I thought he liked me, but now not sure...help!

[Anonymous]

There is a co-worker whom I have become very good friends with. We have talked every night on the phone for the last 3 month, sometimes up to 4 hours a night. Sometimes, it's about work, but it always just leads to casual conversation. We don't see each other outside of work right now, because of different circumstances. I only work part time with him, I do have another full time job. He will randomly text me and ask how my day is, or just give him a call. The last week, he has been acting a little different, saying he just want to become a hermit. He's not married, or seeing anyone. I was not looking for anything, but have winded up having feelings for him. I'm not sure what to do know. Do I just leave things the way they are, or keep pushing for this friendship to maybe end up as something more? We have so much in common and he makes me feel better about things.

[talloak]

My guess is that he's pushing you away because he knows you're interested and is afraid of becoming too involved himself. That means that there's hope but not a lot. This kind of resistance often never goes away because it has nothing to do with you. It's a hard lot to fall for someone who can't commit. If you decide to give it a go, expect that this can take a lot of time and patience. If you start seeing other guys, that might motivate him to try more or it may push him further away. There's no easy solutions if I'm reading this right.

[Anonymous]

he's not interested in you