I do hope you tell your wife how much you appreciate her too :)
I'd love to be a SAHM in the future if we could afford it. I've worked as a nanny before and felt awful that I spent more waking hours with the baby than his parents did. I want to raise my own children if at all possible.
That's awesome! ^_^ It's not for everyone, but I'm really glad that I had a stay-at-home mom, I really think the world needs them, especially now that it's becoming a lost art and there's people actively discouraging it.
She seems to think going to work is a treat, though she doesn't want to do it.
Glad it worked for you though. I'd recommend people really consider it carefully though, because if your wife stays home, and you divorce, your kids are goooooone.
'My wife is an excellent cook and I look forward to coming home for my dinner after a long day at work. Also it works out cheaper and healthier than eating out all the time or ordering in. Microwave ready meals are pure poision in my view. Also a packed lunch can be cheaper and healthier than a work canteens menu.' If you were Italian American your family considers you less of a man if you can't cook as well.
I am a stay at home mom but I hope to only be doing it for about another year or two. AFter that both kids will hopefully be in full time school and I want to get a job, maybe part time so that I can support my husband's full time career.
Goes both ways, I don't have a problem being a stay at home dad and likewise, my future wife should have no problem being a stay at home mom. But a stay at home wife is not logical, not for me in any regard. Money, time, general sexiness and energy all play a key factor. I don't wanna be a broke couple when we are 60.
Good call, though i don't think i would mind. I prefer relationships where both partners are independent. But then it all comes down to a matter of actual love and what draws you together. If co-dependence makes it tick then you've done well.
Depends how you view marraige, tonne especially with kids involved marraige is co dependent, like to horses pulling a carriage if one refuses to help and do their bit the carriage goes nowhere.
My eldest sister has two kids and she's a working mom. My youngest sister has two kids and she's a stay at home mom. They both are equally happy with their lives and choices they made. I think the decision comes down to the individual couples and no one else. by the way my sister spends 2 hours tops a day doing housework, and she has the rest of the day free to spend with my niece and they go to the mall and parks and stuff. lol
I like this take, but I'm already seeing the backlash. The part that the Feministas don't get is: These women actually ENJOY their lives as stay at home moms without being brainwashed, beaten, subjugated or enslaved.
@Monkeybizness Yes and there's plenty of women who work outside the home that would love to be with their kids, but they 'have" to work for financial reasons. I think Americans are WAY to materialistic.
Lol hardly. This take is about "The awesome benefits of having a Traditional stay at home wife and mother" not how how to be a good husband and father. There's always something to be done around the home and kids that want attention and taken care of. Years ago when men had to do long hours of physically demanding and back breaking labour in the factories and mills, in the shipyards, docks, farms and mines I could understand men putting their feet up.
the fact is that this dude and his wife are probably gonna have a longer and much healthier and happier marriage than you and your husband , thats why you're mad lady.
@CoolSky01 I take it you're talking from experience then.. Oh and please let me assure you that I'm most certainly far from being in the least bit mad.
experience? yes plenty of people like that around and they seem happier and raised a better family than those who dont want to cook, clean or do anything. there is a mothers day every year, my mother deserves it cause she works hard at home, cooking, cleaning, giving us rides and doing lots of things but other mothers dont deserve to be celebrated, they dont do any of that and the refuse to do anything their husbands dont do, such mothers are far from real mothers they're useless.
Yeah but working 9 to 5 outside of the home is equally difficult.
When people talk about how difficult things are for a SAHM they always seem to imply that the husband is going to work and having a marvelous time. Maybe they do deserve to go home and relax when they are finished.
Congratulations on having such a lovely family. Quite obviously the lifestyle in the USA is somewhat different to here in the UK. Normally after the children have been bathed, dressed and put to bed for the night, there's all the tidying up, dirty clothes to be put in the washer, clean clothes to sorted out for the morning, oh and not forgetting doing a "packed lunch for the husband". And that's just for starters!
I think this thread say more about the housewife who gets overwhelmed at picking up some clothes. Come on now, it's not that difficult. A capable woman like the poster's wife can do it.
Yeah, I agree. In addition, just from personal experience, I've noticed women working a lot tend to come home, sit on their computer, shit/shower/sleep then do the same thing the next day. These type of women tend to live in trashy rooms and houses and be ok with it. They only clean up if it gets really bad, or if guests are invited. I'm sure not all working women are like this, but I know they're out there.
Your Mytake was really good I agree stay at home wives and mothers are good, i personally don''t want kids but I can see the value of a stay at home it's a noble path
Cons: we no longer live in a world where most couples can support themselves on one income. I would love to be a stay-at-home husband, but unfortunately for me it's just not that simple.
I somewhat disagree on that. People in today's world seem to get everything on some sort of credit or loan paying as much as a third of everything they ever make servicing the interest on their debts, then when you add the materialistic consumer driven nature of people to that you see why most couples both need to work. It reminds me of this song. https://youtu.be/v5R-T_YF-wU
Thats because they have been conditioned to hate the feminine, thats why they consider masculine traits, the roles that men fill as being more important then the ones women filled.
Of course it works well for YOU to have a stay at home wife. No one is arguing that. You haven't worked out the part where it is god for women to give up their careers and stay at home to be your domestic servant.
If she's my domestic servant does that make me her indentured provider, protector, cuddler, feet warmer and spider chaser. I did say it worked well for me but remember she choose this I didn't force her into it. The thing about feminism and equality is that you have to accept women's choices and not shame them or their husband's who leave the reservation by choosing a lifestyle choice other than what the mainstream of society decides it should be.
No, I don't know what you mean. And you are the same guy who said he used to stiff women on dates, which makes no sense because you are paying for your wife's meals for the rest of her life.
Women's don't date guys for free food. They go out with guys because they are interested in them. You seem to think we walk around without wallets expecting to be taken care of. That's totally ridiculous.
I wouldn't be where I am today if I wasn't raised by a stay-at-home mom and I'm SO thankful for it! It's a beautiful thing and calling it "giving up their careers to stay at home and be a domestic servant" is completely harsh and unreasonable.
the west really seems to hate women who want to be women, its like you guys are giving every single excuse known to mankind of why a woman can't be a house wife, sad just plain sad.
@hellionthesagereborn its like in the east the women have no rights, can't do anything and are just good for cooking and cleaning and sex, and in the west women want everything in the world and dont want to give anything back in return and you dont get to complain.
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I do hope you tell your wife how much you appreciate her too :)
I'd love to be a SAHM in the future if we could afford it. I've worked as a nanny before and felt awful that I spent more waking hours with the baby than his parents did. I want to raise my own children if at all possible.
That's awesome! ^_^ It's not for everyone, but I'm really glad that I had a stay-at-home mom, I really think the world needs them, especially now that it's becoming a lost art and there's people actively discouraging it.
I have a stay at home wife.
Marriage is sexless.
She seems to think going to work is a treat, though she doesn't want to do it.
Glad it worked for you though. I'd recommend people really consider it carefully though, because if your wife stays home, and you divorce, your kids are goooooone.
Your marriage isn't sexless because she stays at home. I know plenty of working women who refuse sex.
@Rissyanne yes agree
'My wife is an excellent cook and I look forward to coming home for my dinner after a long day at work. Also it works out cheaper and healthier than eating out all the time or ordering in. Microwave ready meals are pure poision in my view. Also a packed lunch can be cheaper and healthier than a work canteens menu.'
If you were Italian American your family considers you less of a man if you can't cook as well.
They also consider me less of a man for not beating her lol. I can cook too.
I am a stay at home mom but I hope to only be doing it for about another year or two. AFter that both kids will hopefully be in full time school and I want to get a job, maybe part time so that I can support my husband's full time career.
Glad to hear. It's always good when you have options.
Goes both ways, I don't have a problem being a stay at home dad and likewise, my future wife should have no problem being a stay at home mom.
But a stay at home wife is not logical, not for me in any regard. Money, time, general sexiness and energy all play a key factor. I don't wanna be a broke couple when we are 60.
For me I don't want to be a broken up couple before we are 30 because we are both so busy working and never see our kids like so many couples today.
Good call, though i don't think i would mind. I prefer relationships where both partners are independent. But then it all comes down to a matter of actual love and what draws you together. If co-dependence makes it tick then you've done well.
Depends how you view marraige, tonne especially with kids involved marraige is co dependent, like to horses pulling a carriage if one refuses to help and do their bit the carriage goes nowhere.
Not every marriage needs kids though
My eldest sister has two kids and she's a working mom. My youngest sister has two kids and she's a stay at home mom. They both are equally happy with their lives and choices they made. I think the decision comes down to the individual couples and no one else. by the way my sister spends 2 hours tops a day doing housework, and she has the rest of the day free to spend with my niece and they go to the mall and parks and stuff. lol
I like this take, but I'm already seeing the backlash.
The part that the Feministas don't get is:
These women actually ENJOY their lives as stay at home moms without being brainwashed, beaten, subjugated or enslaved.
I have several stay at home mom friends. They hate being a stay at home wife however finance wise they can't afford child care
@Monkeybizness
Yes and there's plenty of women who work outside the home that would love to be with their kids, but they 'have" to work for financial reasons.
I think Americans are WAY to materialistic.
@Monkeybizness I stayed at home and raised my kids... I dont regret it for a second.
@Rissyanne I think that's awesome. I'm a full time working mom. I'd hate being a stay at home mom. Each women I different.
@Monkeybizness
So these women are so awefully educated to begin with that they can't afford doing a job that would balance out the childcare?
Sounds like these "friends" are just miserable beings altogether and they should be happy they have someone providing for their sorry-asses.
So your input is to just do a days work, come home, sit down and put your feet up then, is it?
Lol hardly. This take is about "The awesome benefits of having a Traditional stay at home wife and mother" not how how to be a good husband and father. There's always something to be done around the home and kids that want attention and taken care of. Years ago when men had to do long hours of physically demanding and back breaking labour in the factories and mills, in the shipyards, docks, farms and mines I could understand men putting their feet up.
the fact is that this dude and his wife are probably gonna have a longer and much healthier and happier marriage than you and your husband , thats why you're mad lady.
@CoolSky01 I take it you're talking from experience then..
Oh and please let me assure you that I'm most certainly far from being in the least bit mad.
experience? yes plenty of people like that around and they seem happier and raised a better family than those who dont want to cook, clean or do anything.
there is a mothers day every year, my mother deserves it cause she works hard at home, cooking, cleaning, giving us rides and doing lots of things but other mothers dont deserve to be celebrated, they dont do any of that and the refuse to do anything their husbands dont do, such mothers are far from real mothers they're useless.
You are saying that as if working 5 days a week is easy.
@Irishman45 Please remember though that a SAHM works 24/7 there is no days off, sitting down with feet up and being waited on hand and foot.
Yeah but working 9 to 5 outside of the home is equally difficult.
When people talk about how difficult things are for a SAHM they always seem to imply that the husband is going to work and having a marvelous time. Maybe they do deserve to go home and relax when they are finished.
@Irishman45 OK, so when do you propose that the woman can "take it easy/relax" then?
Well most workers are out the door by 6 or 7 so... then there's when the kids take a nap etc
So how many children do you have and what ages are they?
2 kids 6 months and 2 years old.
There is the weekend for her to relac provided im not working. Parents dont really get to relax there's always something
Congratulations on having such a lovely family.
Quite obviously the lifestyle in the USA is somewhat different to here in the UK.
Normally after the children have been bathed, dressed and put to bed for the night, there's all the tidying up, dirty clothes to be put in the washer, clean clothes to sorted out for the morning, oh and not forgetting doing a "packed lunch for the husband".
And that's just for starters!
"The weekend for her to relax!" Just what F ing planet do you live on?
Your children just disappear into thin air do they?
My wife is very organised, she has so much done before I get home plus her daily workout.
Well lucky you.
Thankyou. Yes she's very capable
I think this thread say more about the housewife who gets overwhelmed at picking up some clothes. Come on now, it's not that difficult. A capable woman like the poster's wife can do it.
@Irishman45 Yeah. I wouldn't even bother replying to people who don't understand the value of (not-so-hard) hard work. I support them in their misery.
Yeah, I agree. In addition, just from personal experience, I've noticed women working a lot tend to come home, sit on their computer, shit/shower/sleep then do the same thing the next day. These type of women tend to live in trashy rooms and houses and be ok with it. They only clean up if it gets really bad, or if guests are invited. I'm sure not all working women are like this, but I know they're out there.
I don't mind being a stay home mamma, as long as he can provide everything 😊
Your Mytake was really good I agree stay at home wives and mothers are good, i personally don''t want kids but I can see the value of a stay at home it's a noble path
Thankyou
You're welcome
I was going to make a Mytake like this but been a bit lazy to do so. Great Mytake and well written.👏👏👏
And I been saying letting strangers raise your kid is a terrible idea. But people don't listen.
Yeah you can always tell if an adult was badly raised. There are so many awful kids out there
i want to be that wife waiting for my husband come home from work
I hope one day you can be
Aww, that's really sweet!
Cons: we no longer live in a world where most couples can support themselves on one income. I would love to be a stay-at-home husband, but unfortunately for me it's just not that simple.
I somewhat disagree on that. People in today's world seem to get everything on some sort of credit or loan paying as much as a third of everything they ever make servicing the interest on their debts, then when you add the materialistic consumer driven nature of people to that you see why most couples both need to work. It reminds me of this song. https://youtu.be/v5R-T_YF-wU
Agree.
How defensive and borderline butthurt all those female comments around here are is ridiculous.
I know.. it is pathetic.
Thats because they have been conditioned to hate the feminine, thats why they consider masculine traits, the roles that men fill as being more important then the ones women filled.
@Rissyanne it's really sad .. I'm really annoyed at them._.
Ah, to be married to a real woman/mother/wife. So few men/children are that lucky these days.
Thankyou
My husband would come home to the kids at the neighbors and me hanging myself from the ceiling.
All of my friends who are stay at home moms are miserable.
Some people are miserable no matter what
I'm very happy with my life. Being a stay at home parent though... that'd be awful.
Happy at the minute. In every life some rain must fall and so on...
God you're annoying.
Maybe hanging out with small children WOULD be better every day than associating with you.
Little things in life that everyone should enjoy. Very good.
Thanks for commenting it can be hard to get a take going.
Of course it works well for YOU to have a stay at home wife. No one is arguing that.
You haven't worked out the part where it is god for women to give up their careers and stay at home to be your domestic servant.
If she's my domestic servant does that make me her indentured provider, protector, cuddler, feet warmer and spider chaser.
I did say it worked well for me but remember she choose this I didn't force her into it. The thing about feminism and equality is that you have to accept women's choices and not shame them or their husband's who leave the reservation by choosing a lifestyle choice other than what the mainstream of society decides it should be.
Yes, you are her indentured provider actually. But if you're ok with that then that's fine. Not my business.
You know what I mean. It's not downton abbey. The maid costume would be nice lol
No, I don't know what you mean.
And you are the same guy who said he used to stiff women on dates, which makes no sense because you are paying for your wife's meals for the rest of her life.
Yeah but she's my wife not a girl who dates guys for free food.
Women's don't date guys for free food. They go out with guys because they are interested in them. You seem to think we walk around without wallets expecting to be taken care of. That's totally ridiculous.
I don't think that but there defenintly are women that do this just like there are guys that threat women badly too
I wouldn't be where I am today if I wasn't raised by a stay-at-home mom and I'm SO thankful for it! It's a beautiful thing and calling it "giving up their careers to stay at home and be a domestic servant" is completely harsh and unreasonable.
the west really seems to hate women who want to be women, its like you guys are giving every single excuse known to mankind of why a woman can't be a house wife, sad just plain sad.
Thank feminism for that, its not the men its the women and feminist who are against women.
@hellionthesagereborn its like in the east the women have no rights, can't do anything and are just good for cooking and cleaning and sex, and in the west women want everything in the world and dont want to give anything back in return and you dont get to complain.