How do I get her to workout with me?

[Agosto88]

I have been with this wonderful women for almost 8 months, I adore her and she is a beautiful person. But it seems like all we do is engage in her kind of activity's,which is drinking beer and clubs which we don't do all the time but it is when we do something. I don't mind that it just I want her to exercise with me because that what I'm passionate about. So my question is how do I get her to workout with me? I have asked her to do it but she makes an excuse and feels like she is to unfit to do workout but she use to do judo and what's to get back in shape she tells me. I really like love this women and want us to stay and get closer. Best answer gets ten points!

[jesshkah]

This is just one of those things you have to be persistent about. She might find it annoying at first but she knows deep down that you're coming from a good place and exercising is a good thing. Explain to her that it is something that you love and you wish she would give your passions a chance because they are really important to you. You're really just going to have to drag her to the gym.. its a pain at first, but once you guys get into a routine it won't be that bad.

[CatholicVirginia]

Or she'll loathe him and secretly resent him, and quickly dump him, because exercise - for those not accustomed to it - is highly uncomfortable. It's not just "not fun" - it's torturous. If he persisted in asking her to do something she found so repellent, if she is one of those, then she'll resent him, he'll be disrespecting her by asking her to do something she doesn't like, and it'll all crash and burn.

[jesshkah]

He just said that she used to do judo, and she SAYS that she wants to get back into shape. If she loathes him and secretly resents him, then they also now have communication problems.

[CatholicVirginia]

Honestly, I can see where she's coming from. The things you do with her are relaxing. The things you're asking of her are not. I would NOT enjoy working out, even if it was with my boyfriend. I'd try, But I probably wouldn't like it.

Your best chance is to do something fun, like a dance class or a sport. Get her back into judo. These things are physically challenging, but fun and not WORK like exercise is (if that came across well).

[alexstorm]

Workouts are not for everyone. Open up and offer to do something else fun that includes exercise, bike riding, skating, hiking, kayaking, swimming, dancing, climbing gym, tennis, golf. Pick a very easy level and don't obsess if she doesn't like one.

Drinking and clubs all the time, does infer that drinking alcohol daily is a habit. See if her interest in some physical activity can match yours, but don't limit yourself.