Reasons why some men don't want to get married

[iamyourneighbor]

Please note this is for about marriage in heterosexuals.

Less and less people these days don't seem to be getting married. According to Pew research center women say that having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in their lives rose From 28%-37% for men the opposite happen dropping 35%-29%.

1. Father figure loss of respect

Long ago a man wasn't considered an adult until he was married with kids. These days fathers are figures of fun more than respect. Professor James Macnamara: “By volume, 69% of mass media reporting and commentary on men was unfavorable, compared with just 12 percent favorable and 19 percent neutral or balance."

2. Losing out on sex

Men who cohabitate have more sex than men who are married. According to a men's health article, a study followed 2,737 people for 6 years and found that cohabiters said they were happier and more confident than married couples and singles.

3. Losing friends

Although both men and women lose friends after marriage, it affects some men’s self-esteem more.

4. Losing space

5. You could lose your kids and your money

6. You will lose in court

7. You'll lose your freedom

If you are charged with child support you can't pay, you can be put in jail. 95% and 98.5% of all incarcerations in Massachusetts from the Massachusetts Probate and Family Courts from 2001-2011 have been men.further study shows that women who fail to pay all of their child support are incarcerated only 1/8th as often as men with similar violations

8. Single life is better than ever for some men

Single men were once looked at suspiciously. Now most people do not look askance at the single lifestyle, dating is easy and employers probably prefer employees with no conflicting family responsibilities.

But people respond to incentives. If you waht more men to marry it needs to be an attractive proposition.

[HannahDJA]

I feel like a lot of this is because of what women DO to men while they're married, or men marrying the WRONG women. Not every man, nor is every woman, marriage material. Men who claim they have a loss in sex life when they get married are obviously not married to the right woman. This is different however, if the woman or man is suffering from a medical condition (for instance, one of my friends went through a scare with breast cancer and hasn't had sex with her husband in 2 years, which I think is barbaric but he seems happy so whatever.)

People should understand the person they're giving a ring to. It's rare for a woman you've been dating for 5 years to suddenly show undesirable colors after you get married and have kids. If you're divorcing your wife of 6 years and the mother of your children because you don't have a sex life, because you're tired of her nagging you about not being a real parent to your children, or because you've suddenly realized that you don't want to give up friends, space and money for a family, then I've got some news for you. You don't know her well enough, haven't found the right woman, and aren't ready to be a parent.

Don't get me wrong, this issue is a double edged sword. Women have problems with marriage too for some of the same reasons. The bottom line is, KNOW WHO YOU'RE MARRYING. If you're dating a girl who constantly blows you off for sex, either you're asking too much, or you haven't found the right girl. DON'T MARRY HER. If you suddenly notice a loss in friends because your girlfriend is controlling and slightly psychotic, you haven't found the right girl. DON'T MARRY HER. If you notice that your girlfriend, who you plan on marrying, seems like the kind of woman who wants to have 6 kids with you then dump you so you have to pay child support, you've found a psycho who needs to somehow be put in jail and you also haven't found the right girl. DON'T MARRY HER.

Men are unhappy in marriages not because they're married, but because they aren't with the right woman, and also because there's usually a lack of communication. If you understand the person you're committing your life to, you're less likely to have a crap marriage with them.

[Genie23]

Very well said. +1

[singlebee]

I agree with you 😊 same goes for the women too

[Someguy17]

While your post is spot on about compatibility, this post is about the reasons why many don't even want to get married in the first place. This is regardless of compatibility. Marriage can go good or it can go poorly for either gender. Men are the ones who almost always pay the financial price for that though. With divorce rates at 50% and women initiating around 70% of those and then reaping all of the alimony/child support rewards at the end, men are crazy to even consider marriage in the first place.

[Someguy17]

To say it more plainly, you don't have to sell men on the idea of marriage. Most of us would love to find a great woman to settle down with. The costs have simply grown to outweigh the benefits though.

[Sinister]

@HannahDJA - I like your perspective! Definitely what I was thinking.

[RationalMale]

The simplest thing is...

There's no reason for men to want to get married.

We've gotten to a point where marriage offers literally nothing that men can have just as easily, and with less risk, outside of marriage.

[iamyourneighbor]

Even though I have never been married and I have nothing against marriage I honestly don't see the benefit men get from marriage. But there are some good women out there. But don't let the crazy women ruin it for you

[RationalMale]

i know there are good women out there.

i just don't see why i would actually marry one... date, sure. relationship, sure. marriage, why?

[RationalMale]

Basically, what reason is there for men to marry?

You want a lover, a companion, kids, you want someone to live with? A man can have all of that outside marriage, with less risk. Women and/or society have gotten rid of all incentive for men to want to legally wed.

[volkermuller55]

It seems like something that's just expected of us, and because of that nobody will give you a real reason to do it. It's kind of a retarded circle. I've seen marriage really crush a lot of guys (including my father). It's hard to find an older man who is still married happily. The vast majority are either still married but very bitter and unhappy or divorced and feel like they lived their entire lives for a bitch (or bitches) who betrayed them, kids who have turned against them or never knew them, and money that has been siphoned out of their accounts by a vindictive wife, the courts and lawyers, and all the associated costs in a divorce such as child support and alimony. It's as though they all just made the same mistake and I'm not supposed to learn from it. Frankly, I've never met a woman who I would want to spend the rest of my life with. And even if I did, I still wouldn't be stupid enough to put my money in a joint account, or my house in her name, or pay all of her bills because reasons, or grant her power of attorney, etc. If somebody really cares about you they wouldn't expect that from you.

[Jay-Are]

It's a nice list. I'd like to add some things that I see in and around my personal life.

- Not seeing the reason to get married (My sister and her boyfriend have both been married once to other people, have now been living together in a wonderful relationship for 20 years now and both do not see the benefits)

- Becoming the 3rd wheel or nothing more than a provider once children come. (sadly seen this happen more than once)

- Fear of everything changing after getting married. (I have seen some couples stop being dating each other and taking each other for granted because they already have each other plenty of times. For example stop being attractive for each other)

- Career choices or goals

- Not trusting women

- Being fine with how the relationship is now

- Seeing bad examples (Kinds sums up all of the above)

- Not wanting children and therefore seeing marriage as one step away from children.

Like I said these are examples I have seen with my own eyes and are not necessarily what every men thinks.

[SilenRose]

You don't have to be in a marriage for half this stuff to happen to you. Marriage isn't for everyone. Some people hate putting in any effort into their relationships. My mom is a nurse and she has male patients in the nursing home. Some have claimed to be ladies men and have all sorts of women through their life. Now in the nursing home no one visits them and they'd be lucky if one friend showed up.

I do appreciate people who are upfront about not wanting to get married. Helps the other person who wants to get married to not waste their time.

[iamyourneighbor]

they probably don't get a lot of visitors because maybe when they were young and attractive maybe they treated a lot of women really bad.

[SilenRose]

Oh I don't doubt that. Treat them badly, take advantage of their love for them, or just string them along. It's all possible.

[iamyourneighbor]

The problem is some men don't even want to commit to a serious relationship at all even if it does not involve marriage

[SilenRose]

That is also true and sad.

[superficialgirls]

Some people care for people without needing a contract. If you need to cage people before you grant *mutual* exchange in respect/help/affection, then you do not love.

What amount of closeness you choose to have is your thing. Forcing people to marry before you invest time in them is wrong. What matters is if you feel the relationship (whatever the kind) is benefical, without needing to own.

[SilenRose]

@superficialgirls Cage people? Forcing? Obviously you have a warped view of marriage. No one wrote anything about (or not) granting respect, help, affection, or investing time until you're married. As I said before marriage isn't for everyone. But don'the attempt to belittle something just because you don't want to do it.

[DeltaDanner]

It's a tough subject. As a young man I have heard almost nothing positive about marriage, nor have I seen anything. All you've listed is true, and then some. From what I've heard you get married, she changes, you become unhappy, your life is controlled, she leaves you (sometimes after cheating) and you lose everything. I see and hear that happening so much that marriage seems like a REALLY bad idea.
I want to get married. I want kids. I want to spend my life with the girl I love. But marriage is so risky that I really am repulsed by the idea.

[AnewSheldon]

Sometimes women change because the men change, think about what if you treat her like you two in realationship, will she change? On another hand, maybe you both will argue for something you won't meet before marrige, why don't you think it's a chance to make you get know each other better? I think marrige is still a very beautiful thing, as long as you choose the right one and believe that, never give up! Be positive.

[Transigence]

@AnewSheldon And maybe she changed because her circumstances changed by getting married. Now, he doesn't have any choices -- he's at her mercy for sex and even his continued freedom. In a marriage, in the US, the woman effectively owns the man. At any time she can have him thrown in jail, or she can just divorce him and take his stuff.

Marriage, in a balanced legal environment, can be a beautiful thing. However, for men, marriage in a legal environment imbalanced such as mine is, cannot be a beautiful thing, no matter how good and pure and well-intentioned your wife is.

[AnewSheldon]

@Transigence OMG, now I know why the guy that I like who from Amarica is so arraid of getting married. Feel bad.

[Transigence]

@AnewSheldon I'm not saying it's on the up and up, but she can pull it off if she's willing to lie and set him up a bit. Police and court bias against men is more pronounced than it is for blacks (for which it is pronounced).

[AlphaMale1]

Marriage is a legal and binding contract. Been married two times and both times I lost everything except the dog.

If I ever do that again I am having a prenuptial agreement drawn up to protect myself from how courts treat men in a divorce.

I know not all women are greedy. I seem to be a magnet to the ones who are and will never understand how they can sleep at night after the damage their greed caused.

[iamyourneighbor]

They don't sleep they probably use drugs to make them go to sleep

[FatherJack]

Excellent take , especially point 1... men are viewed as stupid , moronic sex crazed rapist filth by Western " society " , this is a " Divide & Rule " tactic by the owners of the " media " to attempt to get everyone to fear & hate everyone else , women are targeted more than men as they are far more emotional thinkers and tend to be more prone to this programming , you can't deny that a large percentage of women in the West view men as lesser beings.

I have reconciled with my ( nearly ex ) wife as was sick of being taken for granted & never appreciated & my starting separation proceedings was a wake up call for her , but she is still on " Final Warning " as far as I'm concerned. Point 2 is the vast majority of marriages / LTR's & not bashing women here , but it's nearly always the woman that withholds sex from the man or uses it as a tool of control. Is it any wonder that a large & rapidly growing number of men are avoiding marriage.

[iamyourneighbor]

I don't think men are viewed as rapist by western society

[Gummybearlover]

I don't veiw men as rapists. I just know this world isn't safe to go skipping around in without being careful.

[Transigence]

@Gummybearlover It's safer for you than it is for men, with regards to any violent crime.

[FatherJack]

@Take Owner... The feminazi hate movement seems to think so , they would exterminate every male human if they had the means to do so...& they are indoctrinating women with this hate filled bullshit... which results in a lot of men hating women back. Their paymasters WANT division & hatred to rule the day.

[FatherJack]

@Gummybearlover There are violent women too , I've had a chunk bitten out of my shoulder by a psycho ex plus was nearly bottled in the eye by a drunken vicious bitch whilst working as door staff , women are often MORE vicious than men !!

[FatherJack]

@Transigence Yes , that is true , stats back this up to the hilt , normally groups of ( cowardly ) " men " attack others for " sport " . I have had to use extreme violence against 3 idiots that attempted to attack me , I hated having to be so brutal , but no choice !!

[genuinlysensitive]

An excellent take. I particularly like the reasearched used in the media coverage, which all men have noticed. Men, especially fathers are almost always portrayed as abusers, or clueless idiots in the media.

You were also spot on with your other points. I would just like to ad that in addition to no sex, or boring sex, quite often wives just lie there and want hubby to do all the work, I would like to add the wife changes in other ways. They sometimes are much more demanding, critical, and all around Bitch after they tie the knot.

[iamyourneighbor]

I read an article for women once about how this lady wrote women can "be themselves" after they get the relationship. Wtf

[genuinlysensitive]

Yea they idolize lazy, narcissistic behavior, thinking once they get the guy to commit "It will all be about me." Instead of it being a two way street it becomes a demand for servitude.

Which is why I think women should stop reading girly magazines and blogs. Not only do they encourage such selfish behavior, they usually give horrible advice. One woman once told me she read a bunch of articles from different ones saying that on a dinner date the woman "Needs to only order a salad, and not even finish it." This was a few months ago mind you. Not only is it total crap, guys don't care if you get an entree when you go out, but so many of them just give horrible advice, its like they are TRYING to sabotage women's relationships!

[_Feline]

I see. We should do a take on ''Reasons why women prefer staying single''
Because instead of blaming everything on us women, you men have lots of defects that scare us away. So, don't worry, we're not desperate to marry your dick either. :) in fact, shopping, cute animals, food and female friends are a lot better.

[Hercules073]

Okay :'(

[Jager66]

your bitterness and insecurity is showing, this isn't about women it's about married life vs. single life for men. It's not even about the stupid trivial things like having more free time or what ever, loosing your life's savings and children in a divorce is a VERY big deal, being at a much greater risk of loosing your friends and self esteem is a VERY big deal.

Please do make a similar take for women, I am eager to see how many things of actual substance you can come up with.

[_Feline]

Lol ok ''mr know it all'' Nobody forced any of you men to marry women. You accepted it. So therefore work for it, if not, stay single. But don't say things like ''no free time, and blablabla'' because YOU wanted it as much as the FEMALE wanted it too. No one forced men to a chair and made you say yes. Im not insecure, just stating some realistic facts.

[Transigence]

To set the record straight here, lots of us certainly did not accept it, and remain unmarried. But we're still deluged with bits on the news about how hard it is for women to find "eligible bachelors," and wondering, "where have all the good men gone?"

And I have people ask me from time to time, "Why aren't you married?" I ask them, "Why would I do that?" And they never have an answer that has a basis in the real world.

[superficialgirls]

"in fact, shopping, cute animals, food and female friends are a lot better." I love sarcasm... *scared look* you were sarcastic about your interests, right?

[heavensgift2girls]

I think you are missing the point. The number of men wanting to get married are going down, while the number of women wanting to get married are going up. Writing a take on why women are preferring to stay single that blame men during a time when more women want to get married wouldn't make any sense.

[_Feline]

Men not wanting to get married = women getting tired of trying. That's the truth. It's 2015, and we women are not as excited as getting married as before, because men don't want to. Fine, then let us be. But when you find the love of your life, don't get desperate to get married either, if you guys think marriage is bullshit. We women KNOW it since forever, so we're getting tired of it too. And no i was not being sarcastic about my interests, it's a lot more fun. Lol sorry guys

[singlebee]

Yeaa nice take... points 4,5,6,7 are the biggest reason why men don't want to get married...
Its not fair!! The courts are so biased!!!

And also many a times people don't have enough self esteem... if something wrong if happening to them in their relationships or they chase wrong people and get married... They are unhappy because of that!!!

People should really know their partner more before getting married 😊

[sdistotallyme]

funny you said 'single men were once viewed suspiciously but this isn't the case anymore"... well if your over 30 and a single man some of that still holds true. People either assume you are weird, gay or just plain immature. None of the above are true for me. I just haven't found the right person yet. However I'm getting socially punished in my conservative family. All of my younger siblings are married. Most of my younger cousins are getting married (I'm going to a wedding in 3 weeks). My relatives slight and disrespect me ways. It's not all that great being single.

[zagor]

I don't know where you live but there are a lot of single guys > 30 around here and I don't see people thinking those things about them.

[sdistotallyme]

I live in a city but my relatives are in the burbs.

[Dawsonwc]

Oh my god. You got it sooooo correct. I thought a guy wrote this for a while. I see so many women who think men don't want to get married because of them when really it has very little to do with women. There's just so many other negatives involved. Personally I want to get married but like number 8 says my single life is awesome and I don't want to risk it. I mean I'd take being a full custody single father over a bad marriage. But I think the changing mentality is better. Yes less people will get married but people will get married for better reasons and because we're learning to be happy independently less people will put pressure on their spouse. I really don't think we're witnessing a decline in marriage just a little friction from people adapting to technology and the Information Age. With time I think people will marry later but will stay married longer.

[AleDeEurope]

I've always wanted to get married, but the older I get, the less I wanna get married. I still want a girl to live with for the rest of my life, but married? I don't know... we'll see if thing change, but if the marriage fails (which is 50% of the time, and 66% of divorces are filed by women) we all know who's gonna get fucked. So rather play it safe than regret it later.

[KenM9215]

actually the 50% statistic in divorces is wrong. Look up "the true divorce rate in america". its MUCH MUCH lower than 50%. that and you have to ask yourself, out of all your family members who are married... are half of them getting divorces? no... also the statistic of women instigating divorce is higher from what I remember seeing. its around 70-80%.

[AleDeEurope]

@KenM9215 That's what I've heard, maybe the fact aren't completely right. What is the divorce rate, then.

[KenM9215]

last time I heard the stat was in my marriage and family course at college about 2 years ago and it was around I think it was like 10% if that. let me see if I can find it for you. (mind you this is in the USA).

[AleDeEurope]

@KenM9215 So low? Why have I always heard 50% though? In most places I see 50%, but it's true that in others I see around 20-30% so I don't know what to believe.

[KenM9215]

I'm fairly irritated right now lol. I keep finding articles on why the 50% is a myth BUT none of them state the ACTUAL rate... its irritating.

[KenM9215]

because during the 70's and 80's it was high due to social pressures from society for people to get married in previous decades (marrying for the sake of marrying and not for happiness). Now a days more people are waiting to get married and are marrying for LOVE rather than trying to find someone who will take care of the house, or be the breadwinner and not having a great connection with the other person. I did read the reason why more women instigate divorce, which is unsatisfactory being the main reason and that women's expectations of marriage are changing. honestly I'd love to know what those expectations were, and what they are changing too... I mean marriage is pretty straightforward right? I guess you could be unsatisfied with your partner not being the person who you thought they were.

[AleDeEurope]

@KenM9215 Well, years ago women didn't work as much as today, and didn't earn as much money either, so having a man to provide for her was the main reason to get married. Nowadays, this doesn't happen, so if she can take care of herself, and she doesn't love the man anymore, she will file a report. There are more reasons they file divorces more often though, but I'd say that's the #1.

[KenM9215]

oh absolutely. I was just stating the most given reason.

[iamyourneighbor]

A woman can still take a man to court if she is cohabitating with her boyfriend and she gets pregnant by him. Honestly, you don't have to be married to have half of your things taken away from you. I have seen plenty of court cases where the couple were not married and the girlfriend or the boyfriend was able to get some of their exes stuff

[AleDeEurope]

You're right in that, that's why you're never safe xD

[RexCatholicissimus]

Honestly this is very saddening, but it is pretty true.

I VERY much wanna get married and have children, I honestly do, but the social climate as it stands right now is just not a good deal for guys, I'm afraid. Guys don't just "want" to stay away from marriage, they're outright scared to get married. It just seems like the cons outweigh the pros far too much.

[heavensgift2girls]

It seems like you are one of the few women that actually understand why men don't want to get married. Most women just want to pretend it is because we are sluts that want to sleep around, or that we are cowards that fear commitment. Most women almost never to want to admit that something in our society might actually be so unfair to men that we would have to give up on a basic desire like finding a partner to go through this life with.

The attitude of not caring about men's issues in itself is another reason men don't want to get married. Most women simply don't care about or believe in the problems men face, while expecting us to care about the problems women face. Who would want to marry someone that sexist? Someone that sexist is far more likely to screw us over later if things go bad.

[iamyourneighbor]

Not every women is sexist though

[iamyourneighbor]

Sorry I dowmvoted you on accident

[heavensgift2girls]

It's okay. I know not every woman is sexist, but our culture does raise them to have huge double standards, while only seeing the double standards that they personally don't like. Meaning that sexism is a huge problem in a way that our culture doesn't want to recognize. It is even worse among the women that remain single because guys want to avoid marrying those types of women.

The very idea that we might have a problem with women being sexist against men in this country tends to get the guy accused of being sexist, wanting a subservient woman he can control, or some insult about him being too weak to handle a real woman. Sexism can flow both ways and our culture pretends like it doesn't, or at least like it flowing toward men is unimportant. I doubt most women would want to marry a man that had such an unhealthy attitude toward women either.

[Someguy17]

Not every woman is sexist, you are right. Being wrong on that bet usually costs a man just about everything he's ever worked for in his life though. Not a great bet to take.

Much better just to date and enjoy the company of women that way. I see no reason to ever get married.

[iamyourneighbor]

@Someguy17 yea I get it you don't want to be married. I understood that the first 3 times you wrote it on my post lmao

[Someguy17]

: ) I get excited sometimes.

[blobbysaurus]

agreed 100% with this promoting this whole feminism culture is fine but its at the expense of women becoming awful human beings at times, at times we are taught to forget that men are also human and deserve love and respect and a decent etiquette of behavior like we all do

[Riverock]

I agree. The benefits of marriage versus staying single or in causal relationships are reduced while the costs and risks of marriage have increased. Simply put, marriage is a worse deal for men than ever before. It really is a pity.

[Riverock]

I'd be interested in actually talking to one of the girls that downvoted me. I fail to see how marriage has not gotten worse for men, while staying single/casual has gotten better for men.

[Someguy17]

The reason they down voted you is because they don't live in this reality and have no empathy in regards to this issue. They simply want what they want and they don't care if it's good or not for someone else. It should be raising big red flags that men who would otherwise be glad to get married are deciding that the risks are way too high.

[Onlyinit4fun]

The reason why I downvoted is because there are benefits you enjoy as a married couple that unmarried couples don't get. Why do you think gay people want to have the same right? To get the legal benefits that heterosexual married couples get.

@Someguy17.. great way of making assumptions! Wow, so impressed.. not!

[Riverock]

@Onlyinit4fun I always saw the move for marriage equality as being part of having their love recognised as being equal with that of married couples, which is sensible.

But when it comes to finances, marriage isn't worth it. You're just placing great control over your finances into the hands of a woman you will more than likely fall out of love with or will fall out of love with you. From the man's pov, marriage is done to appease the woman or for romantic reasons.

[Onlyinit4fun]

It has to do with other legal matters. Civil partnership doesn't give you the same rights. Just think of pension rights. If one civil partner dies, the pension share that the surviving partner receives is often lower and lasts for less time than with married couples. The reason for this is the pension a surviving partner is entitled to is measured differently depending on whether they have been civil partnered or married.
Than there's travel restrictions: apply to civil partners but not married couples.
Civil Partnership also does not permit children to have a legally recognised relationship with their parents - only the biological one. This causes all sorts of practical problems for hundreds of families with schools and hospitals as well as around guardianship, access and custody. In the worst case, it could mean that a child is taken away from a parent and put into care on the death biological parent.

[Someguy17]

@Onlyinit4fun What good is saving a small amount on income tax going to be next to having her take the kids and 50% of everything you've worked your whole life for?

My argument isn't against the idea of marriage. It's against the bullshit laws that guide divorce courts. It's a cost-benefit analysis and any way you slice it, the costs outweigh for men. I don't plan on living a life devoid of women and all of the great benefits they bring into my life. I just plan to live a life devoid of marriage and all of the incredible risks that such a contract would bring into my life.

[Riverock]

@Onlyinit4fun I understand but the risks for men cancel out those benefits. Also, most people these days are not prepared to put in the work needed for a lifelong relationship. Men who get married are risking their finances and families on the outside chance the relationship will work and the rewards will be minor.

[Onlyinit4fun]

But women work to these days to. And if a woman has a higher salary than her husband and they deserve.. guess who pays for spousal support. And we see that also more and more nowadays.

Back in the day when worked at less and not at all that might have been the case.

And countries differ. In my country the standard is shared custody and for one the parents to get full custody they need a very valid reason to why one of the parents should have full custody.

So maybe this is also why we differ in opinion.

[Onlyinit4fun]

Damn this phone.. sorry for all the spelling mistakes!

[Riverock]

@Onlyinit4fun No worries. :)

I suppose so. Even then, the whole institution of marriage seems to be too costly for the man AND woman. Divorce lawyers and wedding planers are the main winners. lol

[Onlyinit4fun]

It's a pity that many divorcees can't just end things in a positive way. Find a solution that works out best for everyone and not be so materialistic. If there are children we see many times that their happiness is not taken into account. The best thing for a child is for their parents to be friends after the divorce and both active in their lives.

People in general are just terrible at diplomacy. And that's basically what is needed in a case of divorce. Diplomacy and rational thought.

[DJC110995]

Not for me. My main goal in life is to get married.

It's a great take though with some well balanced points. Court especially is a big issue, the man is at an immediate disadvantage plus they rarely ever get custody even if they have a better case. Your point about losing friends is also a very valid one although some men find that they actually want to lose those friends.

[Coffinspire]

I am married and I have to say getting married is a BIG decision to make. My husband and I have been together and living together for 6 years, so for us it was a no brainer, but I feel like most couples don't take enough time to really get to know each other. If you cohabitate for a few years, then it's a pretty good time to be like, okay we'll be alright married.

[iamyourneighbor]

You got married this year or did you get married as a teenager?

[Kerbie]

My partner Hannah's sister spent 7 years together with her partner before she got married and she is still happy and has her own family now so I think it is probably a good idea to spend a few years living together first.

[iamyourneighbor]

@Kerbie I'm not trying to be funny but you lost me at partner Hannah's sister.

[Kerbie]

Sorry about that 😔 I simply agree with you when you say that it's a good idea to live together first and that's what Hannah's sister did before getting married.

[Coffinspire]

I got married when I was 22

[mattl338]

Very young age to get married.

[BackInGame]

lol @ getting married. Basically you're paying a used, old, promiscuous whore, whose biological clock started ticking, to make you a child and eventually take him, along with 50% of material possession you worked for, after you've caught her cheating.

[toosexualcat]

Way to think positive, man! No wonder you're single... lol

[Mistnigqa808]

LMAO #BestYetMostFuckedUPostOnHereEver ^_^

[Unit1]

I can't resist to upvote this too :-) Way too epic put.

[superficialgirls]

@toosexualcat "No wonder you are single", is the usual degrading comment. Just in this case, he chose to be single... People need to stop thinking that women are a gift to men per se. Women are people, that's it.

[BackInGame]

@tomosexualcat: just think positive and neglect reality. that's bad approach, man,

[Skadouchebag]

Do you honestly think all women cheat? Really? All 4 billion of them? many studies have shown that women and men cheat equally often.

[BackInGame]

@Skadouchebag : u were cheated already.

[Skadouchebag]

Pardon?

[7heDubz]

I would like to marry someday, when I find the right person, it comes with certain legal benefits, but more importantly it's a public declaration to everyone that "I want to spend the rest of my life with this person"

[LThunder]

Just don't get married before 30. Though by then, you'll likely not want to.

[MrChadeo920]

Haven't decided if I want to get married but if I do we would get a prenuptial agreement.
Yes, there is no benefit financially for men.
Unfortunately, marriage has become more of a business agreement than actually loving someone. But you don't need a contract to show how much you love someone. I agree with all these points.