Why do you need so many wives? How do you make them all feel special when they are just one of many?
Maybe that is a good question for any polygamous relationship.
Please explain this to us and I will try hard not to be too judgmental, but forgive me if I fail... lol
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Ok that was SUCH a big generalization. The question really pissed me off. I'm Muslim, am surrounded by amazing Muslim men in my family growing up. No man in any of my parent's side of relatives is polygamous except one distant uncle who has two wives, and his second wife himself proposed to him and they are doing fine. I had a tutor in my childhood whose husband had another wife. I can recall an incident when one of her husband's other wives called her on some pretty serious emergency matter and it sounded like my tutor genuinely cares for her.
However, I am not gonna pretend that it's all good. I have seen polygamous marriages that are going well, and I have seen some devastating ones. Even though I myself have an amazing monogamous father and I have an example of polygamy going fine within my family, both of my besties have polygamous fathers who have ruined the family by polygamy, like literally I can't relate to my besties on this matter at all because both of them detest their fathers while I'm a daddy's spoiled princess. And I've heard of other families being broken by polygamy too! Let's just say that I've seen enough of them to know what I'm saying when I say what I think of polygamy.
The thing that all these 'ruined' polygamous marriages shared in common was the fact that the husbands did not treat their wives equally or fairly. There was always some kind of bias and they did not care for them equally, provide for them equally or even abused one of the wives. To which I say, the Qur'an clearly mentions that if you are afraid you won't be able to treat 2, 3, or 4 wives equally then marry only one.
While we're still on the topic of Islam, it's the only religion that put a limit on how many wives you can have. Other religions don't even do that. You can marry how many every you want in a huge proportion of the other religions out there.
Yes!! @CubsterShura stamping out generalisations! I feel the same way as you did about this question- but then again, this is g@g so I don't know why we're surprised🤷🏾♀️ 🤷🏾♀️
Lol yeah this website is full of hate
A virus which they can't seem to remove ;P
Wait. Are you saying it's normal in the islam to have multiple wives and that the wives don't mind having their husband shared? What do they do when they see him having sex with his second or third wife?
@Unit1 Men in Islam can marry up to four times, however, he must get his first wife's permission and treat them all equally.
@SpiderManFan2002 I mean don't they get jealous?
@Unit1 I don't know, I'm not them.
@Unit1 there are billions of Muslim out there from all different parts of the world, all coming from different cultures. In some places it's a norm, in other places it's not. Either way it is legal.
And no, they don't see each other having sex. And regarding jealousy, there are people into polyamorous relationships. Ever asked them if they feel jealous?
@CubsterShura That response👏🏾👏🏾🔥🔥