not really - it doesn't affect me much except now I don't know when it's cold outside. ;) She actually seems happier now too because her rack was rather inconvenient for her so now, having no boobs, some of her problems went away.
And me too! Now that I am not a god with long hair, I am saving a shitload on hair care products - especially detanglers... I was going through an expensive jar in less than 2 weeks!
So, I am not being dismissive of your condition, but acceptance of what is happening and what you will become. When you do this, the problems of worrying about it will go away. It might seem odd at first and that I am full of shit for a while, but I hope that you will see what I mean.
There is no reason why you can't be like this woman...
And, another thing...
Any man who can't deal with you like you will be was never a man for you anyway.
Let me explain...
In my wife's Facebook group, many women either worried about or did lose their husbands/boyfriends because of their mastectomies. Those men piss me off! When you get married, it's about "For richer, for poorer; for better or worse; in sickness and in health". A husband is a man who accepts his wife as she is including any changes that she goes through. Any man who cannot deal with that not only isn't husband material, he's not really a man either.
My wife and I have been together through our transitions and that's because we understand and live by the marital vows.
I tried pretty much everything for my hair loss including nutrition and different oils but nothing worked. But after reading (The Power Of The Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy) about a person that claimed to have cured lung cancer through affirmations and visualization, I took the same affirmations they used, slightly modified them and used them for my thinning hair. I affirmed the following many times a day with, and without visualization:
'Through God, my subconscious made my hair and is now fully regrowing the hair on the crown of my head. I am whole, harmonious, happy, wealthy, healthy, content, prosperous, abundant, powerful, blessed, graceful, joyful. I am perfect in Christ's image and by His stripes I am healed'.
After 1 week of affirming and visualization my thinning hair started to grow back.
But all of these discoveries came after I prayed to God thanking Him for restoring my thinning hair long before I even knew whether it was possible. Therefore faith, belief and connection with God and the subconscious mind were the keys. Many of us have forgotten that we all have the Blueprint to perfect health and wholeness through God, in our subconscious mind. Reconnecting with this is the key. Ask God, stop relying on man...
Matthew 19:26
26 Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
Above is exactly what everyone wants you to forget because then they can profit from you, control you, instill fear and have you pay for stuff like hair transplants and Doctors / specialists.
A wig is around $1000 dollars but you can use it for the rest of your life.