What's the purpose of marriage?

[jasco]

I mean why would you wanna get married? I mean anything you could get out of marriage you could easily get into a relationship for. What's the need of marriage?

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Thank you everyone for your comments

[hahahmm]

The purpose of marriage is to continue the traditions our ancestors established & that helped them build and maintain civilization so good marriages are some of the foundations of civilization. We might as well ask, why have a house? What's the purpose of a house? Yes, you can live without one but no, you would not be continuing the traditions of our ancestors or respecting the sacrifices they made for eons to help get us to the place we have in the world. Yes, the number of women worth marrying (and men) is shrinking.

"anything you could get out of marriage you could easily get into a relationship" - Not from my POV. See, I have very high standards for a wife when it comes to her character traits and how she treats me. The top level of trust is reserved for a woman I think is wife material. It turns out that a woman who is capable of meeting my very high standards has also earned the prize. Would you not give the best Olympic runner a gold medal? Or would you hand them a lump of coal? If you respect them you'll give them the gold.

That said, trust has to be earned. You cannot know how trustworthy a person is without lots of experience trusting them and seeing the result.

[hahahmm]

And the other point of marriage would be, ideally, to provide good role models for kids. It's possible to do without marriage but a lot more difficult.

[CrazyGirl2]

Yes, but with marriage, you can’t just decide “this is too hard” and call it quits! The original purpose of marriage was to join families and make alliances stronger… because women were property of our fathers, then our husbands! But as time progressed and we gained the right to vote, then the right to work, then protections against sexual harassment and firing because of pregnancies, we began working, and marriage became more of a partnership. The rationale for marriage is a stable platform for raising well adjusted children! Boys are something like 90% less likely to be arrested in their lifetime if they are raised in a home with both parents. Kids are more likely to attend college and graduate if they have a mother and father at home. There are many benefits to marriage, especially for society. Less crime, for one! And unlike “shacking-up” if one person decides they’ve had enough after an argument, they can’t just pick up and leave! And with women from 22 to 35 earning more than men, NO it’s not just about women wanting your money… we have our own, and we usually have more than you if we graduated from college! Which is why more and more women are the ones asking “why do I need marriage?” It’s not needed… unless you are going to have children!

[TonyMetal___86]

A girl who says why do i need a man or i can do it is a total turn off for me and would never date her and that's if i didn't slap her already!

[CrazyGirl2]

@TonyMetal___86 There are a lot of words for guys who hit women… “Man” is not one of them!

[TonyMetal___86]

Well no real man would stick to a cheap cunt or able to stand her impolitness...

A respectful lady knows what a real man is...
A real lady ain't affraid to show the world that she needs a man in her life and that her life is imcomplete without him...

A cheap h*e would ask a man to give her everything but in return she ain't willing to give a thing!

[CrazyGirl2]

@TonyMetal___86 I was so polite, but then you decided to call me a “CUNT” but ironically when it comes to “HOE” you asterisk out? It seems clear to all who read you that you believe respect is something that men command, and women have to earn! What a sad, small and lonely existence you must have! All you focus on is what a woman wants, from you, versus what she gives in return… well speaking for the MANY trust fund babies out here, on the day I was born, my net worth was < $1Mil, that increased by $50k per month, and will continue to do so until I die! My trust fund will maintain me in the 1% for my entire life… So my question is, what can you or those like you the 99% of so-called men possibly “give” me that I couldn’t just give myself? I was SO polite to you, but then you called me a “CUNT”? So here’s what I know about you… you are currently single, you’ve had ONE very serious relationship in your life, possibly two (but more than likely one) and she left you! If you did have a second serious relationship, THAT ended badly, because she wanted it to end. You believe (erroneously) that the relationships ended because when they said they wanted more from you, YOU believed they meant more stuff, rather than that they wanted more OF you, not more FROM you, because you are too closed off. You are extremely jaded! You believe that there are two types of woman… those that are gold diggers, and those that are completely submissive, and will do whatever you want! So rather than compromise and take her to see a romantic comedy every now and then, she always has to suffer through whatever Fast & Furious movie, or space robot film YOU wanna see, and your attitude is “bitch, when you pay for the movie tickets, you get to pick the movie” you likely prefer dating women who are living in extreme poverty, so what little you do have… seems like a LOT to her! You don’t just want power in relationships, you NEED IT, because you NEED to control every woman in your life!

[TonyMetal___86]

Wow what a whole freakin imaginary assumption you made about me and none of what you said is right and i really don't have time to argue with you cause you ain't worth my time and your whole money worth my shoe, what i can give you is priceless and girls like you doesn't deserves real men like me...

Fyi that i didn't say to you the word cunt, i spoke in general, i said that any girl who treats a man like that is a cunt...

I disrespect no one and i was polite with you the way you were with me but i didn't knew that your taking it personal and that when i speak in general, you think that i'm talking about you!

Have a nice day...

[CrazyGirl2]

@TonyMetal___86 When you call women IN GENERAL “cunts” you INSULT, & DISRESPECT ALL WOMEN!

[TonyMetal___86]

Because i intend to disrespect every women who treats men in this way...
Will you respect a man who disrespects you? Ofc not and me too i don't respect women who disrespects me...

[CrazyGirl2]

@TonyMetal___86 Let’s not forget you also talk about slapping women who say things that are “a total turn off”! So you NEVER disrespect women, you just slap them and call them cunts if they do ANYTHING that does not “turn you on” according to your own words! Yes, clearly I’m 100% wrong, you are in a very healthy relationship!

[TonyMetal___86]

Where did i say that i'll slap a woman who doesn't turn me on? 🤣
Especially that i'm a man who will never have sex before marriage...

Are you stalking me? From where did you get all these wrong infos about me? There are members in here whom i joke a lot with and we spend happy time together joking with each other, maybe you took my jokes for real...

I'll only slap a feminist who disrespects me or try to kay a hand on me, correct your info!

[CrazyGirl2]

@TonyMetal___86 “Wrong info” You write it! In your very FIRST reply to my post you write, and Iquite literally quote, as in I just cut and pasted YOUR own comment to me::
“TonyMetal___86. 5 d
A girl who says why do i need a man or i can do it is a total turn off for me and would never date her and that's if i didn't slap her already!”

[TonyMetal___86]

Your right maybe i said it because i was angry from your reply which is very provocative...
In reality i'd never beat anyone unless they tried to lay a hand on me but sometimes girls who are very provocative can make me lose my temper and that's why i stay away from them cause i don't want to hurt anyone...

[CrazyGirl2]

@TonyMetal___86 The irony is, in the very message where you accuse me of “stalking you” and taking jokes to you friends out of context you didn’t write any jokes to friends, this was your answer to my post! You

[CrazyGirl2]

@TonyMetal___86 ok well that’s good to hear! I wasn’t able to read your last message to me until after I sent the message before this. Please disregard it.

[TonyMetal___86]

No problem, you have to know if a real man loves you than he will love you for who you are and not for what you have from money, your the precious thing and not your money...

Money can't talk, can't love, doesn't have feelings, money is just a way of living...

For example my future wife will be a housewife which means that money is the last think that i'll think about when it comes to a relationship...

Somehwere in your comment you said: "since your paying for everything, you might take her to the cinemas and because your paying than you will always pick the movie that you desire" well that's not true cause 1st of all my money if her money too since after getting married god made us one, she can pick a movie and we will watch it together and next time we will watch a movie from my choice, the money that i earn is to spend it on my family and to use it so we eat and buy what we need...

[flameaqui]

For me marriage is an event of gatherings between the two people and with their witnesses, Marriage is a sign that the two couples will be together forever and never break up Marriage is like a blood compact between the two people joining their wrists with their blood, but marriage is all about love compact they are joining their hearts as one, maybe in the past blood compact is there way to be together in their marriage but now it's all about love, not blood. Marriage is the way to let everyone know and see that they love each other so that's why Marriage is important, and serious topic to think about it carefully and that's the purpose of Marriage.

[flameaqui]

And because Marriage is the only way to make their relationship level up

[Lliam]

For me, marriage was a very serious decision; the most serious of my life. It was something I would only enter into once and for a lifetime. It's a solemn vow made publicly. It says "I don't just like you. I want to spend the rest of my life with you and grow old together." In other words, "Until death do us part."

I had lots of girlfriends and was deeply infatuated with them, but I didn't make any promises. I only planned to get married once.

Marriage requires absolute trust, love, respect and commitment. There's no holding back. You make decisions together and share your resources to work for a happy future. Therefore, it involves a financial commitment, too.

[VanillaSalt]

With divorce rates being 53% and people being able to get no fault divorce and even a streamlined divorce I feel this is a moot point.

A man can lose feelings and leave it even cheat then leave and still claim alimony depending in the state. Women have all the legal power after marriage as all systems cater to them in family and divorce courts. Even public opinion is in favor of the women in divorce. Alimony, child support, court fees, and even the stigma of being a divorced man makes marriage difficult and dangerous. Is more of an anxiety then anything. There is not enforced commitment and even the marriage vows are not considered to be a contract anymore.

[Lliam]

@VanillaSalt. Then I advise you not to get married. You're not cut out for it.

[VanillaSalt]

Woman not man lmao. A man cannot do this it rarely works out.

[VanillaSalt]

And why you say that? Not that I’m looking at marriage but why you think I’m not cut out for it. Women are the problem filing 80% of divorces.

[Lliam]

@VanillaSalt. Because you have a low opinion of woman and are scared of them. If that weren't so, you wouldn't look for data to back up your preconceptions.
You think there is a big conspiracy against men.
You have a victim mentality, and what a person believes usually pans out in real life.

[VanillaSalt]

While I do agree with the logic behind your reasoning I argue your logic don’t take into consideration what people find when looking at other point. Sure an individual that looks up something like why do women suck would think women suck but a person looking up why relationships fail and finding a video on why women suck might not. That breaks your preconception idea. Also I’m not afraid of women so much as don’t trust them. Same difference true but I doubt you trust a stranger just because of their gender… it’s normal to have biases based off experience. For instance I’ve had 3 gfs and they all cheated. I had one hookup and she was cheating using me. I don’t think all women cheat but I do believe it’s a significant possibility therefore expect trust to be earned and certain rules to be followed.

Also your whole point of conspiracy theory is wrong.. it’s not a conspiracy it’s an open plot against men. The feminists movement has an entire wing of man haters and though their the minority of women their by far the loudest. Being a complaining women is powerful in society these days. Remember #killallmen trended… remember when Adele had to pay alimony? Women went insane calling it manimony! You get banned from fb and Twitter for calling a woman a bitch but calling a man an asshole is accepted. The balance of power in society is obviously towards women as I think it’s always been but lately you don’t see the role model women you only see the trash that shouldn’t be allowed to procreate…

As for my “victim mentality”… maybe I do see myself as a victim… does that mean I’m wrong?

[VanillaSalt]

Sent early… anywho… society changes because people are not happy with it. They push for change and things change. If your unhappy you work hard to change. By victim mentality you probably mean I’ve given up and just complain. No I grow every day and I learn more from every encounter. I seek understanding not acceptance. And if I fail I decide it’s it’s worth my time to succeed and if it is I’ll try until I succeed or my priorities change.

To be clear… I think everyone is a victim. The meaning of life is suffering. The quality of life is how we respond to that suffering. And the value of life is what we leave behind to the next generation whether it be kids, crafts, or just knowledge and understanding. Every interaction we have in here is a new insight for someone else to use to consider their own priorities.

[Lliam]

@VanillaSalt. You're absolutely right that trust has to be earned and certain rules followed. There is such a thing as ethics.

My thing is, I don't stereotype people based on things like gender and race. Men and women are people. People are complex and flawed. Some are ass holes and some, I believe the majority, have good hearts.

[VanillaSalt]

I believe otherwise. Did you hear about the women in the train that was raped and people watched and recorded? What about the one that got her ass beat? Or the one in the subway raped in broad daylight? 10 am nyc… I have so little faith in humanity to do the right thing these days. Remember the security that closed the door as that Asian old woman was beat in the streets? Rising cases of false allegations of rape? It’s true most of this is propaganda by the media to get views but 20 years ago Ide never have left a woman to change her tire or a stranger to deal with an assault in their own… few months ago I watch 3 women struggle with changing a tire… I’m an extremely compassionate and empathetic person so I’m confident if I’ve been effected by this propaganda many other have been as well and will continue to be.

[VanillaSalt]

This don’t help lol.

https://youtu.be/dzxIKeXKD0o

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@Lliam you are absolutely right about @VanillaSalt generalizations.

[VanillaSalt]

Every comment he made was generalizations based off his opinions… but whatever I’m not here to debate.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you are living together and you have an argument, one of you can impusively say, "get the fuck out of here!" and it's over. Marriage does not end so easily; therefore, people who make the commitment - if they have seriously contemplated the undertaking - are promising to not leave just because you have one argument that gets heated.

If you are Christian, marriage has an added meaning. It is a covenant between a man, a woman, and God.

[VanillaSalt]

There is no point in marriage anymore. There’s nothing special as long as a thought can end it. It was valuable because it was an unbeatable and permanent decision with real consequences and real benefit.


Sex, support, respect, children, etc… everything we want and need from marriage can get acquired from other sources. There’s similar demand for these things but the quality outside marriage has suffered and the supply locations have multiplied as every persons a possible source for sex and children. We have successfully devalued marriage.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

You can end life easily. Does it mean it's not special?

[VanillaSalt]

Because of what marriage is supposed to be you cannot compare the 2. Life is valuable BECAUSE it ends where as marriage is valuable BECAUSE it’s “until death do us part”.

[VanillaSalt]

It’s supposed to be special but after a few short years people get divorced. That’s just proves to me marriage is a scam and the women or men were never truly invested.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Yes but both are supposed to end when you die of natural causes, but it can be end sooner than later if you so wish.

Do you know how bad it would be if people could not divorce? The amount of miserable people that would make? Both men and women.

[VanillaSalt]

Because it’s obviously working leaving people to their own devices… such good choices were making…

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Again do you think it's a good idea that people no longer can get a divorce?

[VanillaSalt]

Under extreme prove able circumstances yes… very extreme. Falling out of love should NOT be an option. You didn’t make a good choice is all that proves. Divorce should not be a profit making business damnit.

Like having children the consequences need to be accepted for a bad choice marriage… I have family that stayed together because it wasn’t proper to split. They didn’t love each other but could still count on and trust one another. And they loved their kids and so the kids never went without… accountability god damnit! When the hell do we get some?

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

"Falling out of love should NOT be an option."
So what to do when it happens? Because it does happen. Then what? We don't love each other anymore but we continue together? That makes no sense.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Children will suffer even more living together with parents that don't love each other anymore.
And divorce is not a business. It's not the ugly hell you think it is.

[VanillaSalt]

Divorce is a $12billion/year industry…

Furthermore couples that have a kid and buy a 30 year mortgage house… you telling me after such investments a couple should be able to arbitrarily break their contract and leave? I’m sorry let me change that a bit… after having a kid and taking a 30 year mortgage should one part of a contract be able to break that contract and leave both parties responsible for the mortgage and child?

[VanillaSalt]

For the sake of children it shouldn’t be possible to divorce unless extreme cases like abuse or endangering a child… that’s part of being an adult and accepting responsibility for your choices…

Also if I’m going to enter a 30 year mortgage with someone and they wanna divorce THEY should have to take over in it’s entirety the mortgage and forgo alimony and other such royalties. It shouldn’t be the profitable business to help people break a contract. Marriage comes with heavy choices and long spanning consequences so it shouldn’t be ethereal.

[VanillaSalt]

Tell you what I’ll give you no fault divorce… only after 10 years of marriage to makeup for the money and time investment. Also if the party filing agrees to take over full responsibility for debts incurred during the marriage… meanwhile divorce under extreme circumstances like abuse, cheating, child endangerment is reversed with the at fault party claiming responsibility for the failed marriage and all debts incurred instead… how’s that for divorce laws?

[VanillaSalt]

I’ll even allow a clause that both parties that split unanimously can voluntarily split debts incurred.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Yes they absolutely should still be able to end things if they want. Regardless of the investment on the relationship.

Of the divorce is well handled the child will be fine. Trust me is much MUCH worse to live with parents that don't love each other than to have two parents living in separate houses, but get along.

The mortgage as well as other payments need to de discussed during the divorce. Usually whoever gets the house gets the rest of the mortgage.

"how’s that for divorce laws?"
Sorry didn't understood what you meant in that comment.

[VanillaSalt]

Divorce should have a consequence. That’s why it succeeds so often.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Why it should have a consequence?
No one wants to divorce. The idea when you marry is to never do it. If it happens something went wrong. It's a defeat.

[VanillaSalt]

If 53% of people are divorcing then either their ALL making bad choices or at least some of them are doing it for the money…

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

It's not a bad choice. People can grow out of love. It's sad, but it can happen.

[VanillaSalt]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 then why should alimony exist? If people make and break up so often why should anyone have to support someone that leaves? They choose to leave. Why are the vows “until death do us part”? How are you spared to raise a ducking kid alone and give them a god life if your just making minimum wage? You really think there’s enough jobs for every single parent to pay for everything including a kid? If that’s the case why are there so many single parents in welfare. Dumas like you can’t even think what you’re giving up just wanted all the partners you can get when you want. Freedom! Never responsibility or accountability!

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Because if one was bringing in nearly all of the money to the couple, the other is financial dependant. So to make sure that person doesn't end up with nothing to get their life on track alimony exists.

[VanillaSalt]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 but I supported her stupid ass then she can end it and I have to continue supporting her? And what about if she cheats then ends it I STILL have to support her? I’ll be honest I’de shoot her and plead insanity before Ide allow that.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Yes. His fault for not marrying someone that can support herself.
Women also have to do that. Just ask Madonna.

[VanillaSalt]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 also shows me people arnt trustworthy… especially women

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Why? They didn't invented alimony. And can't you marry a woman who makes her own money?

[VanillaSalt]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 yes but according to statistics odds are I’ll make more money then her. Besides I want a woman who’s a housewife. The odds of a house wife making more then me is unlikely. And why argue who’s to blame… the fact is odds are higher she’ll cheat and or leave at some point.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

But even if you make more, as long as she makes enough to support herself you are safe.

[VanillaSalt]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 not if I want a housewife. Unless you think a woman’s going to cook clean and work lmao. Can’t even get them to cook and clean half the time. “Make me a sandwich” is misogyny. besides this again your screwed in long term decisions… 30 year mortgage with a woman that can leave in less then 10? Joint bank accounts joint credit cards… too much of life’s connected when you get married.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

And why would you want to marry a housewife?

[VanillaSalt]

Because it’s what I want and I don’t have to defend what I want to you… I’m tired of discussing this. Marriage is bad end of story.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Find a good one. That's all I am saying.

[Jay3344]

In some religions it’s a sacrament intended to facilitate procreation. From a societal view point it’s a formalization of a bond between two people who want to share their life and assets. It’s a way to create a nuclear family where two parents raise children. It’s a construct to help bring stability to groups and reproduce, it also tells you a bit of genetic history because if we didn’t know who our relatives were (which marriage is a big part of) then we wouldn’t know as quickly who was a prospective mate. “Oh, your last name is Jones? My moms side of the family are Jones’…you say your from Pittsburgh? That’s where my Moms family is from. 🤔 now you don’t look so cute, you kind of look like a cousin.”

[Lucy68]

For me it's marrying my best friend. The person I can go on adventures with, the person I can cuddle and hold at night in bed, the person that is my other half, the one that i can grow old with. The person that I would love to have children with and watch them grow up together. For me marriage is you're marrying your best friend, your teammate, your partner in crime, your other half. I know it sounds stupid to some but that's how i view marriage.

[Sarahr123]

the older I get the more I realise how pointless marriage is but in my culture it can’t be done without and although you can still live together and raise kids together without being married people will think I’m a chav if I have children out of wedlock so I guess they’ll be coming after marriage after all.

[Cherry234]

It's a more serious commitment. It's more than just having a boyfriend or girlfriend. It's harder to walk out on someone when you're married rather than when you're dating someone, especially if you have children. Because then you have to go through the whole divorce process if you no longer want to be with that person

[TonyMetal___86]

You missed the most important part which is the blessing of god and the promises made in front of him, after a holy marriage the husband and wife become one and a family...

If marriage was only a contract on a sheet lf paper than no one would get married, it's sacred and that's why there is marriage!

[dwiller943]

Well the "purpose" varies for each individual.
For me, the purpose is to have the permanant lover & bestie for life.
The purpose is to have my soulmate without have to search even further.
The purpose is the destination. The purpose is no longer having to suffer
with obstacles of the wrong partners, because I'm already with the right one.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Because it makes sense to marry the right person.
I am married. I gained nothing from it. But that is how it should be. If your relationship was one way before marriage it should stay the same way after.
So why we do it? Because I want to call the love of my life my wife. Not just my girlfriend.

[ChiPaPa]

I suppose the government benefits and cementing the partnership in the eyes of the world. It only means nothing if you aren't willing to both put the work into it just like a relationship. If you have been in a relationship with someone for years, regardless of common laws, and not married them, they can have almost zero rights to anything including social security death benefits, life insurance and pensions.

[notwoke]

its a giant well orchestrated scam so women can get men's resources for life in return for a few years of good sex. What percentage of 50 year old men are getting great sex regularly? About 1%. What percentage of 50 year old men are putting 99% of their paycheck into their marriage? About 99%. Less men would also be willing to perform 18-24 years of child rearing also if they didn't have financial handcuffs on. The upside for men is less than zero.

[Alyssa11]

Marriage is a commitment. And if I love someone I want to commit to them. You can’t just walk out on someone you’re married to but you can just walk out on someone you’re dating.

[TonyMetal___86]

Well said miss alyssa rapunzel, the spouse can't walk out just like that cause made them one spiritually and physically, also they are a family now and leaving like that is a sin!

[Alyssa11]

@TonyMetal___86 Exactly! You have established a bond in the eyes of God. It's not just an 'option' to walk away at any inconvenience anymore :)

[TonyMetal___86]

True princess alyssa rapunzel 😊

[AviatorTom]

There are legal and economic advantages of being married. For example, in the US, married couples pay less income tax than they would if single. When one of the married couple dies, their estate goes to the survivor without complication.

[Mia_MadisonOF]

Today or 100 years ago? Everything we are doing, will do, and have done is all relative.. Marriage is something different and means something @differmd

[Mia_MadisonOF]

different to everyone. *

[Whatthefluff]

It's an antiquated institution based out of a promise for commitment that is null in this world of a fifty percent divorce rate.

[Astayuno]

There is no purpose of marriage or having kids. Forget those thoughts and dreams of marrying and having children

[doopayo]

I honestly don’t get it. I’d probably get bored if I was just married to the same person but maybe that’s just me

[TheSpaceGnome]

Marriage is just a promise.
So your question is really "why commit to a person for life?"
And the reason is because people want to.

[Hangry06]

Because divorces are harder. Your spouse will be stuck with you

[TonyMetal___86]

The purpose of marriage is to be stuck with your spouse 😄

[Hangry06]

@TonyMetal___86 Not when the spouse is cheater or a beater or a serial murderer or a rapist or a pedophile 😊

[TonyMetal___86]

A man who loves his wife will never cheat because she simply have what other women have, to beat her? Well no one is perfect and the wife muhht forgive him if he's truly sorry and won't repeat again, also a good man will never beat himself because a man beating his wife means that he's beating himself since after marriage god made them one, now about the serial killer, hell no! Such guy shouldn't exists in the society and finally about the pedo, well i never understood how can someone have sexual desires over kids, disgusting and terrible 😏

The only bad thing that i might have if i got married, it's while we are making love, i might bite my wife and eat her alive and no one will her screaming "my man is eating me, saaaave meeee 😂😂

[t-8900]

@OlderAndWiser basically already said what was on my mind.

[KatherineJ]

For me it was committing myself to my husband in front of God, and our families and friends.

[TonyMetal___86]

Well said

[KatherineJ]

@TonyMetal___86 thank you

[TonyMetal___86]

Your welcome

[Bhhahuanajhaunanaba]

Adds responsibility to a relationship.


If you act like a POC they law can step in

[VanillaSalt]

And if you act like a man the law can step in as well.

[HaveNoName]

It's a religious institution. If you do not understand the concept of, or fear the outcome of adultry, then your question does not have an amswer.

[HaveNoName]

*answer* oops.

[LegendaryIcon]

for a kid to have a mother and a father all the time

[Relux47]

Cause I’ll be committed to someone that I love a lot. Can’t really think of anything else

[cookiecrusher]

...

[Wowboi]

Is to form a family life and mature while leaving the selfish life behind.

[In_Trance]

It's a form of segregation; a control tactic used by the church and state

[ElizaPam]

For fathers to pass ownership of women to husbands

[Jersey2]

Most expensive purchase ever.

[bamesjond0069]

Marriage is for women.

[noohair]

Marriage protects the children.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

To create a family and become one unit.

[MJtheCoach]

To meet the demand of social construct

[threebelles]

Those who are happily married would vouch for it.

[Julious0202]

help spouse to go to heaven

[Anonymous]

It’s only a piece of paper.

[Subarugirl]

Actually more like a legal contract

[Opinion Owner]

It’s still a piece of paper!

[Jlegacy]

To glorify God!

[Subarugirl]

If that were true, why do people who aren’t religious get married and why does marriage predate the Bible

[Jlegacy]

Marriage was instituted by God: Adam and Eve. And nothing predates the word of God. The bible testifies of that word.

The truth would make you angry before it blesses you.

People who marry without God, do what is called societal marriage. Real marriage is the joining together a male and female child of God by God for the sole purpose of bringing God glory. The pleasure is secondary. It is a blessing but life's greatest blessing is to live a life frictionlessly that brings glory to God.

[Subarugirl]

Yeah, sorry there is only room for 2 people in my marriage, and from what I've seen this omnipotent deity who is supposed to be so loving sure doesn't act that way and has caused unquantifiable pain and suffering. No thanks but you can have fun with the threesome of your sadistic god and wife.

[Jlegacy]

Lol. I see your heart. Your say these things because you are not convinced of His existence or His love. Can I suggest a way out? You won't believe my suggestion😊

[Subarugirl]

Yeah what loving deity would demand the massacre of hundreds of thousands of men women and children? Allow his own son to be slaughtered? Have you actually read the bible? Did you actually pay attention to atrocities that happened at gods command?

[Jlegacy]

Do you know that God gave the people of the old testament a chance at redemption even after they were slaughtered? Jesus went to Hell and preached to them. Even the people destroyed by the flood of Noah.

The essence of the death of Jesus among many things is to show us that there is a grace that God can give to us that can make us be obedient to God even when faced with the most gory of death. Because there has been a lingering fear that God can't make any perfect being.

It would interest you to know also that Adam was not made perfect, God made Adam subject to sin in hope that when Christ comes men would choose to be called sons of God rather than sons of Satan.

I understand how you feel. If you don't know the full gist, you would not find God loveable. Oh! but He is.

[Subarugirl]

Okay so god, all powerful and omnipotent set up a failed system, to fail just because he could, and set it up so that his entire creation have to obsessed with him just so they don't burn in hell for ever.

You can believe in what ever you want, but I grew up in church. Been there done that, seen the hypocrisy and suffering and the abuse and I am not interested. So you can keep your rhetoric about your "loving god" to your self.

[Jlegacy]

God didn't set up man to fail. He didn't make man failproof either. He didn't do it willingly but in hope that when the man or woman hear the truth, they would choose Him above life itself.

It is okay if you don't want to hear of Him. I wish you the best.

[Uptowngirl88]

Commitment

[jimmy2]

Its God design

[jimmy2]

2 bwcome one flesh