What are the WORST ways to handle sadness?

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What are the worst things someone can do when they are dealing with sadness and sorrow?

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Isolation and denial. This is one of the ways that traditional masculinity is so insidious. We’re not permitted to ask for help. We are expected almost universally to eat our feelings. So when we are sad, we have literally zero recourse. Isolate so that we don’t burden others and deny our feelings in the almost unheard of situation that someone cares enough to notice, let alone ask. Be brave enough to say something, anything and be ostracized, labeled needy, at best, and often dangerous because there is nothing on planet Earth more dangerous than an emotional man.
The reason that the loneliness epidemic is so scary is that it’s an inescapable trap. The ONE thing of which we are most in need, meaningful human interaction, we are absolutely denied by every societal norm. There’s no wonder so many men just choose self deletion. What other options do we have, really?

Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

Hmmm I'd say the classics:

Repress sadness
Deny sadness

Repression consists in burying your feelings six feet under, using anything at hands to get pleasure from, most likely psychoactive substances. Could be work too, or sex. Until it backfires, sadness kicks back in, a greater quantity of pleasure is needed to compensate... And then it's normally the moment where depression strikes, forcefully.

Denial consists in convincing yourself that your feelings don't or should not exist. This route is not for everyone because I think it takes a quite special mind to perform this mental stunt. I assume that, with time and dedication to denial, it will be extremely hard to pinpoint what the origin of sorrow even was. Which becomes then a generalized feeling of void, of emptiness.

VioletHaze · Accepted Answer

Not deal with it. There are so many ways to disassociate from the pain, most of which are harmful in the long run, like drinking, abusing substances, isolation etc. Plus, it'll come out in other ways if you repress it. You might get irritable or angry at the world, destroying your relationships in a time you need their support the most.

The best way is to sit with it and give it time.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Probably what I want to do, but that's subjective. For me it's a net positive and while others may not see it, it is a valid way to get out or the suffering and sadness.

But in my opinion, it's to use your pain as an excuse to force your loved ones to watch you fall apart and become something entirely different to the one they know and love

OneViewpoint · Answer

Jumping off a bridge will certainly end your sadness but that comes with a huge downside... you'll be dead. Hardly an improvement. Wallowing in self pity is a pretty useless response.  Lashing out at everyone around you isn't very beneficial either. Curling up into a ball and avoiding life isn't much of a plan.

queenofcardio · Answer

Eating everything in the fridge. I think relying on food to make us happy when we're sad is unhealthy. It will make you feel worse in the long run and can create a bad habit of emotional eating.

molonski2 · Answer

Not exercise
Not get enough sleep
Abuse alcohol
Take script drugs
Dwell rather than move
Stay indoors
Cut themselves off from others.
Not trying something new.
Not keeping active mentally and physically.

Kayla45 · Answer

Getting mad while being sad is a huge mistake, in my experience being sad and mad rarely resolves the root problem.

Hunter-40m · Answer

Isolating yourself from the crowd retreating into your own shell , listening to musics or watching films feeding your sadness , drinking to numb your senses to suppress your sadness and so on

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Listening to The Cure or The Velvet Underwear. Taking a long walk off a short pier. Trying to make a smoothie while taking a bath.

LC75LC71 · Answer

I heard suicide was among them.. RIP Save State Gamer.

RingOfFire · Answer

I'd say suicide is right up there. But I've never been able to confirm that with anyone who has done it.

najekim · Answer

Being mentally weak to allow yourself to stay that way.

NathanDavis · Answer

to take it out on others...

CherryLove007 · Answer

Not eating food.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Alcohol has a very negative track record!

jshm2 · Answer

Shoot up a school.

beenherebefore · Answer

Victim mentality.

exitseven · Answer

Sitting around feeling sorry for your self.

madamblack · Answer

Reading a book i tried and it was terrible

Anonymous · Answer

Come on to G@G and lay into someone

Spencer10 · Answer

Ignore it.

MrChinaski · Answer

Going postal.

whosnumber_1 · Answer

Carb loading

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