He was "with" another girl at the same time

[Anonymous]

im really upset because I recently found out that my new boyfriend was with another girl while he was with me but before we were officially together (we were like friends with benefits? idk). The most they did was peck. I know the girl and she is very flirtatious. He said they'd hang out and then sometimes they'd just end up cuddling but he never hung out with her planning to do anything (so he says, but idk). Apparently sometimes she'd give him a peck and several time he did the same. I remember at one point he got distant from me, apparently that was cause he really liked her. Then he realized what a bad person and friend she was.

I know we weren't together and they didn't necessarily hook up. He has apologized but I'm hurt...i don't know what to think/do

[lisac]

You can't change what happened, at least he told you the truth and chose you over her. If you really like him, stay with him. If I were you, I would go find a guy who can appreciate me and feel lucky to be with me not the other way around. The guy will respect you more. Just don't make the mistake of being FWB. Maybe we're in different generation, I don't get why girls are in FWB relationship. I don't think girls in that kind of relationship get any respect whatsoever and it is sad. Furthermore, FWB ruins the whole sacred intimacy relationship that is supposed to exist between two lovers.

[Asker]

Well I liked him. I wasnt just after him for sex and I thought he liked me as well. I mean he said he did like me, but he also had a crush on the other girl. I mean I guess it makes sense he liked me since he ended up asking me out. but no more friends with benefits or w/e was going on

[Lea1986]

That would drive me crazy! But, since you were not "together" he wasn't entirely wrong for hanging out with the other girl. And he did tell you, he didn't keep it a secret, which means he wanted to come clean with you. I don't think this is grounds for a break-up, but I can see how this would test your ability to trust him. I suggest taking things slow with this guy and keep the lines of communication open, don't stew and get all crazy if you see him talking to another girl. This experience could breed jealousy and taint the relationship in the future, but at the same time this experience could tell you a lot about the kind of person he really is. Be easy, take it slow and don't jump to conclusions.

[99freshman]

Hes liying through his teeth. Retrun the faver and hang out with some guy you kind think is hot and do what he did to you