People that’s been overweight/obese your whole lives, do you envy fit/slender built people?

[Anonymous]

All of my life, I’ve always been the tall, big girl. Not only that I was chubby as a child, overweight as a preteen and teenager and still now since I’m 18. I am 5’10”, a size 22/24W in clothing, I have to get a 24 sometimes in pants because my hips are very wide and I have a large bone structure. I’m currently 257lbs and weigh loss is tough. My doctor got in my face and told be bluntly that I’m so close to diabetes. I’ve always been jealous of fit and slender girls my whole life. I’ve dreamed of being just like them and guys picking me up and sitting on their shoulders but that will never happen to them. I’ve been nasty to slender girls and yelled at them. I know horrible but it’s the truth. Most boys say that can’t stand skinny, slender girls and prefer girls on the curvier or thicker side and I’m one of them. Guys said they would date me if I was shorter and curvier. I don’t care what they like. I wanna be slender and be able to look cute in clothing and cross my legs. I can’t even cross my legs! When I see slender women and guys in music videos, I get bitter and jealous. I almost broke the tv for being so jealous and throwing my bottle. Even I get jealous of tall, fit or slender ladies.

[Anonymous]

I often do. I sometimes cry myself to sleep because I've been wanting to be thin all my life and seeing others thin just makes me upset. It's sometimes motivating to see them on TV or on YouTube but for the most part it's depressing.

I'm a bit bigger than you and a lot shorter so I probably don't look as good fat as you do. I have loss 27lbs so far just by eating healthier. Cutting back on my meals. Just this week I've lost 11lbs. I am so determined to get this weight off. I did it before. I was in Onderland once and almost made it into the 180s. That's the lowest I've gotten. So I've never actually been on the thin side. I would love to get there again and beyond and I know it's possible because I've been almost there before.

Right now I'm taking Rybelsus (the ozempic pill form) and at first it wasn't doing anything but now it's starting to work I think. I'm eating around 1000-1400 cals a day now.

Maybe ask your doctor to prescribe it for you and see how it works with suppressing your appetite. Of course diet and exercise will aid in making the weight come off faster but so far I haven't had to do any exercise and I feel totally satisfied now that I'm two weeks in taking it.

I know the weight loss will slow eventually and I will eventually have to start working out but for right now, I am really trying to focus on my eating habits and cutting back majorly.

[Opinion Owner]

Also you can eat whatever you want as long as you're in a calorie deficit. It may not be as filling but you can eat the things you eat now... just less of it. I'm eating bread, rice, potatoes, pasta etc. It's all about calories in calories out. Download Myfitnesspal if you don't have that and start logging in your food each day to see just how much you are consuming everyday and slowly start to cut back on what you're eating.

I'm telling you it works. 11lbs in 9 days... I would have never thought I could lose that much in 9 days.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say I envy them so much as I envy the ease at which some people stay slender. I caught flack for saying this on here once. But some people can just look at a piece of exercise equipment and get thin and some people have to work for every inch of it. I'm not making excuses for anyone. I do believe EVERYONE can get healthy. But I don't think our society recognizes some have to work a little harder at it.

I think you also have the double edged sword of being tall. Yeah 257 lbs. is too much. But people need to understand it's different than be 5' or 5'2". The taller you are the more you're going to weigh. This is especially hard for a woman because women are judged harder than men for weight. But I get where you're coming from because I'm 6'5" 250lbs. When people hear I'm well over 250lbs. They think "dude you weigh a lot" not remembering how much bigger I am then them. I'll never weigh 180 (considered avg. For and avg. Guy). And you'll never weigh an avg. weight because you're taller than an avg girl.

I think most people who are overweight just need a taste of success. Not everyone loses the same weight at the same speed or the same way. Sometimes it takes a little while to find your niche. I failed probably a 100 times before I found my formula for losing weight. I can slim down when I want to. But I don't feel it makes a whole lot of difference in my appearance. So I'll start a regimine lose a good amount of weight for maybe 6 months, then I'll get lazy, quit, and then put it back on again.

Just curious has your doctor checked you for any underlying conditions like sleep apnea or hypothyroidism? Both not treated can make it impossible to lose weight (I have both). Until I got them treated I couldn't lose weight.

[Asker]

I guess so. My doctor told me because I’m tall and large built with wide thick hips, I don’t be able to get under 180 because of my bone structure and my goal of being 160 is unrealistic unless I’m small built but she said. 180-185lbs is a healthy weight for me and those BIM things I would see online isn’t always real and don’t depend on it. I looked it up and said the average weight for a 5’10 female is 135-167lbs. I just looked it up. I don’t understand why my doctor said the BIM is bogus and just listen to her and stop stepping on the scale too much and I need to accept that I will always be a large female.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree with her. Mine said I should be 159 to 210. I graduated high school at 210.😆
We as humans compare ourselves to some idealized version that is most the time unattainable. But that doesn't mean you can't lose weight, get healthy and look good in your own right. You'll never look like Cindy Crawford (also 5'10"). But that doesn't mean you can't build yourself into a badass b****.

[Asker]

Well Cindy Crawford I’ve always envied her body and wanna look like her but my doctor said not everyone is built to be like her and I’m one of them. She says I’ll have to accept that I’m always going to have a thick tall body and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. I don’t care. I want Cindy Crawfords body

[Asker]

How do you know I’ll never look like her?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm just going by what you say. I don't know for certain. I'm just trying to say rather than poison your mind chasing some ridiculous ideal why not just try to be the best YOU you can be.

[Asker]

I guess so. I can’t help how I feel. Truth is I’m always going to envy slender or slim people no matter what. I want to look like Cindy but I never will and I hate the fact that I can’t cross my legs well. Face it, I’ll never be happy with myself. That’s the truth.

[Opinion Owner]

Not with that mindset, no you won't. I'm far from perfect. Everytimesomeone rejects me I always say "why" to myself as well. Why can't I be like this instead. I can't answer that. But I have lived long enough to know that even if you are a really physically gifted person in the looks dept. that doesn't make your life smooth sailing. Because most people don't like beautiful people for who they are. Only what they represent. They're treated like a commodity. Yes I would like to have been more handsome. But I've seen a lot of women out there. And very handsome attract some of the WORST women. I guess what I'm saying is physical beauty can be as much as a curse as a gift.

[Wonderingguyy]

I have been obese all my life. I have definitely quietly envied fit people, but never to a point I was mean to them or anything. I agree weight loss is so damn difficult especially if you have been fat for most of your life, but never stop trying. And until then, (I know this Is extremely tough to actually do) try not to hate yourself/compare yourself to others. It's not good for you and will make you even unhappier.

Think of your goal weight/ideal body as something you will DEFINITELY achieve one day, and until then, you can still live your life as you want, and do things/hang out with people that make you happy!

I have only JUST started to lose some weight now for the first time in my life, and I think it's because I am in a better mental state where I'm not constantly counting calories and thinking about/obsessing over what food I eat. I am just enjoying having fun with some good friends I have recently made, enjoying my job, naturally staying active while not forcing myself to do horrible workouts, and in turn I think I have FINALLY developed a healthy relationship with food- because I'm not constantly thinking about it. I'm now eating what foods I want- mostly healthy but I still do enjoy some junk food without it being excessive. It's all about a balance.

Good Luck!

[Sonorous]

I used to be overweight when I was younger. I would still be if I didn't keep an eye on what I eat relative to how much activity I'm doing. So I don't really experience extreme feelings of envy. I just kinda make something a goal if I value it that much.

But what aspect about weightless is the hardest for you? It seems like you might already have a good grasp of how to love weight?

[Sonorous]

how to lose weight*

[menshealth]

People's feelings and attitudes vary widely, and individuals who have been overweight or obese their whole lives may have different perspectives on their body image and how they view fit or slender built individuals. Some may feel envious or insecure about their appearance compared to those with a different body type, while others may have learned to accept and love themselves regardless of their size.

It's essential to recognize that body image and self-esteem are complex and can be influenced by societal standards, personal experiences, and mental health. Encouraging body positivity, self-acceptance, and a focus on overall health and well-being can help individuals develop a healthy relationship with their bodies, irrespective of their weight or shape. It's essential to avoid making assumptions about how someone may feel about their body and instead promote understanding and support for all body types and sizes. MORE...( https://www. menshealth. com/ )

[Staximus]

Don't eat more than 1500 calories a day and exercise everyday. Don't make any excuses, just do it

[Asker]

Okay okay sheesh. You sound just like my doctor. She told me that’s why I’m not losing weight because I eat more then that and I’m being lazy about my eating habits and just putting junk in my mouth and frankly don’t care. My cried to my dad about he but he told me to suck it up and listen to the doctor. I’m just full of excuses and I always complain about being fat and not doing crap about it. He called me fat when I complained about it. Can you believe him?

[Staximus]

If you don't want to be fat, count calories and exercise. If you want to stay fat, just keep making excuses. If you want to eat whatever you want, you have to get a lot of exercise. If you don't want to get a lot of exercise, you have to count calories. It's not rocket science, just self discipline

[Asker]

Okay okay I will. I just wanna fit in clothing like those smaller ladies but I’m always going to be so freaking big and I can’t accept it

[Staximus]

That's not going to happen if you keep shoveling trash food in your mouth. Stop eating sweets and stop eating bread, pasta, etc. Just eat vegetables, fruit, meat and nuts.

[Asker]

Okay. 🙁
Man you sound brutal and harsh but good point.

[Staximus]

I lost 90 pounds one time, I'm not just talking out of my ass. It only happened when I forced myself to change. You can do it too. All you have to do is develop some self discipline and stop your bad habits. You can do it. Believe in yourself, goddamn it. You have to make the change. Get up and drag yourself out of your own personal hell, your not dead yet. Don't ever give up.