I lost over 70 pounds and feel like a failure.

[Anonymous]

I'm 21, 6'2 and went from 325 to 247 pounds. in a year and a couple months.

I workout 4-5 days a week and I watch what I eat. I am solely losing weight for aesthetic reasons and to attract women, being "healthy" is a worthless aspect.

Even though some people (none are women my age) say I look different, I generally look the same when I was at my heaviest, my worst problem is having man boobs. My doctor denies it being gynecomastia however they're bigger than guys. I work out my chest the hardest and I get nothing but a weak 325 pound bench press. I'm ugly and trying hard to fix it and I'm not getting the results for the effort given. If I fail at this, I am probably going to end my life.

[crookthings]

It disgusts me that society has ostracized you into wanting to DIE over how it makes you feel.

I don't know if you have a question or you were just wanting to confide in someone, so I don't really know what to say. But... my question (not TO you, but for you to ponder), is WHY are manboobs so awful? Why is it the end of the world if a guy has some extra fat on his chest? Why does that make him "gross"? Or why is a female "gross" if she carries fat somewhere else besides her boobs and butt? Better yet, why on earth do other people care so much? I know this doesn't change the situation, but know that this is not a problem with YOU.

[Alice_Infinity]

I'm sure you do look different. It's always hard to notice when you're losing weight because you see yourself everyday and the change is so gradual you don't notice. If other people are commenting that's great! It means you did lose a significant amount of weight.

I"m guessing the people who made comments about your weight are your close friends who know you best, could it be that you don't have close female friends who would feel comfortable commenting? I know personally I wouldn't want to talk about weight with an acquaintance, that seems like it might be awkward.

[HifsMit]

You cannot target burn fat. When your body burns fat, it uses it from all over, not just the specific area like when building muscles. So if you want to get your chest down, lower your overall body fat %.

Do a lot of fast-walking. Up to the point of breathing out hot air. Only drink water/tea <--- can make the biggest impact if you drink sugary beverages daily. I'm still waiting to hear why you're a failure though. You're just not at your goal yet. Keep at it.

[Asker]

Sadly I've already learned from that mistake (spot reducing) over a year ago. I know to lower my body fat. Also I only drink water and some milk with my protein shakes. Nothing more.

[HifsMit]

Well, just gotta keep at it then. Don't see any reason why you'd fail doing it that way. I know it seems like it's not noticeable much to you, but it's probably because (no offense) you were so massive before.

Seriously dude, "325 to 247 pounds. " That's already VERY impressive, but it's no use if you don't go all the way and show what's underneath. May just be foreboding from the sudden change. Do you change your workout types and routines? Like lifting for a month, swim the next, etc?

[Asker]

My workouts vary each week in lifting. Cardio is only different in intensity. Swimming is not an option for me yet for my previously stated reasons.

[HifsMit]

Losing weight affects your hormone levels. Rapid weight loss can cause an extreme hormonal imbalance that can lead to mood swings, difficulty concentrating, stress and anxiety. You're used to being satisfied by food, so you need to replace that satisfaction with something else you enjoy doing.

[beastman88]

just keep working at it man. we all have spots on our bodies where its like the absolute last place we start losing fat. for me its my lower belly. I easily drop off weight from my chest and arms and legs. then iam left with a belly that sticks out a bit lol.

[learningthegame16]

Sometimes with rapid weight loss, saggy skin or tissue is a common by-product.

You're doctor is probably right by saying it's not gynecomastia. Maybe consult a plasic surgeon about removing excess skin?

Hope this helps.

[cookiemonster12]

Congrats! I know the feeling, just look at yourself in the mirror every morning and say "damn I'm sexy!" it will really help and you'll start the day off positively!

[Anonymous]

Lol, I wish I could bench press 325 ibs. I can only do my body weight which is roughly 200 ibs.