It seems like a ton of guys these days are always telling a girl she has to work out more or wear makeup or just change their look just so they can date them. And I say fuck that. Some guys are looking like potatoes and we have to change ourselves for them? Girls usually never ever tell a guy they have to change to date them. Every guy I've asked out or even just talked to has told me that if I grow bigger boobs then I can date them or if I cut my hair get a bigger ass. Get a smaller ass. really anything. It seems I can just never be good enough for a guy. I've posted questions on here asking for approval before and It seems ill just never be good enough. there's nothing I can do. Im always told im average or below average sometimes if Im lucky then slightly above average and I say FUCK THAT. If you dont want me for who I am then you dont deserve me and girls you should never feel like you should change. I've gone from this (girl on right kinda obviously)
to this in just 3 months. Because I was trying to change myself for a guy. I just wanted to be prettier. And as much as I still changed myself. Im still ugly to some people for example someone in my other question from awhile ago said "Damn yea you are pretty ugly. I mean holy" and this was even after i had spent hours trying to change my look to make myself prettier and what not.
I've even gone through depression that I only got after I found this site. I was always curious about what others thought of my appearance so I asked a question on "how do I look" and found out im ugly to a lot of people. I've also gained an eating disorder after discovering this site. I mean hell I cried myseld to sleep every night for a few months. And I just give up with all this crap. I have an amazing personality once you get to know me so if your too quick to judge by my appearance then its really your loss.
And if a guy is going to like me then they should like me for my personality and that should overpower if im not that attractive to them. Besides If us girls were just never good enough for guys and never changed for them then they just wouldn't be able to get a girl and they would be alone and thats their problem. I know this isn't the case for all guys and some guys dont want or need a girl to change. And these are the good guys. The respectful ones. And until I personally meet one of those guys who wants me for ME then im going to remain single. Girls dont need guys to make them happy. Besides id much rather be single then guys nagging at me to change the way I dress ie dress more revealing or change myself for them. Thats really just too much pressure and Id rather be alone then have to deal with that. Now im done with my rant and just had to get that off my chest. (guys dont take this as offensive im not speaking for all guys mainly just my past boyfriends or guys I've known)
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Listen, sweetie, most people would find me extremely vain. Stop thinking you're unattractive. That's your biggest problem. Most normal males, and even most girls would agree that, you're terribly *cute.* You remind me of the girl in Frozen. Gorgeous thick, healthy long hair. Adorable freckles. What's not to like?
The real problem is your self esteem (seriously, you actually believed you were ugly?). You probably put off a vibe that you'd do whatever it takes to please a guy, even change your looks, and some narcissist guys picked up on it, and took advantage of you. A lot of guys are horrible, and like to bring down or control attractive women to boost their ego, kind of like raping gives them power. Hopefully this post is a change to a new thinking. Just be sure it doesn't make you project yet another negative defensive vibe, which will turn off nice guys.
You probably need some new friends, a new crowd, or stop hanging in places you're usually at, where you find such douchbag jerks. Stop expecting nice guys to approach--cause it will rarely, if ever, happen. Casually strike up a conversation in the library with that quiet, brooding guy who caught your eye.