Does overthinking happen to everyone?

[Anonymous]

Is overthinking a natural human flaw or could it be a possible effect that comes from the lack of venting in general, it makes sense, normally when you vent you put it behind you and normally stop thinking about it so when you don't vent, is it possible it creates overthinking overtime when it comes to everything, like mental damage? 🤔

[NathanDavis]

I'm an overthinker by nature... lol

but I've always had a hyper-active mind, always lived with it, so I am very much used to it and how to deal with too

in my very specific case, I can overanalyze many things or pretty much anything, and very very quick, the problem is when my mind would get caught in a "cycle" this is, repetitive overthinking and analyzing the same thing from different angles or perspectives and once I focus on one, which I think is the best to go with I would still analyze it again a couple times to make sure it is the best one, lol

once I am 1001% sure... my mind can go "but wait... what if" and I could get stuck like that, this is the part of my brain that I had work on for many years as a kid, and early teen because it could obviously turn into a problem with many things, being undecided or just not acting on many things

it is something I am very familiar with and I've learned to control long time ago, and it won't longer get on my way...

it really is overthinking when it becomes a cycle in which you get stuck with and "paralyzes" you and take no action, and in turn this is what could bring you all kind of problems in your life, relationships, and your own personality as well... it can lead to stress and anxiety that we could take against us in frustration

and yes, there's therapy for these things

[Asker]

So does everyone have that or it's something that builds up through experience and situations, cause it you think of it, it's a type of paranoia, just a mild case of it so does everyone overthink or it's just many Do? 🤔

[NathanDavis]

most people would usually think a lot before an important decision, I think this is what would come natural to most or anyone of us (a lot of people don't think much though, lol)

not everyone is an overthinker no... not the point of becoming "stuck"

but I think it can happen later in life yes, and I also think it can be the result of other issues that someone can struggle with, including a type of paranoia, yes... but these cases might be the minority

[Asker]

It doesn't seem like children overthink and I don't recall overthinking as a child so if it was by nature, wouldn't they overthink too? 🤔

[NathanDavis]

well... in children, I think it would be show on how well or not so well they're doing in school

and also how willing or not willing they are to play with other kids, as kids...

I surely remember both situations... I would avoid any game or play with other kids because I would overthink about anything possible situation I did not want to deal with lol

while in school, I would do homework or projects, one, two, three, or even four times because I was never "satisfied" or "not sure" if it was done the way I knew I could do it "better"

[Asker]

I guess it must be a part of nature to overthink, you were a big overthinker from the sounds of it lmao

[NathanDavis]

just one of my many challenges as a kid... lol

[Asker]

Did you run with scissors pointy side up or down?

[NathanDavis]

I always ran with blades facing outwards, not towards me... and further front or back, pointing to the side...

[Asker]

Everything but the right way lol

[NathanDavis]

I do have over 60 blades of all kinds, lol... not one cut or stab yet

[Asker]

With that sentence I already know you don't do the knife game with the fingers lol

[NathanDavis]

I do... but it does scare people, lol...

I'm actually a thrower

[NathanDavis]

and no... I don't do the throwing knives between the legs of people, I know could... but I won't

[Asker]

You should, then say "damn it, almost got your nuts" and see how they react 😂

[NathanDavis]

once in high school, I STUPIDLY, just three a stick across the classroom... tried to hit this friend of mine

I hit him right between the eyes lmfao...

I felt really bad and truly idiotic lmao... a stick does not have any kind of reliability so it was 100% luck I hit him and 1000% luck that I didn't hit any of his eyes

[Asker]

You yeeted that shit almost giving him a third eye, which he needed cause if he had one, he would've saw that coming ha

[NathanDavis]

exactly... that's why I'm going to tell people from now on

[Asker]

Ima tax you a finders fee everytime you use that lol

[NathanDavis]

I'll directly quote and credit you every time I do... that's fair use, lol

[Asker]

Or you can pay the finders fee 😂

[NathanDavis]

lmao... how about a one time payment, license

[Asker]

Ima do the mechanic magic on you real quick

Oooooff, that's going to be expensive, you are better off paying the finders fee everytime lol

[Sonorous]

I think that thinking only becomes "overthinking" or "bad" in relation to a specific & defined goal. This is a guess, but, I believe that to avoid overthinking, we need to restructure our thoughts & actions in a way that is actually constructive for whatever we're trying to do. It has to be practical & tailored to what's best for us in that moment. I believe that becoming more physically at doing anything will cause us to have to consciously think less.

For instance, if I know how to fight, I don't have to stress about how to avoid getting beat up. And if we cannot become better at something, then to avoid overthinking in that way would still mean to place less importance on things that aren't relevant. To entertain the same analogy, if I don't know how to fight, instead of stressing so much about it, I could just carry around a self-defense weapon that would be more effective than throwing fists anyway. And then move on with my life.

[Sonorous]

Oh and I'm not sure if it happens to everyone. 🤣 But I do struggle with it.

[Sonorous]

I believe that becoming more physically competent*

[Asker]

Seems like it happens to everyone based on the opinions I'm getting lol

[Sonorous]

I think that certain people do it more than others. But that if someone is smart enough to think in complex ways, then they're smart enough to "overthink."

[Asker]

Sounds like logical information to me lol

[Sonorous]

🤣 I like the word "overthink" but really only in relation to a well defined goal. Because if a goal isn't well defined, then that same kind of (over) thinking can help to generate one.

[Asker]

I guess maybe I don't know 😂

[Sonorous]

🤣🤣🤣

[sage2021]

I usually don't overthink things. I'm lucky that answers to things come to me right away. I don't think I have the capability of overthinking.
No.

I saw someone overthinking something out loud and the refrigerator repair man said to him "You're overthinking this". Bless his heart - he had ADHD and things were hard for him to figure out. But he tried so hard to help to get our refrigerator fixed.

[IslaTheWitch]

Some people are overthinking. Some are not thinking at all... there is some balance in nature :D

As an overthinker, I can say it has nothing to do with venting because I vent in real-time :D
I just... analyze all possible and also not possible scenarios and try to create Plan X for every analyzed occasion... :D

[HawkPerception]

Overthinking is a more common trait in highly intelligent people, however it's not a good trait, because it only really works against you and your ability to just jump into something and get your feet wet.

Why Are Smart People More Anxious? The Dark Side of Brightness! www. linkedin. com/.../why-smart-people-more-anxious-dark-side-brightness-manoj-vasudevan

[Asker]

Well if it's saying I'm smart, im all for it lol

[HawkPerception]

People are so afraid of saying they're intelligent nowadays because it comes across as arrogant to others, but also tell you to have some more confidence. It makes no fucking sense 😂 People just want to put others down.

[Asker]

It's unbelievable, it's why building a thick skin is necessary nowadays

[midnightmoon05]

Not me. My daughter is always over thinking…I have to work with her to change her mindset…it’s hard…but helping a bit.

I don’t think much… I am more action oriented.

[Asker]

Well I'm aware you are a different breed midnight, I'd copy and paste you if it was possible 😂

[midnightmoon05]

Oh wait… like clone me?

[Asker]

At least your personality, you are just very unusual in the good way midnight, and unfortunately it seems like that wonderful personality of yours is going to die with you, everyone is unique in their own way but you are very much different to most which is rare I guess

[midnightmoon05]

No worries…I will be living till like 100…I have longevity in my family. Women in my family are too strong!!
I thank you for what you said.

[Asker]

I hope your way of thinking thrives through your children midnight, may they pass it on for generations, if any of them open a parenting school, the seed is planted, all It requires is for it to bloom 🤣

[Lisia]

I still overthink after venting 😃.. but I actually think some people don't really overthink or just not as much.

[Asker]

Overthinking is engraved in your personality Lisa, all we can do is not let zombies eat that fillet mignon you got inside your head ha

[Lisia]

I think they already ate a part of my fillet mignon 🥲

[Asker]

Nooo 😭😭😭

Who was on protecting the fillet mignon duty 😭

[Lisia]

I lowkey don't think anything was 😭😭

[Asker]

Just point the zombie, I'll get it back

[Lisia]

You'll make it puke? 😂

[Asker]

I was gonna cut it open but sure make it puke sounds like a better idea lol

[Lisia]

Holy shit 😭 lmaooo

[Asker]

Gotta get that piece at all cost Lisa lol

[Lisia]

True true you have a point there

[exitseven]

Yes, it happened to me today. I tried really hard to distract myself and keep busy but I kept thinking the worst about something I am dealing with.

[Asker]

It's hard not too, bad things make the worst thoughts start bullying you lol

[whirled_up_girl]

I over think a lot things particularly at work.

[Asker]

That work must have you overWORKed 😀🧀

[MyNameIsAmy]

Possibly

But I definitely overthink 🙃...

[Asker]

Well Amy welcome to the club

Here are some welcoming chocolates 🍫🍫

[hotwheelz78]

ONLY IF THEY'RE SMART ENOUGH TO OVER THINK THINGS IN THE FIRST PLACE.. I MEAN IT.. LOW INTELLIGENCE people **RARELY** OVERTHINK ANYTHING...

[serenalovesramen]

I never overthink

[Asker]

🤔🤔🤔🤔

[serenalovesramen]

It’s true lol

[Asker]

You say everything is true

[serenalovesramen]

Cuz I never lie

[Asker]

That itself is a lie

[serenalovesramen]

haters say it’s fake

[Asker]

And liars say it's hating

[serenalovesramen]

Your overthinking lol

[Asker]

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[serenalovesramen]

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[Asker]

Denial doesn't look good on you Serena

[serenalovesramen]

Wow body shaming me is crazy

[Asker]

Don't play that Karen card on me, that shit don't work

[serenalovesramen]

Wow calling me ugly is crazy Chico

[Asker]

I'm the victim here, the way you stomped on my uno card was foul.

[serenalovesramen]

I’m the type of person to stand on business

[Asker]

Sit yo ass down little girl 😂💺

[serenalovesramen]

Don’t make me call Anthony Joshua

[Asker]

That man can eat my led

Now, take a seat 💺

[serenalovesramen]

I don’t tolerate this

[Asker]

It's okay don't worry *pats head*

[serenalovesramen]

Yeah ur definitely a overthinker

[Asker]

I never denied it younglin 😌🙏🏽

[serenalovesramen]

Is that rizz

[Asker]

What no 😂

[serenalovesramen]

Yeah aight

[Asker]

And just like that, you proved my point, you just over thought 💀

[RedInnocent68]

All. The. Time.

[Asker]

Lmao it be like that

[Jmmmfi4]

I SURE DO