OlderAndWiser

Not many couples actually put on boxing gloves and spar or "duke it out," but most couples recognize the feeling in this picture. Sometimes, your partner says or does something that is SO stupid, SO crazy, SO wrong that you just CAN'T ignore it. (At least it seems to be stupid, crazy, or wrong...

This MyTake was inspired by a question recently posted by @AnnaTumbles: What first date tips do you wish everyone knew? First, why is a 67 year-old dude giving advice about dating? Because I have been dating, or in relationships, for 50 years and I have been on HUNDREDS of first dates. And -...

Based on the 2020 US Census, "the U.S. is now 57.8% white , 18.7% Hispanic, 12.4% Black and 6% Asian." https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/politics/2021/08/12/how-2020-census-change-how-we-look-america-what-expect/5493043001/ Examples of racial composition at traditional state universities:...

Have you complained to whoever will listen that your relationship seems to be one-sided and you usually give more than you take? There are probably 3 billion people on this planet in relationships and probably all 3 billion have had that complaint at some time. In 2015, I started dating a lady...

I have a smartphone (soon to be replaced with a S21 5G.) I use WhatsApp and Skype. I send text messages almost every day. So, I'm not really a total dinosaur! But I don't send many text messages to my girlfriend. That's because I do a much better job of communicating with her: when we need to...

I received my BS degree from FSU in 1975 and my law degree from FSU in 1986. I love my alma mater and I am quite proud to have two degrees from such a great school. I recently asked whether it is racist for FSU to use the Seminoles as their "mascot." Is it racist for FSU to have the Seminoles as...

When our Constitution was drafted, adopted, and ratified, the Framers had a conception of a free press as being an absolutely essential component of democracy. Unfettered by government regulation and control, the press could tell the people the truth about current events. That's vitally...

I was born into a Christian family and I attended church to the age of 16. That's when I left home and moved 350 miles away to begin college. Like many young people, I went through a few decades of not attending church and questioning my Christian beliefs, but I never actually rejected those...

About five years ago, a young user - CheerGirl - suggested to me that, on New Year's Eve, I should empty out the list of all the users I had blocked over the preceding year. I have averaged blocking perhaps 20 users per year, generally because they were political extremists who wanted to rail...

My experience online. I have significant experience with online dating. I began in 2007, after ending a long term relationship that was - obviously - a mistake. I signed up on match.com and POF. I met two women who were attractive and exotic (Oksana is from the Ukraine, and Joni is from Brazil)...

This morning, I discovered a post in which I was tagged and I had not responded. @vladikre posted: "@OlderAndWiser. We had a discussion and I said that after the first date, I wait a week max to send or contact, cause I try to build interest. I state that I don't play games and that's what I...

Disagreements are inevitable in relationships and, hopefully, you will be able to resolve them and continue moving forward with your partner. Sometimes, it just requires talking and a willingness to compromise and, suddenly, you've broken past the log jam. But what do you do if your efforts are...

When I was a child, I had a mother who wanted to do everything in my life and allowed me to do almost nothing. I didn't know how to operate a washing machine until I was 16 years old and leaving for college. I was required to do very little housecleaning and I knew just a little bit about...

This site provides a venue for frequent discussions about the merits of marriage. Most of those who write are young to middle-aged men, and it appears that most have been married but are now divorced. They preach that marriage is evil, it has no benefit for men, it exists solely for the benefit...

I recently posted an opinion on this topic and received great feedback so I thought I would expand the topic and elaborate on some of these issues. If you have a first date with someone you have known for a while, these "rules" (suggestions) probably don't apply to you, because you should...

When I was a young man, my generation thought that we were radically different from our parents' generation, we did things differently, and they were simply incapable of understanding anything about us. We didn't want to listen to their advice and we learned all of our lessons the hard way....

One of the long-standing debates on this site concerns whether you should try to maintain a friendship with an ex after a breakup. The PC approved answer, if you are into regurgitating answers, is "of course you should. It's a sign of respect." Let's think this thing through! First, are you...

In Obergefell v. Hodges, 576 U.S. 644 (2015), the US Supreme Court ruled, by a vote of 5-4, that the right of homosexuals to enter into marriage is protected by the US Constitution. Writing for the majority, Justice Kennedy stated that "the Constitution promises liberty to all within its reach,...