I'm with @DizzyDesii on this one. The paperwork, then you gotta change your driver's license, social security, then tell hr at your job, your bank. Way too much work to a last name change.
Waaay too much work. And SSA take like 3-6 months with they slow ass. Like i know people who changed it on drivers license first and then we can't accept their paperwork because its not updated with SSA yet and they have to redo everything on our end and wait another mont for stuff to process
Here in Italy, for identification purposes, the woman keeps her surname. She can optionally without any writing on documents place her husband's surname alongside hers when she signs.
Technically it is. Just think about if only men get to have the last name and the women had it at marriage, that means every single daughter has her father name, and then her husband's last name. it's an endless cycle.
Seems like taking a single name is a good idea especially if you eventually start a family. But I think it should go either way. The guy could take the girl’s last name just as much as the girl could take the guy’s.
Its the point of getting married. To make a family unit and thats to share a last name. If you dont do even that small of a step i really doubt your motivation of why you're even getting married in the first place.
@TruthBringer Then you did it because you defended patriarchy? And you know, "if how many people disapprove of you" you're definitely on the right track. This is people who have a so-called egalitarian or patriarchal mentality that traps moisture from the air, thanks.
Bold of you to assume just because I am not a "equalityist" that I am advocating for a patriarchy. Now I see I'm dealing with a feminazi here. You people are notorious for black and white thinking, despite life has proven itself to be full of shades. There is an old pilot's saying: "If you are catching a lot of flak, you must be over the target". Your flak is delicious. Stay mad, love.
well, if you are not so-called egalitarian and patriarchal mentality, why did you give a minus? okay I passed the men... but what do you think about these women, who are ready to give their lives for equality, still exist with men's surnames?
I gave a dislikes because you call it outdated and then proceed using typical woke feminazi arguments implying that women taking a man's surname are somehow oppressed.
I support women's equal opportunities in life. At the same time I'm realistic that men and women cannot ever be "equal" because of differences that are caused by biology. I don't cry "matriarchy" or "patriarchy" and neither am I advocating for anything. There are plenty of women wanting to take their husband's surname and all power to them. Wasn't feminism about women's freedom of choice? So talking shit to women who make that choice basically goes against the principles of feminism. Well, not MODERN feminism of today though. That's all about man-hating and taking "revenge" on men.
My girl wants my surname when we get married, yet she is free to keep her own last name. What matters to me the most is that my children get MY surname.
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I say the same thing as some others about it symbolising that you’re becoming one family.
not sure if it is updated or not but I still want to take my partner’s last name when we get married.
It's not outdated, but it's also not necessary.
Good question. Are you thinking 🤔 two last names for one couple. What about the offspring, should they take a parent's last name as their own?
I'm with @DizzyDesii on this one. The paperwork, then you gotta change your driver's license, social security, then tell hr at your job, your bank. Way too much work to a last name change.
Waaay too much work. And SSA take like 3-6 months with they slow ass. Like i know people who changed it on drivers license first and then we can't accept their paperwork because its not updated with SSA yet and they have to redo everything on our end and wait another mont for stuff to process
Yeah and the lines are long af. Then you gotta change your passport.
I stil haven't gotten one. Im only ever trying to go to AU and that ain't no time soon lol
Here in Italy, for identification purposes, the woman keeps her surname. She can optionally without any writing on documents place her husband's surname alongside hers when she signs.
Technically it is. Just think about if only men get to have the last name and the women had it at marriage, that means every single daughter has her father name, and then her husband's last name. it's an endless cycle.
Meaning for more than a millennia it has been happening.
Seems like taking a single name is a good idea especially if you eventually start a family. But I think it should go either way. The guy could take the girl’s last name just as much as the girl could take the guy’s.
Its the point of getting married. To make a family unit and thats to share a last name. If you dont do even that small of a step i really doubt your motivation of why you're even getting married in the first place.
i think it is outdated. i want my husband to be open to taking my last name because why not?
You say taking a man’s last name in marriage is outdated, I say marriage is outdated.
Subjective and only matters to the interested parties.
Cheers!
Some things should not be considered outdated. Why all of a sudden people want to change things?
Call me old school, but I think it’s disrespectful.
No. There is no biological change that occurs in doing so.
Plus, makes sense for the family.
Maybe in other countries, but in my country, there’s no debate about receiving someone’s last name, nor was it ever mentioned, I guess it’s a cultural
outdated. People who advocate the concepts of feminism, gender equality, rights, law and justice should also take a hand in this issue.
wow, look at these so-called equalityists who give downvotes. Congratulations people, keep going like this
Bold of you to assume the people who downvoted are "equalityists". I sure am not.
@TruthBringer Then you did it because you defended patriarchy?
And you know, "if how many people disapprove of you" you're definitely on the right track. This is people who have a so-called egalitarian or patriarchal mentality that traps moisture from the air, thanks.
Bold of you to assume just because I am not a "equalityist" that I am advocating for a patriarchy. Now I see I'm dealing with a feminazi here. You people are notorious for black and white thinking, despite life has proven itself to be full of shades. There is an old pilot's saying: "If you are catching a lot of flak, you must be over the target". Your flak is delicious. Stay mad, love.
well, if you are not so-called egalitarian and patriarchal mentality, why did you give a minus? okay I passed the men... but what do you think about these women, who are ready to give their lives for equality, still exist with men's surnames?
I gave a dislikes because you call it outdated and then proceed using typical woke feminazi arguments implying that women taking a man's surname are somehow oppressed.
I support women's equal opportunities in life. At the same time I'm realistic that men and women cannot ever be "equal" because of differences that are caused by biology. I don't cry "matriarchy" or "patriarchy" and neither am I advocating for anything. There are plenty of women wanting to take their husband's surname and all power to them. Wasn't feminism about women's freedom of choice? So talking shit to women who make that choice basically goes against the principles of feminism. Well, not MODERN feminism of today though. That's all about man-hating and taking "revenge" on men.
My girl wants my surname when we get married, yet she is free to keep her own last name. What matters to me the most is that my children get MY surname.
Okkk
I'd like to take my man s name
Nope. It’s all just a matter of preference at this point.
It is worse than this - Marriage itself is outdated and one of the most self-destructive things a man can do.