He told me that he won't marry me without a prenup. How would you react in such a situation?

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Actually, this is his mother's request. He has a rich family and they want him to prepare a prenup with the person he will marry in terms of financial rights. What do you think about such a contract?

misogynistic_pig · Accepted Answer

If your partner has told you that they will not marry you without a prenuptial agreement, it can be a difficult situation to deal with emotionally.

However, it's important to note that a prenup doesn't necessarily mean that your partner doesn't love or trust you.

A prenuptial agreement is simply a legal contract that sets out how property and assets will be divided in the event of a divorce or separation.

This may be a good idea if you both have considerable assets or have significant debt.

By having a prenup, you can set clear and fair boundaries to avoid conflicts in the future.

It's important to talk to your partner and try to understand their motivations for wanting a prenuptial agreement.

While it may be hard to accept, try not to take it as a reflection of his love for you.

Instead, consider speaking with a lawyer to better understand the legal implications of a prenuptial agreement and, if necessary, to ensure that you are protected.

Remember that ultimately the decision to marry someone is a personal choice and there is no right or wrong answer.

If you feel that the prenup is a barrier to your relationship, then you should have an honest talk with your partner and make a decision that is best for both of you.

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

A prenup keeps previously owned separate property separate. It does not impact any earnings (unrelated to that separate property) or other acquired property during the marriage. Do you feel you are entitled to half of what he had before you even came into the picture? No one's limiting the sharing of what the two of you choose to create together, but no one is entitled to any of that which was not theirs to start with. What leads you to believe you're entitled to more? A prenup protects the past, not the future.

Randogirl491 · Accepted Answer

If it came from him I would feel like he doesn't trust me and isn't sure about me and I would definitely be really put off. If it actually comes from the mother I can get her wanting to protect her son and the family since she isn't close to me as much as my man is. But I would be worried that it means she secretely doesn't approve of me and will do anything to get rid of me once the union is official. Like bullying me out of the relationship, constantly trying to get women of her choosing to meet my husband all happening in my face... It sounds like a movie but I've heard sooo many stories of women who married into rich familles and who were destroyed by the mother. Sometimes it can go far... I wouldn't risk it unless you're really absolutely sure you want to marry him... and his family

SaoirseS · Accepted Answer

That’s what his mom wants, but what are his thoughts (and yours)? You’re in your 30s, and I presume he is as well. Does his mom run his life at that age? If he’s on board with the idea, I wouldn’t have a problem with it. Just make sure you get an attorney (separate from his) to represent you in drawing it up.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It is very common for parents to insist on a prenuptial agreement when their family has wealth to eventually distribute to their offspring. Are you bothered by this idea?

Cupido29 · Answer

As others have said already, 70% of divorces are done by women, and often asking the woman a request like the prenup demonstrates whether the woman is truly interested in marriage or if she is just interested in wealth. Furthermore, it is also fair towards his relatives mentioned by you, given that certainly a large part of his properties are his thanks to them, and they do not want to lose them because of a future divorce (which, as mentioned before, is done 70% by wives). If I were you I would accept, and as others have already said, you are 35 years old, unfortunately life is short; if you don't get married now, when will you? You've already had enough experiences surely. I believe that if you love him you shouldn't even ask yourself whether or not to accept this condition. Nothing changes to you (I hope you have some ownership though)

Berethor · Answer

70% of divorces are filed by women so it make sense, also you 35, so you better take the deal.

Anonymous · Answer

I think that’s fine. Many women are so sure that this is the man they’re going to be w for the rest of their life. So if that’s the mentality than there should be no fear of a prenup cause in their fairy tale little minds you two will never separate so that prenup will never need to be called upon. Now w that said I’d say as the female on the clause if he cheats on you during the marriage that you should be entitled to some compensation. I don’t mean from their fortune either. Maybe from what you two establish together from the time you got married. I guess it would have to be discussed for how much for what length of time. Also if there are children involved. A prenup is meant to protect what he (family) has already established before you, not what you two establish once you’re married. Talk to your own lawyer about it.

Billlewis · Answer

I guess I have a hard time understanding why any guy would have a problem with a woman who is simply looking out for her own interests. If I were marrying a woman, I'd gladly sign anything she wanted me to, and if the legal agreement stipulates that she'll receive a substantial portion of my sssets if the marriage doesn't work out, all that would mean to me is that I'd damn well better make sure she's happy.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I'd be ok with it. but working out those details may be tough. I'd be thinking about how that maps to the future and be fair to you.

does it feel good, no, it does not provide security. but when 1/2 relationships fail and people aren't willing to make things work... or can't, then ya end up in this mess.

I don't have one, in case you wonder.

DaySpring · Answer

@rosynante That's why I don't believe in including the government in my Love life. You can be married and have a wedding and all that and never include the government. Just let it be a thing of the heart. You don't be recognize as married by the law but whatever. All the law does is ruin it in my opinion. It adds stress and negativity to it all.

If you don't include the gov, what is the difference in terms of the heart?
There isn't one. You either love that person or not.

TalynMere · Answer

Prenup makes sense to me.

You can never fully trust that someone won't screw you over in the future. Either because it was their plan all along or because they just became spiteful for whatever reason.

If you love each other truly, it won't matter, and if you don't, it's protection.

HighValue · Answer

I wouldn't get married without a prenuptial agreement either. Most women are thieves and abusive to men during divorce. Any intelligent man would want a prenuptial agreement. The only reason a woman wouldn't want one is because she wants the option to steal from him.

Fireguy17 · Answer

We did one before we were married.
That way we figured everything out when we like each other.
There is a large income disparity between us, both our second marriages, so we protected our retirement & savings so neither one of us could take the others.
That way just in case neither one of us will have to ask someone if they want fries with that.

HoneyButterCup525 · Answer

I wouldn't be bothered by it. I'm too independent to care about a prenup even though I don't have a whole a lot of money in my life but I certainly don't want his. But if I know he loves me and is not the sort to leave me or cheat on me and still wants a prenup I would go for it.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I would have no problem with it. After all, it is his money, not mine. I suppose if the woman was rich that the guy would have no prob with a prenup either. Anyone that does is probably a gold digger.

Anonymous · Answer

Given the absolute shit show that is divorce law, (for men) this is the only sane choice. If a girl suddenly becomes less interested in marrying a rich guy who demands a pre nup, she's basically admitting that she planned to divorce and take half his stuff.

Staximus · Answer

You might think this is a slap in the face but you are not looking at the positive side of it. The mom is trying to make sure you're not marrying him for the money and will accept you into the family if you sign it. Also if you really love this guy and he really loves you and you don't leave each other, signing that is basically making you rich because he's going to be rich when his parents are no longer around.

AmeerX · Answer

I would do with a rich girl too. I don't want her wealth so it's not a big deal.
Do tell him you want certain small amount like 10,000 USD or something. Rest he can do whatever he wants so that he knows you just want him and don't really care about his money as his mom thinks

smilelots · Answer

wow I would move on ,, if your not sure that she or he is the one for you then its time to find who is right for you.. can't be all about money and that what that is.. let me keep my stuff money and move you out.. that not a relationship that a messed up contract if you are willing.. thats fucked up if you ask me ,, would never do it.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

If you're that bothered by it, then maybe you should call it off. Protecting your assets in case things go south is perfectly logical and shouldn't be taken as a sign of distrust in you, but in the courts. There are two very real outcomes that together could screw over your future husband, divorce and the separation of assets, which many that did nothing to earn or contribute towards would go for with extreme prejudice.

fonduegirl · Answer

I'd want to hear his thoughts. Because if he wants to draw prenup, that just means he's ready for divorce. I know I'm jumping on conclusions here but hear me out. This guy cares more about his property than the love you have.

Adam1978 · Answer

If you have a problem with it, you are the problem not the prenup. It means you get married because of his wealth. And they do the right thing rejecting you because you fail a simple test.

D_Bonez_nutt · Answer

With the way things are... you actually blame him or his parents? My question is why you don't have any of your own... what, you got nothing to take?

Anonymous · Answer

I'd be all for it. I have significant assets. And odds are any woman I'm going to me I'm going to have more than her. And given the nature of women in thier 30's and 40's (most are typically looking for an income stream) so it's a big risk without a prenuptial.

Gent207-2 · Answer

Grab a lawyer to go over it throughly make sure it protects you and your future kids. As well as any future assets you gain. Protect yourself or run for the hills

abc3643 · Answer

Say "Buh-bye!" IF HE DEMANDS A PRE-NUP, HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU, PURE AND SIMPLE. IF HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU, THEN YOU SHOULD NOT MARRY HIM.

megabamse · Answer

I'm all for it. We never TRULY know if a relationship will last. Also we don't know how "evil" or nice the breakup will be. So a it's to protect ourselves in case it happens, it's not because they believe it will happen.

richardcory · Answer

If there is a big wealth difference, its not unusual to ask. Depends on how long you have been dating. Entirely up to you whether its OK with you

Unit1 · Answer

Ahhh, a classic mixture of love and money under the disguise of trust. A volatile mixture. The truth revealing.

Does anybody these days genuinely love anymore without having set their eyes on the green paper?

sheenagwapa · Answer

i'm fine with prenup because i don't marry someone i don't truet anywat or a perdon with garbage charqcter

Anonymous · Answer

Of course he should get a prenup.

The real question is, why do you have a problem with it? Any woman who has a problem signing a prenup is just showing she is the type of woman who make prenups necessary in the first place.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I wouldn't marry anyone who didn't sign a prenup either. I've no issue signing the prenup my partner may have.

Anonymous · Answer

i'd agree with him because i'd want a prenup also

the only thing that's annoying in this situation is that his mom is telling him what to do. does he not have a mind of his own? does he even know what a prenup is?

Anonymous · Answer

I support him. Men simply cannot afford to handle things emotionally now. Thanks to women who exploit the laws. Plus it makes you shady if you are not able to decide whether to sign or not.

PraviteliNahuiValite · Answer

In order to marry, one has to own a tranly's degree in wifebandtology from the atrazine sales funded institute.

David4358 · Answer

laws really dont protect guys for a divorce so its not that uncommon. Although I have heard of guys just asking to see your reaction to weed out girls that are only in it for his $$

How did you react when asked?

Adaeva · Answer

It is a good and proper prenup and I would not hesitate to sign it.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Damn skippy. We ain't doin shiiiiiznit til a mf sign MY PRENUP 😂🤣

Lara_Croft · Answer

Tell him. Then till death do you part, you can also say no he's absurd

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's too much sacrifice on your side if he insist that you won't get nothing when you divorce him. I think you should tell him that you need compensation. so tell him like you want 200.000 if we get divorced. I don't know how rich his family is. if he is really rich tell him that you want to secure 1 million in case of something happens. I mean it's fair that he has to give you some money if you divorce. I think it's fair if you request some money.

exitseven · Answer

My wife and I talked about a prenuptial before we go married. We were both flat broke so we had a good laugh about it

blueonblack22 · Answer

Why are you do against signing it? How old is your fiancé?

WhyohWhy69 · Answer

Get a lawyer and make sure you’re represented. He’s already planning an exit.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think it is a reasonable request, it is after all his family's wealth.

LiamJHayden · Answer

We do premarital agreements quite frequently. That is a normal request in such a situation. They want to make sure that the family's assets remain in the family.

Anonymous · Answer

I would see what he really wants to do first and if he does indeed want the prenup, I would respect his wishes as it's his money or his family's money.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I won't marry without a prenup either. It's the smart thing to do.

ARC1092 · Answer

As a guy in this day and age, I would insist on a prenup. I do not want to run the risk of losing half of what I own or will own.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Prenups are just toilet paper. They don't work and he is an idiot even considering to get married.

Ascyltos · Answer

Still better than a guy who says he won't marry you without a hymen, lol.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

His family is right. It's their money and just because if you happen to divorce you shouldn't be entitled to half of their wealth you never earned.

noohair · Answer

Sounds like his mom is in charge. Does he have a job and his own money? Or is he tied to the family purse strings?

OddBeMe · Answer

Sounds transactional like the relationship will be. Move on. Unless you want the money. You could probably fight out a good deal on the prenup.

ImAlly · Answer

I understand - If I had lots of money then I might want a prenup

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

sure they dont want you to rip him off in a divorce

Sasha0426 · Answer

They think you’ll make a bad wife. Your husband thinks so, too.

Sabretooth · Answer

Upset but understanding. Hoping that in time, it can be destroyed... Then, perhaps play with the fears a little just to be an ass.

msc545 · Answer

I think it's a very good idea. Actually. If you don't want to do this then don't do it.

admles · Answer

Well, if you aren't planning on leaving him, then it shouldn't be a problem should it?

spartan55 · Answer

I guess you can sign it or marry someone else.

sheena30 · Answer

leave him and find someone else if I could

Pete671 · Answer

Really good idea,

brooke233 · Answer

You deserve someone better

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