Life lesson number 101: you have to get it into your skull that it doesn't matter if people out in the world or the internet consider you attractive or not if you don't have any self-worth or confidence in yourself to begin with. Those that have too much of it need not rely upon the validation of others to validate their self worth because that's really only an indication that they don't already know their self worth because they can only ever seem to find it if others are constantly approving of them in some way.
If I asked everyone who happens to read this take what and who they personally consider attractive, we're going to get quite the variety of answers. Your determination of what is essentially hot or not is based in part by your culture, your country, your exposure level to a variety of people/ethnicities in your formidable years, your personal biases, your interactions with people, and a million different things. Yet somehow, some people sit down and decide often times to base their entire self worth on what a bunch of completely random ideas of what is attractive or not, determine what people think of them and how they look and sadly how they feel.
We could boil it down to just two quantifiers...which is more attractive, white people or black people, skinny people or fat people, tall people or short people, blue eyed people or brown eyed people? Someone or some aspect is going to "win" today at this moment based on that certain set of people. That doesn't mean the entire world thinks that, just a few people you have no clue who they are or what they think is attractive because before they even answer, they already have it in their minds what they like.
I guarantee no matter how you look, you will get people who are going to tell you that you are ugly, or too fat, or two thin, or too scrawny, or whatever. Some of the so named most attractive models in the world have been told by agencies that they were too fat, or ethnic, or not tall enough, or to get plastic surgery, so essentially what hope have you, a mere mortal got, if these so called mega beauty models aren't considered to be "enough" for some people. I was bullied for my tall height from like Kindergarten on, and yet, I loved my height. I was a part of me, it made me stand out, and of course now that I'm older, everyone is always saying how they wish they were taller. I mean come on, which is it, right? That's why, like me and my height, you have to love yourself and then no one else can steal your thunder because you don't allow it and you don't allow them to dictate how you're supposed to feel about yourself.
So many are asking all these random people to make judgement on them, but regardless of the result, some arbitrary scale of attractiveness does not suddenly serve to solve all your problems. It doesn't guarantee you a boyfriend/girlfriend. It doesn't mean you'll become a model. It doesn't mean no one will ever find you sexy or beautiful. It doesn't mean out there in the real world where you live, people will equally validate or negate what random strangers have said here.
Instead of incessantly asking randoms how you look, focus on how you should feel on the inside. I think this video is a good example of people reacting to someone physically telling them they are beautiful. Some smile and believe it and others refuse to. How they feel beyond the video has to happen on an internal level. Just because someone says it doesn't mean you know that in your heart to be true. Most of the time what you're obsessing over about your looks, no one really cares or even notices or people think what you think is ugly is beautiful or they want it. You're so fixated with what you think others see on the outside, that in doing so, you're missing out on life, on relationships, on friendships being so caught up in your own ego.
Learn that you don't need someone else to tell YOU how beautiful you are. It's absolutely wonderful to hear, and you should take the compliment, but learn to feel that outside of someone either saying it all the time or not saying it.
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