As for me I'm single & accepting applications & as for being single like everything in life you have to look at the bright side of things. As for us on the single boat we live by our own rules, we do our own things & most of all we don't have to answer to anyone. On the flip side each as well as everyone of us are single because we simply choose to be.
As for my friends some are married, some are divorced, some are in wonderful relationships & some are insane to be in the relationships their in.
Around the holidays live your own life, do your own thing or whatever float your boat. Go for a walk, go for a drive, watch a movie or three or try something new.
Love will find us or love we will find if we let it.
I'm also used to being by myself still haven't found someone willing to give all but it is what it is you can't sick and dwell on it you'll go down the hole some people might commit suicide or getting depression and be fed meds. The older you get the easier it is to get over things live and learn I try the be around family as much as possible you'll know the people that love you but don't forget to love them back but then again family's ain't what it used to be neither people are getting influenced and starting to get emotionless buy what's in your hand
I don’t think about it, I just want good food and presents 🎁. But I’ll admit, that the only time I worry about being single is on Valentine’s Day. Or used to that is. Cause being in social groups and everybody rubbing it in on “oooooh look what my SO got meeeee 🌹💐💍🐻”. That used to affect me a lot. Cause people would feel sorry for me whenever it was never really necessary. Now, it doesn’t. I don’t go to social groups (cause I don’t have any friends). That now I see it as “oh cool stuffed animals. Candy 50% off? Yum more love for me”. Lol
just don’t think about other people happiness, only yourself and have fun.
Perfectly fine. Let’s be honest... I can be greedy. That’s one less person I need to buy presents for. If I’m dating it can’t be some cheap gift. I go all out and spend a lot. I just have to worry about my parents. But I do volunteer at food pantry places or homeless shelters some times. It keeps me busy and also it’s nice to help others. Makes you more grateful for what you do have.
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For me it's less about being single and more about dealing with my seasonal winter depression. I have noticed that walking around looking at couples hanging out makes me sad sometimes. Right now dating isn't feasible because of what is going on in my life so I just have to deal.
I don’t mind it. That picture is hilarious.
Myself, like you i'm in my early 30's and I'm single.
Things to avoid: 1) Alcohol (can make things more depressing),
2) Relationship based Christmas movies
3) Kids (if you want but don't have them)
4) Spending time with friends and family that lord their family and relationships over you. aka; minimal time at family dinner if you have one
5) Most importantly, putting Christmas cards with pictures of friends/family's in a place you'll often see them.
Things to do:
1) Be unafraid to spend money on friends and family, it makes yourself feel more involved.
2) Watch movies/ read books unrelated to holidays and relationships. Example, 'The Departed'
3) Spend time with other single friends (emphasis on this one)
Ah don't worry about it. Just know you have hobbies and things to occupy you outside relationsihp stuff, least I hope. If you do, you'll be fine. Life is about distractions. If you got something to preoccupy your mind after a nuclear explosion, you'll be fine. No worries :)
What holidays? As a true Christian, I see one day the same as the next. I will never celebrate that winter solstice pagan ritual again. http://www.markbeast.org/mark-beast-paganism.html
I've spent a few Christmas's alone, it can be sad if you get into the negative thinking. Honestly its just another damn day. This past Thanksgiving I volunteered in the morning and delivered turkey dinners/the timings to poor family's and this defiantly gave me a lot of gratitude of what I do have in life. I then spent the rest of the day talking to family on the phone and having a bliss free day alone. I enjoyed my solitude, its a state of mind.
If I ever get lonely, full stop, I try to find something to occupy the time - Whatever fills the time could be reading a book, going online to organise a day trip for myself - If the mind is busy, it won't dwell on being lonely as with a lot of these things "Healthy pursuits"
I know that feeling.. damn well.
But do you have friends especially close ones?
Please
Try to stick to what you have.
Think of this
There's people in far worse situations
I know I'm perhaps adding more fuel to this fire by posting this, and apologize but just take a look at me.
I don't even have friends, no one wants me, not even my family wanted me.
Count yourself lucky that you have got friends at least.
See
You're better than me.
I know you can find someone
Just keep on looking and you'll find someone in due time.
You're a better person than me.. you can do it! ♥️
Well. I take a big bag of browniess, and irish cream lesson to the irish drinking song,
and fart. Like a chimny and turn the whole place into a radioactive fart zone,
as a old vetrean virgin white man, in his 30s or turning soon, one must be formitable in the art of choas
I deal with it by lots of masturbation and by asking you if you'd join me in hanging my Christmas balls all over your face... I mean place. And while Santa's away fillng stockings with care, We'd be turning out Mrs santa and shaving her pussy hair. Hi ho ho. .
Yeah I know how you feel. I’m going to a company Christmas party next week and I’m always one of the only single people there. Last year sucked because I had a friends with benefits I planned to ask. Instead she told me she splitting off because she met some other guy she liked more. I had that shit on my mind going to the party.
I never minded being single around the holidays. There was always the opportunity to spend more time with family and friends. Sure, maybe you miss out on a cute date to look at Christmas lights or getting an extra gift lol but otherwise I never felt lonely.
Enjoy any extra time off work, treat yourself to a gift, cherish the time with family and friends. Once you’re in a relationship, that will cut into all of that other stuff.
I try to keep my mind busy with different tasks. It makes me feel productive.
Exercise and meditation can give you peace once ended too.
What about considering it as a time to make changes and start a new activity you always wanted?
I love being single especially during the holidays now.
It was always such an expensive time when I was married.
My wife's birthday was also in December.
Christmas shopping is scary.
Traveling to visit both families was stress.
I didn't see couples happy and kissing out and about.
I just saw kids screaming and people getting annoyed with each other standing in long lines.
Now, I just do whatever I want.
I'm used to being single. I've had to back off from my family events because I get a hard time for being the only one not married and I don't have anyone to talk with
I go on with having beer , a long ride on my motorbike , some good music and a cigarette watching the stars after which i go to bed 😂 same shit for all these years from birthdays to new years
Well I go on the internet and give ok advice to strangers asking questions. I also tend to spend more time on dating apps hoping for a message. The remaining time I fill with hobbies and projects.
The holidays doesn't have an effect on my feelings towards being single. I am happy with being single unless I have a crush on someone, and since I don't, it doesn't affect me
My ex was so emotionally abusive that I prefer to be single right now. I like to do stuff alone but I also like to do fun stuff with friends.
Just go to the gym, read a book or do something you find fun. I recommend the gym though, because it's a great stress reducer. But... being in a relationship isn't all it's cracked up to be.
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