In December I started seeing a wonderful woman. I hadn't met anyone quite like her in some time and it felt like we had a genuine connection. We had everything in common and would make each other cry laughing sometimes. I felt like an a true romance was budding and we were very passionate. She was a very shy, inexperienced, somewhat nervous woman who had said that it took her a long time to feel comfortable around new people. I can be the same way and so we both decided to take it a bit slow.
Last month, she broke up with me, somewhat suddenly. Given her shyness it wasn't out of the blue though. When she called up, she was crying and sobbing and talked for about an hour. It wasn't really that bad, not awkward at all. I tried to see if we could make it work but she didn't think so. She admitted that she found me very attractive and felt an emotional bond with me (which she said rarely happens for her) and liked spending time with me. Despite all of this she felt like it wasn't working, it was too much pressure.
I ended the call wishing her all the best, and good luck (and I really meant it). She was one of the kindest, warmest people I've ever met and hoped things worked out for her. I've been in NC since that call.
After a month, I still find myself thinking about her. I miss her. But I realize that nothing I do can win her back. I can accept that if she's gone, she's gone and I'll move on and be fine. But I think she felt it, I really do and just felt too much pressure and got scared.
Her birthday is coming up soon and I'm wondering if I should text her a simple happy birthday. Let her see that the lines of communication are open. No pressure. No big grand gestures. In every other past break up I've never contacted the ex. Not for any reason. In this case, I think that she might be too nervous to call me. I don't mind putting myself out there one more time, even if it doesn't go well.
So any thoughts would be really helpful.
thx
Last month, she broke up with me, somewhat suddenly. Given her shyness it wasn't out of the blue though. When she called up, she was crying and sobbing and talked for about an hour. It wasn't really that bad, not awkward at all. I tried to see if we could make it work but she didn't think so. She admitted that she found me very attractive and felt an emotional bond with me (which she said rarely happens for her) and liked spending time with me. Despite all of this she felt like it wasn't working, it was too much pressure.
I ended the call wishing her all the best, and good luck (and I really meant it). She was one of the kindest, warmest people I've ever met and hoped things worked out for her. I've been in NC since that call.
After a month, I still find myself thinking about her. I miss her. But I realize that nothing I do can win her back. I can accept that if she's gone, she's gone and I'll move on and be fine. But I think she felt it, I really do and just felt too much pressure and got scared.
Her birthday is coming up soon and I'm wondering if I should text her a simple happy birthday. Let her see that the lines of communication are open. No pressure. No big grand gestures. In every other past break up I've never contacted the ex. Not for any reason. In this case, I think that she might be too nervous to call me. I don't mind putting myself out there one more time, even if it doesn't go well.
So any thoughts would be really helpful.
thx
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