I think that if the majority of guys--not men--on this question were in need of serious medical help, I'd let them die.
He was wrong for punching you. You were wrong for slapping him. He lashed out in anger which isn't healthy. You felt threatened and told him to leave you alone which he didn't.
I hope you two aren't together anymore because No one should be with a pussy like that.
I think if chicks like you, not women, need serious medical help, I won't be helping you. She wasn't wrong for hitting him. Period. He had every right to strike her back. Entitled chicks like you excusing violence against men is just pathetic. Women need to learn to keep their hands to themselves and if they can't do that, they need to be prepared to go to prison or get their boobs punched.
What should you do? Probably stop starting fights with him and hitting him.
I imagine you are asking this because you're a woman and you think you're exempt from physical violence while at the same time allowed to inflict it on men. Seriously, go fuck yourself. You just hit someone and are shocked that you received the same treatment? Sorry princess, you're not that special.
You know, even when it comes to violence between men, there is an understanding. If some squirrely, skinny guy starts acting like a shrill bitch to someone twice his size, most guys aren't going to hit him just because they can. Most men would give him the chance to cut it out and walk away. But it's pretty well accepted that if this guy, weak and little though he is, continues to act like a terrible little shit, he's going to get fucking smacked. At the very least.
I know no one is willing to hear it in this day and age but you DID ask for it and deserve it.
You're going to regret it if you separate and you're going to regret it if you leave it alone and dont say anything. In my opinion, apologize and tell him you were wrong for hitting him, but make sure you let him know that he was wrong for hitting you too. Yes, people get riled up and go too far but never should it get to the extent where a man hits a woman. Please stay together for your child. Wishing you the best of luck. xoxo
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Is this the same chick that keeps asking this question about hitting your boyfriend/husband and he hits you back? Or are there just a lot of chicks that are surprised when they can't hide behind the "you can't hit me" shield?
I hit my mother's boyfriend for snooping into my privacy and he didn't hit me like this so called ''husband'' of the asker he. He only pushed me off and well I tripped, then he left.
You have no idea what invasion of privacy and not letting you leave to go out with your friends means don't you... and still having to obey house rules to some guy you've only seen for 3 years when you're 15... don't you?
He didn't get in your phone because he wants to make sure you're not cheating or because he's worried about what you've said to him. He went through your phone because he has concern about your behavior. Invasion of privacy doesn't exist between a parent and their child. There is something to be said about respecting your child and trusting them, but it sounds like you weren't exactly deserving of that. What I will say is you got a ton of introspection and extrospection and critical thinking skills to catch up on. It's probably good to take a lesson and practice seeing things from other people's viewpoints.
Awesome so now I'm crazy. You realize we have to go through a lot more in life than worrying about getting hit back (for instance constant possible sexual harrassment in clubs or elsewhere, unwanted attention, risk of getting raped if going out at night alone, etc)? All of you overreact for any tiny injustice done when it doesn't benefit you yet fail to see we have it a lot harder. That's life. There is no 100% fairness in live.
@"and still having to obey house rules to some guy you've only seen for 3 years when you're 15"
Oh boo hoo, you have what is basically a step-dad who is trying to look after you and guide you as a parent should! How tragic, what a victim you are.
You should be thankful your mom has the sense to bring in a second parenting helping hand to help bring you up - studies show children of two-parent households are more likely to be more successful both in their studies and careers, and are less likely to suffer mental health troubles like anxiety. Not everyone has the privilege and good fortune to have two involved parents.
You should apologize to your mom's boyfriend for hitting him, and treat him with more respect. I bet that the more you behave like an adult, the more they will treat you like one.
Just because I was 15 then (now 18) doesn't mean that immediately makes him my father figure. Trust and respect is earned, not given right away. That cell phone is mine BTW; I paid for it and he had no rights snooping through it.
Technically slapping isn't acting like a man. Guys punch each other in a fight while girls slap each other in a catgirl. So she actually acted like a woman.
So let me get this straight you slap him? After he called you names? And you never once thought he would slap back? Come on seriously? This is a prime example how women think they can slap someone and get away with it.
Yes. Then run to the cops denying all her actions and only explaining his. She'll also hope he's still enraged as it will come off more convincing to the police.
He shouldn't have hit you back, at all. I dont care if he is right or whatever. He should of walk away and leave you. Someone have to be in control of the situation. I don't justify your actions either but I also understand the pressure you were in. Is not easy to be infront of the man you love hearing bad things about you, he supposed to protect you not hurt you in any way. I been there! He won't stop this behavior, seek help!
Like I said: I don't justify her either. She said she warned him about what she will do if he kept going so why he kept doing it instead of leaving? Makes no sense his behavior. He should of walk away! They both needs help.
I agree. And Yes. The same thing that happened to her happened to me before with my exhusband , he was verbally abusive. I once pushed him because he wouldn't stop insulting me and he slapped me. Now am divorced can't stand abusive behavior. The best way to deal with this situations is walk away, don't let things get ugly if you can avoid it.
You shouldn't have slapped him, but he should have backed off, walked out and got out of your face. Honestly, most men don't hit women regardless, but if this physical violence is a habit for you two, it has to be stopped.
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Maybe you shouldn't have hit him if you love him as much as you claim. You seem to think it's okay for you to slap him around all you want without any consequences.
Well... you raise hands... get ready to be hit. I totally support his decision. it went from vocal to physical. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. you hit him, he hit you back... justice is served... move on.
Thats called espousal abue and it's a crime. Unless you were charging him with a steak knife or a pitchfork or something he shouldn't be hitting you. The fact that you've only been married a year makes me think this could be a sign of things to come.
You're right that spousal abuse is a crime, but if you think that it's not spousal abuse when a woman hits a man, then, well, I just don't know what to say to you.
jmmmfi your reply is apparently going to get down-voted mostly. Most posters here want to hear replies that are putting the guy as the hero, which I find sooo illogical. These are sub-culture types down-voting us.
I mean you slapped him. What do you expect. Thanks to feminism you are equal. He was in the wrong right up until the moment you chose to lay hands on him. Do your self a favor and learn from that mistake. Its never acceptable to hit anyone unless its self defense.. And yelling and name calling does not warrant your response... PERIOD.
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you're just lucky he didn't do any damage.
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That's a natural response.
The two of you need to learn better ways to solve conflict and control your tempers.
You two shouldn't be popping each other across the face. I think you to should talk about what happened that night, say sorry, and agree to use only words next argument.
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I think that if the majority of guys--not men--on this question were in need of serious medical help, I'd let them die.
He was wrong for punching you. You were wrong for slapping him. He lashed out in anger which isn't healthy. You felt threatened and told him to leave you alone which he didn't.
I hope you two aren't together anymore because No one should be with a pussy like that.
I think if chicks like you, not women, need serious medical help, I won't be helping you. She wasn't wrong for hitting him. Period. He had every right to strike her back. Entitled chicks like you excusing violence against men is just pathetic. Women need to learn to keep their hands to themselves and if they can't do that, they need to be prepared to go to prison or get their boobs punched.
y'all need some help communicating and de-escalating else this relationship is going to blow up.
sounds like a power struggle.
words are as hurtful as physical.
If alcohol involved, all alcohol terminated...
hope you work it out for sake of the kid.
What should you do? Probably stop starting fights with him and hitting him.
I imagine you are asking this because you're a woman and you think you're exempt from physical violence while at the same time allowed to inflict it on men. Seriously, go fuck yourself. You just hit someone and are shocked that you received the same treatment? Sorry princess, you're not that special.
You know, even when it comes to violence between men, there is an understanding. If some squirrely, skinny guy starts acting like a shrill bitch to someone twice his size, most guys aren't going to hit him just because they can. Most men would give him the chance to cut it out and walk away. But it's pretty well accepted that if this guy, weak and little though he is, continues to act like a terrible little shit, he's going to get fucking smacked. At the very least.
I know no one is willing to hear it in this day and age but you DID ask for it and deserve it.
You're going to regret it if you separate and you're going to regret it if you leave it alone and dont say anything. In my opinion, apologize and tell him you were wrong for hitting him, but make sure you let him know that he was wrong for hitting you too. Yes, people get riled up and go too far but never should it get to the extent where a man hits a woman. Please stay together for your child. Wishing you the best of luck. xoxo
Is this the same chick that keeps asking this question about hitting your boyfriend/husband and he hits you back? Or are there just a lot of chicks that are surprised when they can't hide behind the "you can't hit me" shield?
I hit my mother's boyfriend for snooping into my privacy and he didn't hit me like this so called ''husband'' of the asker he. He only pushed me off and well I tripped, then he left.
BS on the self-defense part. What he did is retaliation done out of anger, not self-defense. Self-defense is what my mother's bf did.
Guess we found another woman who likes to hide behind this shield as well...
You have no idea what invasion of privacy and not letting you leave to go out with your friends means don't you... and still having to obey house rules to some guy you've only seen for 3 years when you're 15... don't you?
Technically what he did would be considered false imprisonment.
He was trying to read what was on my own damn cell phone and wouldn't give me my car keys. Now you're saying I should have reacted very calmly?
You sound batshit crazy, to be honest. I don't think dudes hitting girls is even what we should be talking about right now.
He didn't get in your phone because he wants to make sure you're not cheating or because he's worried about what you've said to him.
He went through your phone because he has concern about your behavior.
Invasion of privacy doesn't exist between a parent and their child.
There is something to be said about respecting your child and trusting them, but it sounds like you weren't exactly deserving of that.
What I will say is you got a ton of introspection and extrospection and critical thinking skills to catch up on. It's probably good to take a lesson and practice seeing things from other people's viewpoints.
Awesome so now I'm crazy. You realize we have to go through a lot more in life than worrying about getting hit back (for instance constant possible sexual harrassment in clubs or elsewhere, unwanted attention, risk of getting raped if going out at night alone, etc)? All of you overreact for any tiny injustice done when it doesn't benefit you yet fail to see we have it a lot harder. That's life. There is no 100% fairness in live.
Also a rapist can get us pregnant too and we're stuck with the unwanted baby.
No one said you can't resort to physical violence in case of actual self-defense. This was not self-defense.
Neither of what they both did was self-defense to be honest. They both hit in anger. Both are in the wrong.
@"and still having to obey house rules to some guy you've only seen for 3 years when you're 15"
Oh boo hoo, you have what is basically a step-dad who is trying to look after you and guide you as a parent should! How tragic, what a victim you are.
You should be thankful your mom has the sense to bring in a second parenting helping hand to help bring you up - studies show children of two-parent households are more likely to be more successful both in their studies and careers, and are less likely to suffer mental health troubles like anxiety. Not everyone has the privilege and good fortune to have two involved parents.
You should apologize to your mom's boyfriend for hitting him, and treat him with more respect. I bet that the more you behave like an adult, the more they will treat you like one.
Just because I was 15 then (now 18) doesn't mean that immediately makes him my father figure. Trust and respect is earned, not given right away. That cell phone is mine BTW; I paid for it and he had no rights snooping through it.
You shouldn't hit him. Don't think you can get away with it just because you're a woman.
As my mother says" you want to act like a man, expect to be treated like one"
Technically slapping isn't acting like a man. Guys punch each other in a fight while girls slap each other in a catgirl. So she actually acted like a woman.
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@CarnelianCruise call it what you want but she hit him. if i slapped you would you be fine with it?
So let me get this straight you slap him? After he called you names? And you never once thought he would slap back? Come on seriously? This is a prime example how women think they can slap someone and get away with it.
Yes. Then run to the cops denying all her actions and only explaining his. She'll also hope he's still enraged as it will come off more convincing to the police.
He shouldn't have hit you back, at all. I dont care if he is right or whatever. He should of walk away and leave you. Someone have to be in control of the situation. I don't justify your actions either but I also understand the pressure you were in. Is not easy to be infront of the man you love hearing bad things about you, he supposed to protect you not hurt you in any way. I been there! He won't stop this behavior, seek help!
He's supposed to protect her, but her hitting him is justified?
Makes sense.
Like I said: I don't justify her either. She said she warned him about what she will do if he kept going so why he kept doing it instead of leaving? Makes no sense his behavior. He should of walk away! They both needs help.
Have you ever been hit before?
The moment it happens, all rational thoughts cease. You react 100% on emotion, either fear or anger.
I agree. And Yes. The same thing that happened to her happened to me before with my exhusband , he was verbally abusive. I once pushed him because he wouldn't stop insulting me and he slapped me. Now am divorced can't stand abusive behavior. The best way to deal with this situations is walk away, don't let things get ugly if you can avoid it.
Just switch the genders around in your comment and it becomes obviously a steaming pile of hypocrisy.
40 yr old immature women.
Hmmmmmm... hmmmmmm... This marriage is going to fail
You both are immature
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Lmao
You shouldn't have slapped him, but he should have backed off, walked out and got out of your face. Honestly, most men don't hit women regardless, but if this physical violence is a habit for you two, it has to be stopped.
Maybe you shouldn't have hit him if you love him as much as you claim. You seem to think it's okay for you to slap him around all you want without any consequences.
Well... you raise hands... get ready to be hit. I totally support his decision.
it went from vocal to physical.
Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. you hit him, he hit you back... justice is served... move on.
What did you expect to happen when you slapped him?
You slapped somebody and you got slapped back. Stop crying about it and fix the problem. What did you think was going to happen when you slapped him?
Thats called espousal abue and it's a crime. Unless you were charging him with a steak knife or a pitchfork or something he shouldn't be hitting you. The fact that you've only been married a year makes me think this could be a sign of things to come.
She hits him = not spousal abuse
He hits her = spousal abuse
? Riiight...
exactly
You're right that spousal abuse is a crime, but if you think that it's not spousal abuse when a woman hits a man, then, well, I just don't know what to say to you.
jmmmfi your reply is apparently going to get down-voted mostly. Most posters here want to hear replies that are putting the guy as the hero, which I find sooo illogical.
These are sub-culture types down-voting us.
I mean you slapped him. What do you expect. Thanks to feminism you are equal. He was in the wrong right up until the moment you chose to lay hands on him. Do your self a favor and learn from that mistake. Its never acceptable to hit anyone unless its self defense.. And yelling and name calling does not warrant your response... PERIOD.
you're just lucky he didn't do any damage.
That's a natural response.
The two of you need to learn better ways to solve conflict and control your tempers.
You two shouldn't be popping each other across the face. I think you to should talk about what happened that night, say sorry, and agree to use only words next argument.
Next time, don't slap him and he won't hit you back. You're the one who brought things to a physical level.